Well the other day I went to the ER for some stomach pain (thankfully it was nothing serious) and never took my wristband off. Well, today my grandmother told me to take it off, and I asked her how is it hurting her (I was going to take it off later in the night anyway) and then she got angry with my remark, even though I wasn't trying to be rude, and it all ended after some heated discussion about the wristband with her saying "You're going to start acting like a boy". She does not know about me being trans. I was so angry I just wanted to turn around and tell her right there, but knew the time wasn't right. Instead, I went and hid underneath the covers and cried. It hurt to be told to act like a guy. I don't even understand what a wristband has to do with gender roles anyway.

I just needed to get that off my chest.

Hugs Honey,

G'ma is and will always be wrong.

Be you . (That by the way is a full stop).

Cindy

I complety agree with Cindy, you just need to be who you are end of subject. But yea either gender can wear wristbands heh

It seems odd to me that your grandmother thinks there is a connection between putting off one's wristband and male/female behavior. I think she took this rather bad example to tell you something she observed about you which must have made her puzzle about you. Of course she hurt you with her comment, but she does not know you're trans so she couldn't necessarily know that she hurt you.

There's a good chance she being angered about you not taking off the wristband has to do with you disobeying her.  She comes from an era when you obey your elders, without question.

The boy comment was most likely the result of her being mad at you about your disobedience then she blurted out something that bothers her and that she felt would get your attention.  No non-TG boy wants to be told that.  So it could have been her trying to get you mad.  Not a very adult thing to do.

*hugs*

You're grandma makes about as much sense as mine does. @.@; The only thing I can figure is she didn't see why you went to the ER my grandma has this weird thing about my brother or anyone else going to the ER because apparently you know being smart enough not to just suffer when you don't know what's going on isn't masculine. Which I think is dumb her "Oh you don't need a doctor! Be a man." speech to my brother when he was younger just about killed him he had appendicitis and couldn't even get out of bed and he only got to the hospital after his appendix exploded. -_- Now of course I get all the fun speeches about how I need to act like more of a lady. I swear all I hear from her anymore is "Girls don't do that." or "You're not a boy." etc. She doesn't know about my transition either which is probably good.

I'm guessing it's something like that since you said she doesn't know about your transition, but either way it's not really her business. :/ You are who you are. Which is a woman whether she likes it or not.