What's it like using the guys bathroom? I've used the one toilet room thing one time while working out but I mean the public bathroom where more than one person goes in. What's the bathroom laws? And what do you do to fit in? I don't want to go into the bathroom and some guy say "WTF are you doing in here?" that would be a nightmare.

It's like using the women's, but it's full of men and there are urinals. Seriously, that's it.
Men don't pay the slightest bit of attention in the toilets, so you're probably safe going in there.

If you don't look insanely feminine no body's going to notice you at all. Guys go into the bathrooms to piss, not scrutinize other men.

You go in, you shut the door, you piss, you wash your hands, you leave. You keep your eyes on the wall, floor, toilet, or sink; ignore the other guys in there.

There's nothing more complicated unless you decide to use your STP at the urinals. I'd recommend getting used to using the men's room first before you try that, especially if you think you might be piss-shy.

Quote from: kyril on October 14, 2010, 04:19:15 AM
You go in, you shut the door, you piss, you wash your hands, you leave. You keep your eyes on the wall, floor, toilet, or sink; ignore the other guys in there.

Yep, this is my routine.  I always use the mens in public places unless there is a non gendered toilet like a disabled.  I get stared at/laughed at more in the womens, probably because groups of girls like to stand around in there and stare at people (which is probably worse in a school!) whereas in the men's nobody looks at each other.

Yup I walk in, up to the urinal, pee wash my hands and leave. Unless you're obviously a female, guys don't care who's in there.

Honestly, I think i'd expect the "wtf are you doing in here" look, in the women's restroom

As the guys said here, it's simple, you go in, do your biz, and out you go. Men don't look at each other in the bathroom, unless they are drunk and there is a queue, in which case they engage in meaningless conversation. So, as long as you avoid crowded bars in the middle of the night you'll be fine.

Ironically I am having the exact same problem that you fear, getting asked wtf I'm doing in the gents. But going from your pic you seem to pass pretty well. Good luck!

It's generally so much better than having to use the ladies room. No one tries to talk to you, you don't have sinks/mirrors taken up by people doing make-up/hair for 10 minutes at a time, generally there aren't two or three people blabbing away incessantly (which makes me VERY pee-shy). Ugh I hated using the women's restroom, it's so great to be out of that mess now.

Using the men's room is stressful at first, especially if it's a crowded one. But it really quickly just becomes an in and out thing. Once you experience the fact that no one in there gives a crap about your crap, it's a walk in the park. I find it a lot less stressful than the women's bathroom, especially when I started trying to pass. I got yelled at once 0_0 After that, it was like.. never again lol

Quote from: niamh on October 14, 2010, 08:46:25 AM
As the guys said here, it's simple, you go in, do your biz, and out you go. Men don't look at each other in the bathroom, unless they are drunk and there is a queue, in which case they engage in meaningless conversation. So, as long as you avoid crowded bars in the middle of the night you'll be fine.

Ironically I am having the exact same problem that you fear, getting asked wtf I'm doing in the gents. But going from your pic you seem to pass pretty well. Good luck!

When I walk into the girls room, no one says anything but they give me this "OMG BOY!!" *scream* look. lol. This old woman gave me this look like "Ummm, wrong bathroom, get out" but I do pass 99% of the time. When I'm at the doctor all of them call me he until my mom has no choice but to say she and then they say she.

I get tense when people are talking or telling me to hurry up and even if I have a full bladder, I can't go at all. So I'm afraid I'll walk in and go in the stall and not be able to pee because I'm nervous. And there is probably going to be at least one guy who says "You're in the wrong bathroom" or worse, I run into a guy I know. At school I hate using the girls bathroom so what should I do to get them to either use a unisex bathroom or the office bathroom?

Quote from: Kentrie on October 14, 2010, 01:10:52 PM
I get tense when people are talking or telling me to hurry up and even if I have a full bladder, I can't go at all. So I'm afraid I'll walk in and go in the stall and not be able to pee because I'm nervous. And there is probably going to be at least one guy who says "You're in the wrong bathroom" or worse, I run into a guy I know. At school I hate using the girls bathroom so what should I do to get them to either use a unisex bathroom or the office bathroom?

Isn't there a wheel-chair access bathroom? It's common here in Europe but I don't know about where you are.

Kentrie - start by trying to use the men's somewhere where you don't know anyone and there won't be any time pressure. Like, next time you go to the mall or a fast food place or wherever there are public restrooms and you know you don't have to be anywhere anytime soon. Go in a stall and piss. Don't leave until you do. Do that a couple times and you'll realize that nothing's going to happen and you'll be able to relax.

Kyril- I know it wasn't directed at me, but thanks for that advice.  I've been wondering what to do about the bathroom situation, and that actually helped me a bit. 

What Kyril said, and start always using the men's room in places where the rest rooms are single-occupancy, if you're not doing this already.  Using the men's room has a lot of practical advantages such as shorter lines, and people minding their own business.  You might find it to be less stressful than using the women's bathroom.

You could also try unisex bathroom until you're more comfortable, too.  Its what I plan on doing--though that's partially because I find male bathrooms disgusting (I've been in my fair share of them and each time makes me say, "ewww.....this place needs a good cleaning").

I haven't started using the mens room yet. I'm still saving up for an STP/packer. But every single time I go into the women's and wash my hands while girls are in there, they ALWAYS look at me like, "WTF??!!!" So, for now, in public, the bathrooms are usually empty, so it isn't a problem. At school, I wait for class to start so there isn't anyone in there, or I wait for everyone else to leave the bathroom before I exit the stall =/

When I go back to day school, most of the Freshman think I'm a guy and I want them to keep thinking that way as long as possible and if they see me in the girls room their going to either make fun of me, give me weird looks, run and tell a teacher there's a boy in the girls room or make a big deal of it and tell everyone and I've already got the jocks and other kids to stop making fun of me, some of them actually talk to me nicely and I don't want that messed up. It's frustrating because I can pull myself out of most of my depression and I think "Well, I'm a guy" and get happy and confident and as soon as I go to school, they throw me into an all girls class (They seperate the girls and boys at night school) and they call us "Young lady's" and "Girls" and I have a bladder problem so I have to go as much as I can and I'm only allowed to use the girls room (not the unisex or office bathroom) and when I'm in a girls only class, I feel like I shouldn't be in there and I get more depressed.

Ugh, I'm sorry, I could never tolerate being in a girl's only class. I quit every sport I played as soon as I aged out of the coed leagues (or the leagues that would let me play on the boys' teams). Even with people knowing me as female, I still couldn't tolerate being in an all-girls anything. Can't imagine how I would've felt if I'd already socially transitioned...think I'd likely have flat refused to go to school. (It's a good thing you're not doing that)

How soon can you go back to the day school where they know you as male?

Quote from: kyril on October 14, 2010, 10:18:24 PM
Ugh, I'm sorry, I could never tolerate being in a girl's only class. I quit every sport I played as soon as I aged out of the coed leagues (or the leagues that would let me play on the boys' teams). Even with people knowing me as female, I still couldn't tolerate being in an all-girls anything. Can't imagine how I would've felt if I'd already socially transitioned...think I'd likely have flat refused to go to school. (It's a good thing you're not doing that)

How soon can you go back to the day school where they know you as male?

Well most of the Freshman know me as male because they don't actually KNOW me but some of the Freshman do know I'm female. The rest of the school just thinks I'm a lesbian, except for my friends who know I'm Trans but still refers to me as a girl.
All of my teachers have recomended that I go back to day school so I'll go to my review on October 21st and I should be back in day school on October 27th.