I know I've already posted some other stuff on the forum but I figured I'd introduce myself. My name is Alexander. I'm not quite old enough to drink yet and have already dealt with things that I pray others don't have to go through. I'm on here because I needed someone to listen who wasn't in the middle of it all. I wanted to meet other trans guys and trans gals and others. I am lucky enough to live in a city with a trans group every Tuesday though   I was in a 5 year relationship with a girl I would've given my life for and she spent most of it cheating on me. When she was faithful she beat the **** out of me. I wish there were a better way to word that but I cant think of one. Hiding bruises and such became a frequent habit. I left her and she came back on medication saying she had changed. Well soon after I found out she was 7 months pregnant. She started living with me and my mother. I was there for "my" daughter Isabella's birth. My ex did not take care of her, I did. I woke up every time she needed me, I changed every diaper, I fed her all on my own with some help from my mother. The my ex began to pull away. At 7 months old she left me. Had been married and cheating on me since she had come back. She took my daughter, she took my clothes and anything else she could take. Its been 4 months since she left and I've found my friends don't understand a lot of my trans things and my old relationship things but the worse is trying to deal with loosing my Isabella. Wow... sorry for sounding like a sob story, that is the short version. I just wanted to say thanks, already I have been helped with a question and have learned a lot from reading various posts.

DUDE! that was a real bit.. i mean beyond obnoxious awful person. but i think it's a good thing in a way that you had such a rough experience and got out in one piece , and had experience that not a lot of people have , and as they say ,what doesn't kill me makes me stronger , so it's a sure thing that you are now . i'm so sorry though for isabella , but i'd try to look at it in terms of what life gave me , not what like took away. you got to spend a considerable amount of time with a kid that you love , not a lot of people get to do that at such young age , some even don't get that at all for their whole life even if they had kids
i guess what am trying to say is,keep looking for the positive sides in everything and that will always make you stronger
sorry though , and good luck

Quote from: eNTROPY on July 24, 2010, 02:28:18 AM
DUDE! that was a real bit.. i mean beyond obnoxious awful person. but i think it's a good thing in a way that you had such a rough experience and got out in one piece , and had experience that not a lot of people have , and as they say ,what doesn't kill me makes me stronger , so it's a sure thing that you are now . i'm so sorry though for isabella , but i'd try to look at it in terms of what life gave me , not what like took away. you got to spend a considerable amount of time with a kid that you love , not a lot of people get to do that at such young age , some even don't get that at all for their whole life even if they had kids
i guess what am trying to say is,keep looking for the positive sides in everything and that will always make you stronger
sorry though , and good luck

I saw her as that first statement at first totally but I agree it has made me stronger and showed me who my real friends and family are. thanks

Alex:

Wow, what an intense story.  Sorry you had to go through all of that.  You've got friends here.  Lots of good information here too.  Visit us often and get involved when you want to.  Welcome.

   Lacey Lynne

Hi Alexander,

Welcome to our little family. Over 5400 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother.

And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions
  
• Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar)
  

I am sorry you had to go through all of that and losing Isabella.  I doubt there is much you can do there, but maybe a lawyer could help.

Hugs and Love,
Janet

Thanks for the welcomes

Quote from: LaceyLynne on July 28, 2010, 11:23:36 PM
Alex:

Wow, what an intense story.  Sorry you had to go through all of that.  You've got friends here.  Lots of good information here too.  Visit us often and get involved when you want to.  Welcome.

   Lacey Lynne

I've been checking through posts everyday hoping that I can help with my experiences in some way thanks for the welcome I'm glad I found the site

Quote from: Janet Lynn on July 28, 2010, 11:34:11 PM
Hi Alexander,

Welcome to our little family. Over 5400 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother.

And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions
  
• Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar)
  

I am sorry you had to go through all of that and losing Isabella.  I doubt there is much you can do there, but maybe a lawyer could help.

Hugs and Love,
Janet

Thanks Janet I did threaten with a lawyer at one point but she threatened to out me as trans to the judge if I did. My state laws are against gay adoption and I have not yet had surgery so I knew I could not attempt an adoption as a straight male. Hopefully one day those laws will change. I saw pictures of Isabella yesterday smiling and happy so I'm okay knowing that she is alright. I'm very glad I found this site