Quote from: Kohdi Daniel on November 30, 2010, 10:19:12 PM
Oh god....i absolutly hate that  My grandma does this repeatedly year after year....bath salts, mariah carey perfume, some crappy flower smelling lotion, and pink silk pajamas. Its humiliating  oh well....I'm going to agree with Tekla. Regifting.

I can totally relate. I wanna cry when I get gifts like that. Now that my mom and grandmother know I'm trans, I hope they don't do it again this year.

Yeah, my boyfriend's mother (who I'm not out to yet) keeps giving me jewelry... I feel so bad, because she's so sweet. I want to appreciate them, I really do, but...

And I came out to my mom this summer, so we'll see if she finally stops giving me makeup and girly clothes.

give it to your sister if you have one... or girlfriend.... or just girl friends.... or goodwill...  return it if it'd be worth the effort.

That was the worst though.  I hated generic gifts like in workplaces.  Our boss one year at arbys got all the boys screwdrivers and all the girls avon samples....... I stole a screwdriver.  =]

What joy can be found in giving a gift that is not intended to fit the bill. Even best intentions can miss the mark but why waste money, time and feelings knowing  that it is not an appropriate gift? I don't understand people sometimes. ( I find it fustrating when things are not logical )

I'm not logical. I can't figure out what people want. I no longer give gifts as a rule. I have found that I not longer get those uwanted gifts either.

I tried to give a gift for Christmas, something they wanted, they wouldn't use it unless I told them what it cost. What was the point of trying to give them a gift then. They will only take it if it is within a certain price range?

Being alone has its advantages.

One of my biggest fears: I'll finally be comfortable enough with my body that I can be open to a relationship. I'll meet a guy who loves me and doesn't worry about my anatomy. He'll be everything I've always wanted in a man. But then I'll find out that he's a Christmas junkie who wants to exchange loads of presents every year. That ends that relationship!

I was raised a Jehovahs Witness. We have not been JW for 19yrs, but we have never celebrated Christmas. So that is that.

<.< >.>  I personally love my "girly" gifts.  If I get "girly" clothes, I'm extremely happy.  If I get a nice smelling perfume, I'm very happy and I'll wear it.  If I get a new purse, I use it.   I can't help it.  It might be how I was raised....or I just really like to cross-dress (which I do). 

Though generally this has stopped over the years and I get money from distant family for the most part, which makes it easier for me to get books or CDs or DVDs or something similar or maybe I'll be able to get a binder this year.

My favorite thing in the world to do is give presents, though.  I generally make them (I made my parents a blanket this year, bought my mom some angel figurines [she collects them], and bought my dad a Godzilla toy [he loves Godzilla], and I got my sister a necklace with a horse on it, a horse calendar, one of those dog things that bark when you rub it's back, a teddy bear statue, and a Christmas mug).  That being said, I try and get what I know everyone likes because it makes it awesome to see them smile.  However, if I get something I don't want, I just smile and say "thank you" and store it away somewhere--I can't part with gifts unless I've had them for a few months and they don't get used.

Anywho, if you don't like the gifts, return them or give them to goodwill or a thrift store or give them to someone who really wants them.  You can donate gifts to a lot of different places that will make sure the gifts are given to people who want/need them.

Quote from: tekla on November 30, 2010, 09:41:58 PM
One word: regifting.

Exactly.

Say thank you, smile, and think of who you know who would love it, then send it along. 


Jay

I work at a church, and the pastor also does avon. (pastor = woman in 50s)
I got lotion, tinted chapstick (looks like lipstick to me) and a gold necklace. -.-

Hmm..
I'm gonna go with "she tried", under grounds of there was no perfume in the package, and the necklace is simple-ish (bear charm thinger on a chain)


Smile and nod. Smile and nod.

Anyone else find themselves using some of the girly crap ONCE to please the person who gave it and then shutting it away?

Quote from: insanitylives on December 05, 2010, 02:15:04 PMAnyone else find themselves using some of the girly crap ONCE to please the person who gave it and then shutting it away?

I sometimes did before transition.

I'm also seriously thinking of starting a gift/item exchange thread. I have some nice things the women in my family wouldn't wear (nothing bad!). I would rather they go to a lady who really wants it, not give it to someone who wouldn't wear them.

If it was super Girly I could never use it. My parents never pulled that stuff on me so therewasnt really anyone to try and please. I just told whoever gave it to me that I loved it and when on with business.. Hasn't happened in ages though

Do they come from any place recognizable where you might be able to return them for store credit?  I guess that would only work for stores that carry stuff for both men and women, like the GAP or something.

Quote from: sej on December 06, 2010, 02:23:48 PM
Do they come from any place recognizable where you might be able to return them for store credit?  I guess that would only work for stores that carry stuff for both men and women, like the GAP or something.

I'd do that if it wasn't clearly avon.

but yeah, walmart has a great return policy

Wal-Mart does return things pretty good but I have run into a few times that if you don't have a receipt you don't get a full refund on your Wal-Mart credit.

Quote from: Kareil on December 02, 2010, 03:31:07 PM
Don't you know?  We're "projects" for them, not people, regardless of what stage in transition someone might be, we just need some help, and then we'll be "real women"

I could not have put it better - I was their "project" ugh.  I actually exchanged them panties for tighty-whities at wal-mart.  The gift-giver brought an audience to ask me how I liked them (fishing for a compliment) and I told her I exchanged them.  So, keep in mind this woman was at least 40, and I was 18/19.  So maybe I have an excuse for being an arse hehe.

You know, even for the times I actually wore women's undies, they were NOT those hideous tarps that Hanes sells, and if they asked I could have at least steered them away from it.  /tangent