Hey Chrissi,

I know what you mean. I'm 6'1" spent my childhood "doing the right stuff": rugby (american football without protection  ), competitive swimming... the works. In the process I blessed myself with a very masculine frame: big shoulders, strong chest... you name it. It took me ages (and plenty of drinks to forget) to come to terms with myself. And one day it just happened: I realized who I am, what I've always been and what I'll be forever. The rest becomes pretty obvious: given me being a woman trapped in the wrong body, I owe it to myself to set me free.

It doesn't matter what you do as long as you are true to yourself.

Emma

Thank you everyone, I have been feeling a little better about things and am trying not to think about things like height as much. In fact, last week, I saw two girls who were taller than me! By quite a bit too! So I do feel ok now.

Can I ask, laroy and Emma, did your height/stature EVER discourage you? and if so, what changed? just not caring about what others think?

Chrissi

Quote from: Virginia Marie on October 14, 2010, 01:30:39 AM
Hi Chrissi

I can relate to allot of the things you mention... I'm 6'2" with size 12 men's/13 women's shoes

Do I get discouraged? Hecks yeah... Some of our bro.s and sisters can attest to that... I'm one of the biggest cry babies around sometimes

Granted I've always been somewhat fem. and a year of HRT has given me boobs and a more fem. shape in general

Women tend to treat me like one of the girls and guys check me out

But I still get discouraged at times and I'm not sure why... Maybe I'm my own worst critic at times?

As previously mentioned... Transition is ultimately up to the individual

BTW... If that's you in your avatar, you're quite an attractive gal 

Thank you Virginia, but what exactly cauesed you to get over these facts? Thanks!

I am 6'2" and my biggest hangups pertain to my height, no doubt, so I totally understand how you must be feeling.  In fact, fear of the attention my height might attract paralyzed me.  It was one of the main reasons I stuck it out in the male role for so long, even as it became utterly unbearable.

Enduring that unbelievable emotional tumult living in the wrong role earned me only regret because once I started transitioning, I finally found my happiness. Realizing that I could have been happy instead of miserable for all those years is very annoying for me now.  I try to not think about it.

For me, I got over the hangups simply by learning to be proud of exactly who I am.  That pride allows me to not fear being read or whatever.  That doesn't mean I go around shouting my past to the rooftops (I don't tell anybody that didn't already know me.. ever) it just means that I will never be ashamed about the reality of my life.

Yes, transition takes fortitude, but guess what?  I am not a strong person, like.. at all.  To this very day I still can't believe I found the strength to get through all of this.  If I could do it, I know you can.

Hey Chrissi,

Short answer: Yes 🙂

No really, my height was one of the biggest hurdles to overcome (that and my shoulder width). It held me back for years. And still, when I feel weak, I become very insecure. I guess it will never go away completely. I'm an amazonian woman (what a nice expression) and that's what I will be forever. But, it also made me realize I'm not alone. There are plenty of amazonian women around. When I feel down, I wander off surfing to Joerg's site for tall women (if I'm not mistaking, I can't post a link, I can PM if you want) to get some inspiration.

Did you know that at 6'1" I'm as tall as Venus Williams, Brigitte Nielsen, Janet Reno (less hot, but sure made it) and a bunch of other amazing women? Anyway, I just start reading up on their lives and wonder about the pain they must have felt when they were younger, being the tallest in class, being laughed at... and how they dealt with it in their own way. And that usually does the trick for me. It gives me the inner strength to overcome my doubts and fears.

If that doesn't work or there is no time to work through it, I always keep the following in the back of my mind: "Inside every short (wo)man is a tall (wo)man doubled over in pain" like a sort of mantra because in the end: beauty is in the eye of the beholder. When I can love myself, I can radiate my beauty and anchor myself in my life.

Love,
Emma

Need a lil' reassurance about being tall? Look up Tallwomen.org  It is also a great resource center for tall gals like us 😉

I always stand out myself. I haven't started anything yet; but I know people stare at me all the time and likely will after I switch to female too. (top hat with bat wings, a flower arrangement, and a odd invention, with a dress shirt and waist coat.) I already have my eyes on some interesting stuff when I start the transition. Keep in mind one thing if it helps as it has helped me; 'you are just a peacock in a world of bland sparrows.' Was from a friend of mine that is already calling me a female. ^.^

Demzon

Wow, it seems a lot of girls delayed transition because of their height. But the trend here seems to be that the pros of transition outweigh the cons of being tall

Thanks all!

Chrissi