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Who here is bi-gendered?

Started by Katelyn, December 29, 2010, 07:29:21 PM

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Katelyn

I'm just curious who here is bi-gendered.  I'm still wondering if I'm transgendered or bi-gendered, and I would like to know more about bi-gendered people.  I find it hard to think about living life being bi-gendered because especially on genetic males it is harder to be a girl when you feel like it. 
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Alex201

I have thought before I might be bi gendered...I do have a female and a male side...but I present as an androgynous male.
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Eva Marie

I'm bigender with a smattering of androgyne when in boy mode.
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Vanessa_yhvh

I'd say I'm definitely both guy and gal.
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Virginia

I know I respoded to your post in another thread, Katelyn, but for anyone just tuning in, there was a recent thread on bigender at:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,80796.msg564590.html#msg564590

Also a new bigender forum at http://www.bigender.net

And this one on shifting between female and male:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,19999.0.html

For me, I don't see it being particularly harder as a bigender bioM but I am a pretty andro 5' 10" 146 pound beanpole. It is very important to me to have both a strong male AND a strong female presentation. But I get edgy staying in either extreme for extended periods and am uncomfortable combining the two into a confusing or genderlessly unidentifiable blend. There is always a restlessness, something tugging at me to pull the other way.

My best attempt at self identification is that I am a woman who likes to express herself as a guy but is unwilling to give up her femininity. My hair is a shoulder length grunge, I shave my body, and I am 100+ hours of electro into removing the gray the laser didn't get on my face but am leaving my VanDyke to help maintain my sense of male self. Nothing that locks me into presenting one way or the other. I present as a guy most of the time but find my balance in spending a day a week out and about people as my female self.

I talk about myself in plural, refer to my male and female self in the third person, can stand back and see the same situation form two completely different viewpoints. And my gender flip flops regardless of how I am presenting myself. I compartmentalize my emotions, my strengths and weaknesses to align with my gender, capitalizing on my abilities to face my life and apparently coping strategy I developed when I suppressed my female self as a teenager. But this psychological expression alone is not sufficient and it is vital for me to physically express myself as both of my genders.
~VA (pronounced Vee- Aye, the abbreviation for the State of Virginia where I live)
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dustbunny

Quote from: Katelyn on December 29, 2010, 07:29:21 PM
I'm just curious who here is bi-gendered.  I'm still wondering if I'm transgendered or bi-gendered, and I would like to know more about bi-gendered people.  I find it hard to think about living life being bi-gendered because especially on genetic males it is harder to be a girl when you feel like it.

I stuggle with the idea of gender and what exactly it is. Sometimes I think it's more a gradient like Kinsey described sexuality. I don't know if I'd exactly describe myself as bi-gendered, though I seem to feel about 80% male and 20% female most days though that feeling can change. I present as a female because I really wouldn't know how to present any other way. It's typically uncomfortable, but I'm almost never a "girly" girl, so it's more tolerable. My compromise is wearing clothes a guy would that are fitted to my female body. I can't say I'd want to be either male or female exclusively though so I don't know if that qualifies me as bi-gendered or not.
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betty

I'm not sure if I fit the bill of being bi-gendered, but here is my deal.

I've been on HRT for just over 10 months and have been having electrolysis on my facial hair. I will continue the process until all hair is gone and I have a natural chest. DD's are not my ideal of sexy cleavage and it attracts men like honey to bees. Men sniffing around me is not what i want as I love women.
I also have no interest im men so GRS makes no sense to me, plus I don't want "fake" genatalia most often carried out by male doctors.

So I guess I am always going to be a bit of both I see myself as 80% female and 20% male, many would consider me a fake as I'm not "Completing" my change, but I have to live for my own happiness not what other people expect. But before people start to judge me please remember that gender is something you can't fit into tight definitions and everyone is on a different part of the spectrum

Big hugs to everyone
Betty
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