I can not exactly recall the train of events that lead to be googling "Transgender forums", but after browsing through a few ugly sites that look like they have not changed since the early 90s, I found this to be the most organized, modern, and easy to use format around, for a forum of this setting.

My girlfriend has always told me how she learned in psychology that sex and gender are two different things, one being physical, the other a state of mind.  She has told me about transgender folk [I actually think she has a class with one, not sure on gender however].  Not long ago, the only thing I knew of was sexual orientation's, and the fact that Dr. Frankenfurter was a transvestite from Transylvania.

Anyway, just a few days ago I found these forums, and learned of the FTM and MTF categories. Upon learning of these sorts of people, it kind of clicked a bridge into place and allowed the mob of ideas and memories to run into my thoughts.  I started thinking about myself.

There is not much I can say at this point, and I do not want to just throw myself out there, there is so much I do not want to talk about forthright, so maybe I will install more, or say things when they are relevant.  I will go by an alias while I am here, that being Sera.  I believe it may be possible that I am transgender MTF, and am seriously considering the decision that is HRT.  I have been reading around these forums a bit to adjust to the mind set and active users here.  I have a pretty steep history that has kind of screwed around with my mind.

There is so much I can say, I literally typed up quite an essay, but while typing about certain topics I found myself growing angry and red, so I deleted it all out.... I will simply say hello, because I do not know where to start...

Welcome Sera,
You are at the right place. Please allow yourself to be comfortable here. You may feel free to post anything about yourself whenever you choose.
Hugs,
Suzi S.

Hi Sera

Welcome to Susan's and you are right in my opinion Susan's is a very good place to learn from.  Take your time in telling your story, in fact you can tell us as much as you feel comfortable in saying (you can say nothing if that is what you want).  There is no pressure for you to do so.

So look around and if you are unable to find an answer to a question that you have, just ask and I'm sure there will be someone who will have an answer for you.

Kind regards
Sarah B

Thank you two.

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Hi Sera,

Welcome to our little family. Over 5400 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another sister.

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Hugs and Love,
Janet
   

Okay, I do not know where I am supposed to go after this.  I deleted what I said.  I do not know if this is even the place for me.

I have a question though, does phytoestrogen have the same effects as supplemental artificial estrogen?

Quote from: Sera on February 13, 2011, 09:55:22 AM
Okay, I do not know where I am supposed to go after this.  I deleted what I said.  I do not know if this is even the place for me.

I have a question though, does phytoestrogen have the same effects as supplemental artificial estrogen?

It has for a few.  It is more of a placebo effect.  And even that has a calming effect to the mind.

Hello Sera,
When I came to Susan's I didn't know who I was or what I was.
There is so much good information on gender issues and
so many nice people that will share what they know about almost any topic.
Glad you have joined.
Welcome to Susan's,
Jillieann

Thank you for the information, Jillieann.

While I am not sure if I am transgender, could be androgynous, all I do know is that my sex is male, but I am not quite male, nor am I quite female, so this is the place for me. My overall appearance and several of my outfits are unisexual.  I take it as a compliment when people accidentally ma'am me.  I will head out to other forums to join in discussions to see how I feel.  Thank you all.

Hiya Sera *waves*

Welcome to the forums. Don't let history drag you down, herstory is quite as nice *winking at lousy joke* No seriously, there is plenty of history going around an we can learn from it. The thing that matters is today (and tomorrow to a certain extent).

Cya around!

Welcome to Susan's, Sera!

This site is great! I do hope you stick around, even if it is just for the pursuit of knowledge. There are no rules that say you have to know what you identify as, that is part of the journey, finding out who you are. Regardless of what you discover you identify as we are all here to support you as you search.

I am the SO of a MTF (who hasn't yet begun transition), and I have received so much love and support from the individuals here. I wouldn't trade the friendships and knowledge I have gained from this site for anything. It's very surreal sometimes, I have to pinch myself. LOL

You seem like a kind person, and I hope to see more posts from you.

Hugs,
Jacquelyn

Yeah, I read your story Jacquelyn, I hope everything works out great in the end!

I guess before I never knew of the effects of estrogen on the male body, and hrt. I guess I knew of the existence of SRS, but I fiured that everything relied on surgery.  Now I am just a bit curious... Maybe HRT can simply further advance my male beauty.  Well, that is how I see it.  I am all about beauty, in the world, and in people.  Would not be worried about being a guy with boobs either, because, well, I'm already embarassed sometimes that everyone can see my nipples through my shirt, cause I have big nipples :C Might as well fill in the gap, right?  My brother just tells me to work out my pectorals....  But I'm not a big body building fan at all, I just get enough muscle to get by!


There are just a multitude of things about me that are so off, things I always attributed to simple things as taking after my mother or an extra Y chromosome or whatever they call it.  Though I do not have health insurance or anything, so I could not even consider HRT, not at this point in my life 

I wonder though, what is it that causes a boy to be so feminine?  So many people struggle to be ma'am'd that are boys, I get it on a daily basis, even in my saggy work uniform! Sorry if I am offending anyone, I have not yet adjusted to what is correct yet I suppose.

Quote from: Sera on February 14, 2011, 09:16:30 PM
I wonder though, what is it that causes a boy to be so feminine?

An enlightened mathematician called Descartes?

Well that's the argument why we do have to think in a dichotomy (male/female; either/or; 0/1...) He can't help it, so can't we, but our Western "modern" thinking is based upon it. Just be the person you are, all the way. The rest doesn't really matter (at least not here)