So I was Talking to my mum and I asked her why I couldnt get on hormones or bind and what not. She said since shes a body builder and people assume shes bi or les and that her kids is or acts a certain way proves she is. 

Which is really stupid, in my opinion, who cares what others think. She says she dosent, but i beg to differ.
I just dont understand why shes always contradicting herself.

I happen to care a lot about what others think of me, but yes, that is kinda dumb lol

I can kinda understand her, because if my kid turned out trans I'd be afraid that people would think it was my fault and that GID is crap, but that doesn't give her a right to deny you hormones

Well I feel your mom should grow up a little, but other than that do you have money to get yourself a binder?  If so you could put in on a visa giftcard, and use that to buy one online.  Or try the big brothers binder program (idk if that is the proper name for it)

That's kind of screwed up.
IMO, the people who don't/wont get it never will get it. If they're gonna say GID is bullcrap for one reason, they're going to say it to any reason. Willful ignorance.

so she's saying her opinion of what people think of her is more important than your gender identity? :/ that's just messed up.
I agree with Andy too, you dont need her permission to bind [unless it's a 'do what i say or get out of my house' kind of issue], and depending on your country or provincial laws you can get hormones/androgens by yourself after 16 or 18.

Quote from: J Dot on March 08, 2011, 07:38:53 PM
I just dont understand why shes always contradicting herself.

My mum's like that too (saying she doesn't care about appearances or what people think, when she actually does a lot). IMO, it's denial. Like they say in the movie 'American Beauty': "Never underestimate the power of denial." Some people just don't like to admit things to themselves, like that they care a lot about others' opinions of them.

Here's a link to a big brothers binder program that Andy8715 mentioned: http://www.thetransitionalmale.com/BBUB.html

Give her some time. People sometimes bring dumb excuses against transition but in my case, my mum got over it after about a year.

Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on March 08, 2011, 09:07:06 PM...I can kinda understand her, because if my kid turned out trans I'd be afraid that people would think it was my fault and that GID is crap, but that doesn't give her a right to deny you hormones

Wish everyone understood it :/

Quote from: Andy8715 on March 08, 2011, 10:33:04 PM
Well I feel your mom should grow up a little, but other than that do you have money to get yourself a binder?  If so you could put in on a visa giftcard, and use that to buy one online.  Or try the big brothers binder program (idk if that is the proper name for it)

I bought one before and used it for about 2 months before she realized and threw it away

Quote from: r e m on March 09, 2011, 12:50:26 AM
so she's saying her opinion of what people think of her is more important than your gender identity? :/ that's just messed up.
I agree with Andy too, you dont need her permission to bind [unless it's a 'do what i say or get out of my house' kind of issue], and depending on your country or provincial laws you can get hormones/androgens by yourself after 16 or 18.

16? really? what country would that be?

Quote from: N.Chaos on March 08, 2011, 10:34:19 PM
That's kind of screwed up.
IMO, the people who don't/wont get it never will get it. If they're gonna say GID is bullcrap for one reason, they're going to say it to any reason. Willful ignorance.

ill get it once im 18.. hopefully

Quote from: quinn on March 09, 2011, 01:32:36 AM
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Here's a link to a big brothers binder program that Andy8715 mentioned: http://www.thetransitionalmale.com/BBUB.html

Thank You and denial toward what? caring about opinions? or me?




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Quote from: partypoison on March 09, 2011, 03:10:14 AM
Give her some time. People sometimes bring dumb excuses against transition but in my case, my mum got over it after about a year.

Its been over a year Hope and your right now we dont argue so much about clothing.

Quote from: J Dot on March 09, 2011, 05:00:22 AM
16? really? what country would that be?

british columbia, canada.
the general consesus for medical decisions here is 16, and i think that covers testosterone. i haven't gone to my first endo appointment yet so i'll find out soon, but my friend is on androgens at 15 and his parents don't even acknowledge he's trans.

Quote from: J Dot on March 09, 2011, 05:00:22 AM
Thank You and denial toward what? caring about opinions? or me?

I meant denial about caring about people's opinions. But, she might also be in denial about you being trans. It's common for parents to be in denial about their kid being trans, mostly because it's such a big change from what they're used to (as in, they're used to you being a "she", and your whole life they expected you were female and would always identify as female).