Hello Brothas and Sistas!

Sorry I was kind of MIA for a little bit but i'm glad to start getting back in the loop

Recently I was violently thrown out of my house by of all people my greatest supporter, my mother.
it was a pretty sharp blow to my heart but as of now i'm living with my aunt, who even though has pretty big issues of her own, has once again gone above and beyond to be there for me. she may not understand much about my situation but she has always been someone i can count on

I'm scared for whats to come as i'm a Dependant on my parents insurance which has greatly helped among many things pay for hormones, therapy, and my future surgery, but now that i am not even talking to my parents due to there sudden change of heart in supporting my "Lifestyle" i have no clue whats going to happen.

But These things happen. Life is unexpected. and all we can do is take care of ourselves in whatever way we can.

I want to stress my gratitude to the individuals i have become close friends with on this website
you've really helped me to look forward and to take control of the situation and looking at it as just another fresh start and not a great loss
For now I'm going to do what i do best and hold my head as high as I can and not think foremostly of what I've lost but all that i have gained and accomplished

My only wish is that You all will do the same.
Hold your heads High, and keep your hearts open to one another

With love
Jocelyn XOX

Hi Joselyn,

I am new here, so possibly we are in the same boat.

I wish that I did not understand what you are going through, honestly, but I do.  I am way older than you, but I have family members that do not support my "lifestyle," as you phrased it, which poses huge issues.

It is hard to know how to advise you, as you said it best.  We should all take care of ourselves, hold our heads up high, and do the best that we can.  I would add that we should set a good example and not be vindictive.

Your mom was probably talked to by someone else, who was against you and swayed her opinion.  If I were to read between the lines, that seems more than likely what happened.  All you can do is be yourself, tell your mom that you love her, but that you are a girl and that you are not having any "lifestyle" changes.  You are being yourself.  You can tell her that she did not lose a son, as she never had one.  She had a daughter.

It is good that you have a loving aunt.  Some people have only themselves.

Best of luck with insurance.

Sarah.

Jocelyn!!!!!!! Oh noooo. I'm sorry to hear things have gone badly for you. *hugs*, if you need to talk, send me a pm. It's so cool you're aunt is helping you.

I'm speechless, how awful honey.

I can hear the strength of your own conviction. You are one strong lady JoC, don't forget that.

Big Hugs!!!

I too am so very sorry to hear of these new porblems.

If you stand your ground, eventually you will win through. I can't say your mom will change in any way, but you will.

From my own experience, if you back down, you will never win. You will spend the rest of your life in regret, they will have a moral vitory over you and will never respect you.

Their lack of respect for you will become a lack of respect for yourself. Eventually you will build up resentment inside, resentment of yourself, of them, or others. That will eat away at you.

I'm pleased to say, I'm slowly getting my life back, though it's taken many years, all because of a single, stupid, cowardly decision of mine.

If you think about it, what you are being asked to do is give up your life, and yourself in exchange for baubles.

You're better than that.

Thinking back, I would have been better going on the game than selling my soul. However terrible that sounds.

Quote from: spacial on November 20, 2010, 06:30:12 AM
I too am so very sorry to hear of these new porblems.

If you stand your ground, eventually you will win through. I can't say your mom will change in any way, but you will.

From my own experience, if you back down, you will never win. You will spend the rest of your life in regret, they will have a moral vitory over you and will never respect you.

Their lack of respect for you will become a lack of respect for yourself. Eventually you will build up resentment inside, resentment of yourself, of them, or others. That will eat away at you.

I'm pleased to say, I'm slowly getting my life back, though it's taken many years, all because of a single, stupid, cowardly decision of mine.

If you think about it, what you are being asked to do is give up your life, and yourself in exchange for baubles.

You're better than that.

Thinking back, I would have been better going on the game than selling my soul. However terrible that sounds.

I Agree Completely
I'm glad to hear that things are slowly getting better Spacial.
Time heals all. It may not seem that way, but that just means there is still time to be endured.
We've Made it This Far.
Giving in would just mean everything I've fought through thus far would have been a waste :/

Quote from: Nicky on November 20, 2010, 12:39:03 AM
I'm speechless, how awful honey.

Thank you ms nicky
I just have to remind myself that every now and then
xoxoxox

Oh I'm sorry to hear that hon it astounds me how crappy people can be. I hope things get better for you and that your mother will eventually overcome whatever it is that upsets her so much.

Jocelyn, I also hope this is temporary and youre Mom calls you soon. This reminds me of the situation with my mom, during my first year of transition, more than a decade ago. She came around after a while, Im hopeful for you.

Oh baby girl I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope your mama comes back to you and things work out great. You sound like a really strong willed girl so yes the best we can do is hold our heads high. I know what you feel as my mama and daddy refuse to have anything to do with me but I am still moving on with my life in as positive a manner as I can. Stay hopefull and hold on to what you know is right.

By the way I am Jalene a newbie to this site so it's nice to meet you. Take care and my best wishes for you.

I have not posted, because I was hoping that thing would change with you Mom.  But you are with your Aunt and that is a plus.

I hope that things will stay so that your journey will continue.  I know it is not much but many of us are feeling a little lost, but we all know how hard it can be.

Keep your own head high, dear sister.

I'm glad to hear your aunt was there for you, when your mother wasn't able to see her daughter was happy.
I have two grown children of my own, and for the life of me can't get my head around the stories of how some parents have acted, that are posted on here. 
You have a large family here so hugs from me for a start.
Sandra.

Thank you all for your replies
It means so much to me to have sisters that understand and are going out of their way tocomfort me in this time.
I too hope that my mother will get over this change in heart
she was the one person to help me become who I am
She tought me to life though my heart and not through my appearance/cocoon
she refused to let anyone treat me as anything but the woman i know i am

and now she was very adamant about what a "waste of life" i am
and how "I will never amount to anything"
and told me the one thing that she knows breaks my heart more than anything thing in the world

"I need Help"

I've never given love from my soul to anyone like i have to my mother.
no man. no friend.

Gah i can't explain it. lol i hope i don't sound like a baby. things are definitely feeling harder today
Once i get out of this funk and remember how much i love myself I'll be better

Thanks again to everyone

Jocelyn XOX

Hi hun,

Really sorry to hear about your problems, I can relate as some of my family are having a hard time accepting me for me. Mostly my big sister (even at my age they always think that they know best! )

You have shown consideable strength and courage in the past and you continue to do so now, you are also very level headed and humble, things will turn around for you

Take care  M x