I was happy with my bath stuff spacial. because I told mom it was what I needed, and got to pick it out.

I'm sorry Tad and others. I hoped to inject a little humour into some of the posts, especially those that were a little miffed with gender associations.

Personally, Any gift that is given with consideration and care should be accepted with total grace.

I will also suggest that not receiveing anything should be treated in the same way.

I have to say, I'm really pleased for those who received things that made them happy and very sorry for those that feel sad with what they got.

I'm reuctant to say this, but whatever your religious persuasion, or not, the point of this custom is surely the grace of receiveing, not an cryptic message in the gift.

When I was very young,  think, about 3 years old, I recall hearing a song called the little Drummer Boy. Basically, while so many have spent so much on the gifts they brought, this boy gave a recitation on his drum, because that was all he had.

OK, I know that is really soppy and none of us like to be reminded of lessons of childhood. But if I had had children I would make sure they heard and understood that song.

I just realized I usually get a big thing of Axe body spray for Xmas because I wore it a few times and wore the deodorant in like 8th grade through high school. I didn't care as long as it worked. Now my deodorant smells like strawberries lol But I didn't get the axe this year, maybe that's a good sign.

To be honest, mom and dad, I don't want to wear axe. Its something I'd like my bf to wear but not me haha

Re-gift or give away somehow, if you can't use it, someone can.  Really for years people used to give me CDs, which is like buying someone who works in a candy store more candy.  But I always found someone who would want it and listen to it.  No blood, no foul.

Quote from: LilDoberman on January 04, 2011, 05:12:38 PM
Since the sizing is different, she must have known they were womens, I would think.  Congrats

Oh, and my hubby got me all super girly stuff.  Sweet of him, but uh, I don't wear pink anything nor anything with tassels 

Omg...you're so right haha. Wow well that's awesome to realize. Yay

Quote from: spacepilot on January 05, 2011, 07:55:47 AM
Yes. I've been subtly coming out to my family for a while now and the last time I saw my mother I was more direct about some things and told her I didn't wear female-gendered clothing or makeup. I basically stopped a little while after I moved out of my house at 18-19 so it was about time I share haha. Even before then I wasn't particularly girly, just more female oriented in terms of fashion because that's what I had to work with. I had also continuously tried to talk to her about my dysphoria but at that time I didn't know what it was called or how to explain.

I should also say my mother and I don't get along at all and she is pretty much convinced that biological females have a chip imbedded in their skulls that makes them like the colour pink and lifetime television for women. That said, she bought me:

-a gift card to Sephora (a large makeup chain)
-a bottle of vanilla pefume
-a gift card to urban outfitters (this I liked actually. They have a fabulous mens section.)

I have another sephora gift card leftover from my birthday back in october that hasn't been used either. The only thing I've put on it is a pot of bronzer and eyebrow tint to help masculinize my face if I'm feeling particularly dysphoric.

Seriously, by the time I'm 30 I'll have a lifetime supply of dark eyebrows and cheekbones.

I'll take the gift cards!!

My family knows I don't wear make-up or stuff like that, so even before I start transitioning I never got really girly stuff (except when I was a kid).
I got non-gender gifts, like books, an iPad, flip flops...except for a bermuda shorts, which were pretty male!

Quote from: spacial on January 04, 2011, 08:59:36 AM
Does anyone else think that, presents of deoderants, bathing products and aftershave type of things are somewhat insulting?

Surely a present is suppose to represent something. These just tell you that you have poor personal hygine and stink.

Oh, thanks, if you think I stink you could have told me privately.

It always offends me to get bath sets because it's the thought that counts, and obviously no thought at all was put into that gift.

My aunt was the only one who got me a girly gift, and that was a pair of girls socks, but other than that everyone did really well. My best friend got me a new pair of DCs with a hat to match, that was my favorite gift.

For the first time ever, I didn't go home for Christmas and I got no presents. Also, my mom's wedding was on the first and I wasn't invited. Hooray, holidays? 

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I got some Uggs. I wouldn't call them "gender inappropriate", but they're not video games..

My aunt got me some cute knickknacks, but while feminine, they're gender neutral.

I brought myself a female shirt, and two male shirts. Turns out I brought the men's one the wrong size since it's my first time buying men's clothing, and it was a bit too big. 

Quote from: pixiegirl on January 03, 2011, 05:57:18 PM
So what guns are Christians supposed to ask or then?

The Wolfwood Punisher Cross:

http://gigazine.jp/img/2009/07/27/wf2009_s_fire_cosplay/wf2009_s_fire_cosplay10.jpg

I got plenty of "gender inappropriate" gifts, though nothing really feminine like jewelry; just some androgynous women's socks and a girl's hat.  Luckily for me, I am a crossdresser and do not mind at all.  And even if I did, the fact that the picture my sister put on the billboard she made said called me "The True King of Fashion" and that my brother wrote my real name on his present would make up for it.  Altogether, my family was good about things over the holidays with the exception of my father who is still ignoring it in hopes that it will go away.

I mainly asked for money so that's mainly what I got.... but my dad did send me a very male hoodie. He claims its unisex, but it's so big and bulky and not my style at all. Too "tomboyish" for my tastes. lol.

Most of my family has always been good about getting me gifts I would like, even before I came out.  However, I have one aunt who does a lot of "all the guys get this" and all the ladies get that" kinds of gifts.  She also has some memory issues, so I got an odd mixture of "guy gifts" and "lady gifts" this year.  On Christmas morning it was interesting trying to find ways of not making her feel bad about some of the gifts she had gotten when she had clearly forgotten about my transition. 

*Opens a pretty little flowered mini jewelry box.*  "Oh, hey!  I can use this for ...ah ... packing tie tacks and cuff links when I travel.  Thanks!"

Quote from: spacepilot on January 05, 2011, 07:55:47 AM
Yes. I've been subtly coming out to my family for a while now and the last time I saw my mother I was more direct about some things and told her I didn't wear female-gendered clothing or makeup. I basically stopped a little while after I moved out of my house at 18-19 so it was about time I share haha. Even before then I wasn't particularly girly, just more female oriented in terms of fashion because that's what I had to work with. I had also continuously tried to talk to her about my dysphoria but at that time I didn't know what it was called or how to explain.

I should also say my mother and I don't get along at all and she is pretty much convinced that biological females have a chip imbedded in their skulls that makes them like the colour pink and lifetime television for women. That said, she bought me:

-a gift card to Sephora (a large makeup chain)
-a bottle of vanilla pefume
-a gift card to urban outfitters (this I liked actually. They have a fabulous mens section.)

I have another sephora gift card leftover from my birthday back in october that hasn't been used either. The only thing I've put on it is a pot of bronzer and eyebrow tint to help masculinize my face if I'm feeling particularly dysphoric.

Seriously, by the time I'm 30 I'll have a lifetime supply of dark eyebrows and cheekbones.

i love sephora.... you do know sephora has a large mens section too right? colognes ect...