If I do have sex...WHEN I do have sex...there is only anal penetration, my shirt never comes off, my pants don't come off, and if you stick your dick in my butt my underwear is only coming down enough for you to stick it in there, if you touch my junk, I might freak out, etc....and I hate having to explain rules before sex. So it doesn't happen, although I just had the chance to have sex with a gay man and all that happened was I sucked and jerked his penis. He was afraid to touch me, cause he didn't want to make me uncomfortable. Afterwards, I felt like crap because I couldn't enjoy anything, cause I knew I couldn't have *real* gay man sex.

@zombiesarepeaceful
Maybe special underwear might help in your case, which covers the front hole but not the back hole. So it's easier for the partner not to touch you in the wrong place.

@insideontheoutside
I get what you mean with your not really female body part. Since my clit grew on T, I'm not dysphoric at all about it any more. Hooray. I hope this will work for the other posters as well if they get on T.

Quote from: zombiesarepeaceful on October 12, 2010, 02:38:38 AM
If I do have sex...WHEN I do have sex...there is only anal penetration, my shirt never comes off, my pants don't come off, and if you stick your dick in my butt my underwear is only coming down enough for you to stick it in there, if you touch my junk, I might freak out, etc....and I hate having to explain rules before sex. So it doesn't happen, although I just had the chance to have sex with a gay man and all that happened was I sucked and jerked his penis. He was afraid to touch me, cause he didn't want to make me uncomfortable. Afterwards, I felt like crap because I couldn't enjoy anything, cause I knew I couldn't have *real* gay man sex.

Yeah that all applies to me too.  But I find I always enjoy it regardless, even if I can't 'enjoy' it as much as another gay man might.  I am kinda used to the rules before sex type thing though, so that doesn't bother me so much.

Special underwear? O.o. I don't think so....I just would be like listen here...nothing goes there, cause it doesn't exist. It makes me dysphoric to even talk about it....and if someone refers to my junk as anything other than male...oh man...they better watch out.

Yes.  That is the reason I am alone, and will probably stay that way.

Squirrel is looking good and happy.

I normally feel better after sex. It's a huge stress reliever, it brings me and my girlfriend (Who is also trans) closer together, and it's down right enjoyable! But, the difference is, I don't have a lot of physically related gender dysphoria. I've come to terms with the fact that my body is mine, it works, and I'm not disabled. Sure, right now, I'm sexy in a female way and not a male way, but, I'm content with the fact that that will change eventually. I do have my occasional hiccups, where I start to feel crappy and we stop or whatever, but it's rare.

Quote from: Fencesitter on October 12, 2010, 03:18:16 AM
@insideontheoutside
I get what you mean with your not really female body part. Since my clit grew on T, I'm not dysphoric at all about it any more. Hooray. I hope this will work for the other posters as well if they get on T.

Yeah I think a lot of guys once they grow a little probably feel better and less dysphoric.

Quote from: insideontheoutside on October 11, 2010, 08:41:26 PM
Ok - do you get to do it as male? Or does she like "girly sex" (for lack of a better term) ... cause that can make a big deal of difference. If you're not a gay guy, then any sort of penetrative sex or specifically concentrating on girl parts and treating them like girl parts might do it. I've never had "normal" looking girl parts so it's hard to guess in that arena. I would imagine that almost everyone has figured out on their own what their turn ons are - so when you get with a partner you have to coordinate with them and their turn ons to make the magic happen. If something is "off" I can totally see it having a delayed effect.

Assume perhaps you were talking to me about the sex. Yeah.. pretty much do it as any other hetero couple? Other then the fact that I have my ->-bleeped-<- on? I got my 'penis'.. it goes in a vagina. That's what it does. It makes me happy.

Quote from: Tad on October 12, 2010, 04:18:48 PMOther then the fact that I have my ->-bleeped-<- on?

Your WHAT? 

Quote from: Fencesitter on October 12, 2010, 04:24:24 PM
Your WHAT? 

OMG... SHIRT SHIRT SHIRT!

Okay, that's better. 

yeah.. I'm not into foecal matter.. like some people are. o_O

I guess I'm lucky.  I pretty much don't have issues with sex.  I'm always the pitcher, never the catcher, but that most definitely doesn't bother my wife.  Clothes on or off, it just depends on the day.  Yea, some days there's no way my shirt is coming off, other days, I really don't care.  I actually just ordered my first packer (to make an STP with) and my first dual purpose packer.  Can't WAIT.   haha.

I actually don't have much of a problem with it. I mean, I keep my shirt on but I like sex too much to get upset during or after it. I just sleep. o.o

I used to in the beginning with my ex but then just like most of the guys I explained the rules and she asked what I was alright with. I'm cool as long as my junk isn't referred to in a way that has to make me think about being trans. (Simply put I don't have a vagina so it better not be called that) when that happened I would be horribly dysphoric. It'd be all I would think about during and after. In my case it also got better the longer I was with my ex due to trusting her more.

zombie, if you don't want to do sex don't do it!  No guy has ever died from lack of sex.  I've heard only female ferrets do that.

enjoy being with your guy until he feels his dick is going to explode then leave him and tell him to masturbate and clean up while you go make coffee or do it for him.

HAHAHA.  Only unspayed female ferrets.  Just thought I'd clarify.  I've had several females, and since you can only get them in NY if they're spayed and descented, mine don't need a boy.