Dating an openly bisexual guy can neutralise a lot of these problems, as openly bi males are very secure in their sexuality and are less likely to freak about your history.

I can imagine that must have been an awful experience to you, Valerie. But you can learn from it just like you and Cruella wrote.
A man may seem ok with a disclosure of this kind on the outside, but inside his mind will be racing. You have had your entire life to come to terms with who and what you are so you can rationalize it well. He on the other hand has to do it with far less time and may know nothing on the subject. Your significant other will need some time to think this over and put his mind to rest. Even when he is initially ok with it, he can meet resistance in intimate moments because he has not dealt with it properly. With this I must say that this is also partionally my personal experience, all men are different. Rose and I had a few days apart to come to terms with this new disclosure and in retrospect I think it was a good thing.

Don't let this keep you back. Take some time to compose yourself and try again. And this time take it a bit more slow before taking it to the next level.

Quoteare there many guys that will actually admit to a girl they are bisexual?

From what I know are men far more insecure with talking about their sexual preference than women are.

Quote from: Valeriedances on December 21, 2010, 01:23:06 PM
Good point, thanks Cait. I probably need to change my love interests away from ultra masculine, bad-boy types. (its tough, though, as those guys are so sexy).

One sticking point ...are there many guys that will actually admit to a girl they are bisexual? though that is getting slightly off-topic so should save for another thread and leave this thread for disclosure.

http://www.shybi-guys.com/

Here are my experiences:

1) I went on a date with a butch lesbian and about 30 minutes into it, I told her.  She was shocked and things pretty much ended awkwardly right then.
2) I then started dating a guy on campus, and in light of my last experience, I wanted to wait a while before telling him.  It then got serious really fast.  We were making out and then I got very scared and held back and then considered telling him.  He was very macho and I thought, it wouldn't go well at all.  Then a week later he broke up with me telling me, "I've seen more experience in a 17-year-old."  I was kinda pissed, insulted, but relieved.
3) On account of my last experience, I thought a solution would be to date but insist on being 100% platonic.  That way the guy (I was mainly interested in guys) I was dating could get to know me as a person first.  I dated one guy pretty regularly that summer.  He was really friendly and he was so sweet but not quite my type, and because I was pretty stand-offish when it came to intimacy, it fizzled.
4) Partly it fizzled because I started going out with another guy.  He was a friend of a friend.  He also was not really my type but he treated me very nicely.  We were going out three times a week or more, and did athletics together.  Then I had dinner at his place and it got too late and he wanted me to spend the night.  I had to tell him but I was so scared.  I told him I couldn't sleep with him but would tell him why in the morning.  I slept on the sofa and then had the big reveal the next day.  It was the hardest thing I ever had to tell anyone. I was in tears but I eventually spat it out.  I think he was stunned and didn't know what hit him.  I had so much pent up sexual frustration and we started to make out.  But he was very confused over it and kind of disappeared over the next few weeks.  I got pissed because he didn't have the courtesy to communicate with me, and decided to give up on dating.
5) Next guy I met, he knew from the outset about my situation, and was okay with it.  And he was the last guy I dated because we are still together.