Quote from: Arch on August 25, 2010, 12:18:49 AM
My father always backed my mother against me when I was a teenager, but it never came down to such extremes. They never told me to move out.

MANY people will choose a spouse over a child.

Jacob, this sounds serious and might not just blow over. Perhaps you should start looking into emergency options, backup plans, just in case. I don't remember--are you in therapy? Can you talk to your mom at all?

Nope still no therapy, as for the second question yes I can talk to my mom - I don't see what you are getting at though? :s .
I'm going to my bio dad's house for a few days though to get away from this and in hope that all of the tension will at least die down a little. I'm going to tell him about what's going on too.

Quote from: Jacob on August 25, 2010, 12:33:13 AM
Nope still no therapy, as for the second question yes I can talk to my mom - I don't see what you are getting at though? :s .
I'm going to my bio dad's house for a few days though to get away from this and in hope that all of the tension will at least die down a little. I'm going to tell him about what's going on too.

Jacob, I'm worried that even if you are on good terms with your mother, she will be swayed by your stepfather and you'll actually be asked to move out. I'm concerned that if you don't have any kind of therapist to mediate these tensions, they might escalate. I don't want to be an alarmist, but it happens. So it's good to have a backup plan, somewhere to go, other people you can count on. That's all.

Jacob, I kind of know where you're coming from. One of my step dads said some pretty harsh things to me when I started transition. I was staying in my room a lot from dysphoria  and I was being accused of not helping around the house. I know it really does not help you to overcome depression when there is all this family tension. It made me a lot worse and is the #1 reason I moved away, to my other dads. Hopefully, your bio father is more accepting or will try to understand. And about the finances, I'm not sure if the laws are the same where you live but my mother payed an allowance when I moved out.

With me, the best way to relive the tension was to defy the accusations as best I could, do more chores and pretend to be cheerful around step dad. Its hard being in school, maybe you could sit by them when doing homework ect so to them It feels like you are working hard. Good luck telling your bio dad what is going on.   

my commnt might be useless here and sorry if it will be offensive to anyone. here in my country we have a saying that is "if you need something from a dog , call him master until you get it"
i know it's hard but bare with them so you get to stay at least till collage. your mother stance is just obscene , i dont even wanna call her 'a mother' and i know there might be some kind of pressure by that stupid trash step-dad on her but still ,your her kid.but situations like this however shows people for who they really are ,  she will need you later in life and when the at time comes it's up to you to treat her likewise or be the better person.
meanwhile , just call the animal master , and as others suggested ,have a back up plan , and remember there's always an option whatever happens there's always a solution . it's just that some options are easier than others thats all
your still so young and have your life ahead of you , learn from these situations , and sooner or later it will be over
my heart is with you and i really hope this all turns into a memory in your successful future life

Quote from: Jacob on August 24, 2010, 10:55:39 AM
Nothing. She said absolutely nothing. Idk what it is, I think she's scared of losing him or something because a while ago she said that I am going  to jeopardize their marriage if I continue acting the way I do (male I guess). Which is a little f***ed up imo, I mean I'd rather lose my spouse than my child.


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Any mother that would put her stud in front of her own child doesnt deserve to be a mom.  Nuff said.  I would take a bullet for my child (if i had one) and if anyone threatened that relationship they would be gone faster then you can blink.  Your mom seems to have more issues then you.

Quote from: Jacob on August 25, 2010, 12:33:13 AMI'm going to my bio dad's house for a few days though to get away from this and in hope that all of the tension will at least die down a little. I'm going to tell him about what's going on too.

Good.  And I agree with Arch.  It would be best to have a backup plan in case things get worse.