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Started by gilligan, July 15, 2010, 06:42:44 PM

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Quote from: Morgan on July 18, 2010, 03:57:34 PM
I cry at movies ;n; and books... and sad video games! I'm a big baby.
I 'meow' and 'nyo' for my girlfriend. She forces me, but.. hahaha!

... I think that's it. My girlfriend says I wiggle. But all the guys at the art college I go to act the same way, so maybe I'm just under the qualification of 'weird art student'?

Yeah, I'm pretty sure "weird art student" about sums it up. I was an art student my freshman year of college, and even though I switched majors, I think I'm an honorary weird art student for life-- I find it very disappointing that it isn't commonplace for students of all genders at my new college to hug everyone they know, meow (or make various other animal noises), and flutter their hands... but they didn't do the hand thing until I got there. That one is entirely my fault (but spread like wildfire there, and hasn't passed on to a single student at my new college, which I've now been at for a year... so taht's gotta say something about art students).

Weird art students for the win. (o__o)d
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elvistears

I am seriously glad I'm an art student.  I feel much less restricted.  Sometimes I even feel more masculine than half the cis guys at school.
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Alessandro

I like football, cars and scooters, fishing and gay porn.   On the flipside I also like style and have a 200+ collection of My Little Ponies.  Also have a fair few gender-neutral interests like TV, writing, working out and long distance running.  I find this thread really interesting, especially seeing other writers of gay erotica/'yaoi'.  I don't think having stereotypically feminine interests is something to be ashamed of...but I don't tell everyone about the My Little Ponies under my bed  :D
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ZukieThePharaoh

Lmao, I am actually super feminine, despite how I look.
Lady Gaga is like, my idol, I have a large collection of yaoi, I hate spiders. With a passion...
Yeah. xD
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~Jay~

Ah doll meets yes I've been to many and its true most of the people that have these dolls do have back storys and personalitys (mine included) for them and as for price I do have a few that are worth big money like the doll in the first photo he is a Dollshe SA Saint with the old body type which they no longer make and another I have is a Soom Beryl that has hooves and horns which was only on sale for one month she is now worth prob over $1000 (she is pretty much a full set) although she didn't cost me that when I bought her.
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Turtle

I've spent most of my life trying not to be defined by gender stereotypes. I don't want to start now. If I do something, it's to do with me liking that thing, not whether it's a 'girl' thing or a 'boy' thing. If realising I'm transgendered after all these years has done one thing, it's surely to quit sticking gender labels on behaviour.
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Everyone

Quote from: ~Jay~ on July 19, 2010, 02:48:09 AM
Ah doll meets yes I've been to many and its true most of the people that have these dolls do have back storys and personalitys (mine included) for them and as for price I do have a few that are worth big money like the doll in the first photo he is a Dollshe SA Saint with the old body type which they no longer make and another I have is a Soom Beryl that has hooves and horns which was only on sale for one month she is now worth prob over $1000 (she is pretty much a full set) although she didn't cost me that when I bought her.

you must have a lot of money to be able to have so many of those dolls. 0_0 I can't even afford one of them
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Vancha

Well, all my life I've just been me.  I wear clothes because I see them on men and think that it's a look that suits me, or because I spent a lot of time in my father's closet as a kid and just inherited most of his fashion sense, so in that sense, I've definitely been influenced.  I'm not highly into fashion, but because my father is a bit prissy, I've come to appreciate the tapered dress shirts and suit coats that he wears so often.

Usually, though, I develop my sense of self on my own.  I have an image in my mind of what I am supposed to look like that I don't believe has ever been based on stereotypes, but instead a sort of "inner sense".  I probably developed this inner sense when I was about 10 years old; before that, I just wore whatever I was offered, but envied the men in my life. 

Behaviorally, I've never displayed "forced masculinity", and don't really understand what constitutes "masculinity" in myself aside from identification with other men, having a very obvious male identity, and seeing myself in the male role in society.  I don't spit or act like a buffoon, but women are a different species to me.  It's likely that because I was raised in a very liberal environment that I am not stereotypical one way or another.  I like it that way.

I like cooking, and I do like slash.  Or yaoi.  Or whatever you want to call it.  That's because a lot of my life, I've identified as a gay man, and that was one way to live vicariously through certain characters.  I'm also a writer.  I also love music.  I've been playing piano for most of my life, as it is a natural talent and something I generally love to do.  I also love animals -- primarily, birds -- and I'm interested in the sciences, particularly biology.  I am interested in medicine, in anatomy, in infectious diseases, to a lesser extent pharmaceuticals.  Drugs are interesting.  I've got a very knowledge-oriented existence.  In my spare time, I like to cook, watch movies, cycle and spend time outdoors with my feathered kids.  I would say I'm pretty much not gendered at all in my interests, but if I do like anything feminine, I do not repress it by any means.  There's quite a massive difference between being feminine and being female.
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~Jay~

Quote from: ZomZom on July 19, 2010, 02:23:16 PM
you must have a lot of money to be able to have so many of those dolls. 0_0 I can't even afford one of them

I used to have a draw full of steal bonned corsets (a few real leather ones) that I'd bought over the years I sold them on ebay that helped to buy them.
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KaciKip

Quote from: ~Jay~ on July 17, 2010, 11:50:34 AM
I've said before I collect bjd's (ball jointed dolls) and I do love shopping but apart from that I think thats about it?

I collect those too! C: Mine are my pride and joy. Mine is like my child. o_O

At the risk of sounding like one of those creepy doll owners that Kvall spoke about, they honestly do help me therapeutically. Ever since I was a child, I've had strong "mothering" instincts I guess you could call them. Basically I have this overwhelming need to take care of and protect people or things, and if I can't, I feel as if I've lost my life's purpose and I might as well go crawl in a hole and die. ._.

So I guess that's some insight on the more feminine side of me. Though I don't really think of it as a feminine thing. I just think of it as a personality quirk.

But uh, to a lesser degree I like make up and fashion. I see them as a form of art and self-expression. So when I say make up, I mean a lot more than what people would typically go out to the movies in. I love the type of make up and fashion that literately turns someone into a walking piece of art work. You know? :D Though for the record, I like the act of applying make up. Actually wearing it? No thanks.

Hmm, other than that I really have no idea. I don't really categorize the things I like into feminine things and masculine things. They're just me things. >.> I like the things I like, regardless of how boyish or girly they are. I don't think I'm any less of a man because I like dolls and artsy fashion make up. Maybe I'm not the most masculine one, but I'm still a boy, and I'm okay with that.
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Vin

I don't really have many feminine traits, though I do collect ball jointed dolls too. I like shopping too, but not like "OMG SHOPPING!" (well, not all the time....there have been moments - damn you Next Sale!).


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Byren

Haha...yeah, a few!  And they were cause for a lot of self-doubt for a while, and are still an issue limiting my mother's understanding. I usually just tell people I'm an artist and therefore quirky.

I have a thing for kittens and cats. I think they are the most awesome animals on the planet.
I also like costuming...halloween costumes, ren faire, cosplay...oh yeah. (Mum just calls it 'sewing' though...hehe)
And...the clincher...I'm attracted to men. I don't consider myself truly gay as I have zero desire for any kind of sexual relationship with anybody regardless of gender, but I do like to oggle.  ;)

Other than that, my interests are pretty masculine or neutral.


I don't think interests are a gender issue at all, really. Some just have stereotypes that I believe are becoming less so as years go by. Women used to be pigeonholed as cooks, nurses, and homemakers...and now look at the world! I've known many guys who cooked better than any of the women I know! I also know a guy who rides a motorcycle and crochets, too.

When I was little I used to be really confused by the things that interested me versus my peers. I liked playing with hotwheels, toy guns, dinosaurs, and action figures while my friends had dollhouses. My family tried to get me interested in more 'girly' things but it never interested me. I finally decided it didn't matter, and went with what I liked, and my parents obliged.


*cough* I have a BJD too...haven't worked on him in years, but I'm determined to paint him myself and make him awesome!
"I am imagination. I can see what the eyes cannot see. I can hear what the ears cannot hear. I can feel what the heart cannot feel."
Peter Nivio Zarlenga
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Papillon

I don't gender-type my interests.  I had far too much of that thrust on me as a child ("But you don't want that.  It's a boy's toy").  It has kind of put me off it.

But, going slightly OT for a minute, I also find my BJDs to be therapeutic, as you say, KaciKip.  I hadn't intended them to be that way, but I somehow seem to have created one that represents my long-time, ideal, male alter ego (and he is my core doll) and a character who is a castrato and whose soul bleeds for not being a "complete man".  When I was attempting to reconcile myself to my female lot, I also created a femme fatale female doll who I commissioned clothes for that would mirror my own wardrobe of fetwear.  Creating them and writing stories about them (yes, more yaoi) has been enlightening and has almost certainly helped me on my way.

Anyway, as you were.
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Kohitsu

I think a lot of my interests are fairly androgynous in nature, and I don't have many interests that are 'male/female' oriented. I love drawing, making movies, exercising (jogging, weight lifting, riding my bike), writing stories, etc. I'm not a fan of sports nor do I like overtly girly things like wearing make up or dresses or um... whatever other things girls enjoy ^^;.
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Teknoir

I suppose I have a few traits that are a little... off.

When young women compliment me, I tend to lose my conversational stride (regardless of the fact I don't play for that team) :laugh:.

Today I picked up some anti-acne stuff at the supermarket, 'cause I'm noticing the T is starting to cause a few issues in the skin department.

Sometimes I clip my nails - they look too girlie if I don't. I put some goop in my hair every morning so it sits correctly. I enjoy a good chai tea. I don't like exercise. I tend to be rather liberal, and enjoy different opinions and cultures.

I have pet goldfish I'm rather fond of, and spoil (though that is the extent of my "nurturing").

That said - I also like cars, computers, trains, offbeat humor, beer, the internet, joking misogyny, and not wearing pants ;).

Spiders and snakes are awesome.

And women completely baffle me :laugh:
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elvistears

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DRAIN

Quote from: Teknoir on July 25, 2010, 07:04:12 AM
I suppose I have a few traits that are a little... off.

When young women compliment me, I tend to lose my conversational stride (regardless of the fact I don't play for that team) :laugh:.

Today I picked up some anti-acne stuff at the supermarket, 'cause I'm noticing the T is starting to cause a few issues in the skin department.

Sometimes I clip my nails - they look too girlie if I don't. I put some goop in my hair every morning so it sits correctly. I enjoy a good chai tea. I don't like exercise. I tend to be rather liberal, and enjoy different opinions and cultures.

I have pet goldfish I'm rather fond of, and spoil (though that is the extent of my "nurturing").

That said - I also like cars, computers, trains, offbeat humor, beer, the internet, joking misogyny, and not wearing pants ;).

Spiders and snakes are awesome.

And women completely baffle me :laugh:

TBH all of this stuff sounds like pretty generic young college age liberal guy stuff to me :P
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kyril

Quote from: Teknoir on July 25, 2010, 07:04:12 AM
Sometimes I clip my nails - they look too girlie if I don't. I put some goop in my hair every morning so it sits correctly.
Not sure how clipping nails is feminine - what do you think masculine guys do? Gnaw them off? :)

And anyone who calls their hair product "some goop" is...well, not feminine. LOL.


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