I'm not even reading the thread, but I'm going to reply. Bad Star XD
Anyway, I haven't had the problem, and not sure I will. I'm rather withdrawn, sexually. But in my view, I think that a sexual partner has a right to know certain things. And this sucks to say, I hate saying it, but I have to consider the world here: One of those things is if they person they're about to have intercourse with was once a different gender than what they present as. If they find out, at all, it can be a deeply troubling experience for them. It's not something I'd want to expose anyone to, and it's honestly not fair to them.
Think about it for a moment, though. Would you want to have sex, which is, in my view, the highest declaration of love you can give to a person, short of marriage (and I do think these two should go hand in hand, but not forcing anyone), and these just short of dying for a person, with someone who doesn't accept you for who you are? I can hear it now. "But who I am is a (gender) now. (sex) is in the past"
Please understand. I'm not validating this. Man, woman, in-between, what you were born as is a part of you. Discarding it is as bad as never pursuing your true gender. So yes, you will lose out on some sex. Yes, you will lose some people close to you. But gold can only be tempered through fire, and what emerges from the hottest flame is the purest gold.