I say NEITHER.
We're not trying to be a subgroup like a chess club. We're trying to seamlessly blend back in and forget all this TSism stuff. At least I am. I have no agenda or values I'm imposing on anyone. And if I can pull off a seamless transiiton, I want to put all this behind me and not think about it anymore. I know I will of course, there will always be artifacts from it, but... as best I can, fix it, and move on.
I'm still smarting from a friend of mine insisting that I'm part of some deviant, promiscuous, drug-using "culture" just because I'm TS. I mean... where are they? I get how gays and certain sexual groups (BDSM, etc.) have cultures, as they DO something together. But TSs? What are we gonna do enmasse? Sure, we share information and support, but it's not the same thing. It's not a "culture" with shared mannerisms and behaviours.