Quote from: Gwenhyvar on August 01, 2010, 12:28:55 PM
Hi Everyone....

I've been trying to keep positive, and for the most part succeeding, but every once in a while reality hits me like a punch in the gut.

As mentioned in my introduction, I'm over 6 feet tall and not exactly petite... the extra weight is slowly coming off, but the frame itself is what it is. I convince myself I can transition, and with enough work and surgery, become passable, but every once in a while I have a not so brief moment of doubt. This last one was just a few days ago when I was hanging out with some friends, and we were all standing around at the end of the night and saying our goodbyes. I looked around at the 4 males in the room and realized I towered over everyone. Not just in height, but width as well (shoulders, not fat).

I can't describe the feeling of sadness that overwhelmed me. As is more and more often the case in public these days, I was picturing myself as a woman, and in that moment realized that no matter how much work I put into it I will always be a giant - among men, much less women. No matter how passable, my size will always get me looks. I try to convince myself they might be mostly good ones, but I can't help but think peoples first thought will be 'man'. (On a good day I hope it might be 'Amazon')

I was hoping for some positive stories of MTF's over 6 feet tall who are passable... are there any out there? Most of the passable girls whose stories I've seen and read about may be tall for a woman, but not inordinately so. I know I'm fishing, but I feel it would really help me to know it's been done.

Thanks so much, and sorry for being such a downer.
-Gwen

Well i am not 6' but i am 5'10" with heals i am over 6' ^_^.  I started off looking like a mafia goomba, now i look like your typical soccer mom.

http://www.hawaiibd.com/10.jpg  i was fat, wide bodied, and in broad everything~

1.5 yrs of hrt and 2 years of diet and exercise (no surgeries), i look like this: 
http://www.hawaiibd.com/A5.jpg
http://www.hawaiibd.com/A2.jpg

So yeah, the start is where it is the roughest, i cried so many times thinking i would never make it, i would stand out and be a freak, all i had was that glimmer of hope that kept me going, just grab on to that and dont let go, keep moving forward.  As my friend said, in the end you can always buy your looks, so dont worry so much.

*pops in*

Gwen, I think you'll be fine.  One of my friends is 6'2" and she's a big woman because of her bone structure and height, but no one generally looks twice.  And she's not exactly the most feminine looking woman out there.

Tall and bigger girls seem to be gaining some hold and you can see them around.  I'm 510" myself and I only stand out because of the area I'm in where most of the girls (and guys) are shorter than me.  I used to wear heels like they were going out of style and they always bumped my height to 6' or taller.

I think you should do fine, though.  And I'm pretty glad there are taller girls running around. =)  Good luck with everything!

Quote from: Izumi on August 03, 2010, 01:34:37 PM
Well i am not 6' but i am 5'10" with heals i am over 6' ^_^.  I started off looking like a mafia goomba, now i look like your typical soccer mom.

http://www.hawaiibd.com/10.jpg  i was fat, wide bodied, and in broad everything~

1.5 yrs of hrt and 2 years of diet and exercise (no surgeries), i look like this: 
http://www.hawaiibd.com/A5.jpg
http://www.hawaiibd.com/A2.jpg

So yeah, the start is where it is the roughest, i cried so many times thinking i would never make it, i would stand out and be a freak, all i had was that glimmer of hope that kept me going, just grab on to that and dont let go, keep moving forward.  As my friend said, in the end you can always buy your looks, so dont worry so much.

I must say Izumi, your change is nothing short of amazing! It does give me boatloads of hope for a similar outcome!

-Gwen

I remember when I finally decided to transition I was scared to death and sometimes often I get discouraged and need support

I'm very thankful for the support that has been given to me by the various people here

I'm sure you'll be fine 

Quote from: barbie on August 03, 2010, 01:25:05 PM
I am also 6 feet. A stereotype is that women here are shorter, but nowadays I sometimes see young women who are as tall as me. Unfortunately, most of tall women here have unbalanced body figures to my eyes. If their body figure is well balanced, I study them and they also study me 

Some strangers recognize me as a very tall woman while others suspect whether I am a man or a woman. Kids in my apartment straightforwardly ask it. Playmates of my little daughter say like "Your dad look like a woman", and my daughter smiles and agrees. And so on.

A few weeks ago, I saw a very tall foreign woman in a beach. She looked like a professional model, and probaby are from Russia. She was taller than her boy friend. Well-made bun of blonde, and nice white evening dress.

I can not afford to wear such nice evening dress. And having a nice bun would require too much time and effort for me. For this reason, I like wearing very simple, junior-style clothes. Short pants and tees with sneakers. I think I look androgynous as people usually comment that I look like the Mona Lisa. Some aged women praise my body shape, and tend to be surprised when my friends reveal that I am a man. Those aged women are my fans who admire me most, as they are also so much preoccupied with body shape.

Passable to strangers in the street, but not to my neighbours, colleagues and friends. Above all, strangers are not so much important to me, but I just enjoy presenting myself as a woman, preferrably as a girl at 20s.

Yesterday night, one neighbour at my age tried to chat with me in my apartment. He asked why I sometimes wear skirt, heels and lipstick. I just replied it is my hobby as I did not want to detail it. He is too shy to chat with me, but he was a little bit drunken yesterday. We chatted a lot about our kids and jobs. His last comment before saying goodbye was that I am too tall.

The most noticeable change after I started crossdressing is that nobody is afraid of me. My height no longer daunt them. Everybody easily tries to speak to me, whether they are men or women, or whether they are kids or adults. I became completely tired of being asked for the direction in the street. But, I am always welcomed like a kind of celebrity in restaurants and bars. Nowadays I feel that people like me.

Barbie~~

You identify as a man?

Wow! So much to relate to! I am also 6'1" and it always used to depress me! I admit, it still does some days, and I would much rather be an inch or two shorter, but I have seen women who are taller or just as tall, and are definitely women!

As long as your mannerisms, voice, and other characteristics are in place then you will probably just be seen as a tall woman. Hopefully that helps and makes sense.

I have heard GG's who are like 5'10" complain that they are too tall, afraid to wear heels, etc and that does make me mad, they have no right to complain, but I guess that's just something we have to get over.

Chrissi

I feel bad sometimes that I am smaller than most men, but yet slightly bigger than the average woman. Then I was looking at my body, and realize it would totally pass in most situations if I did transition. I just would need to lose weight, get implants on butt and boobs then get a nose job boom I am a hot woman.

I am not sure about high heels though, nor do I want to really wear them. There's a lot of women I encounter though that tower over me, and I don't feel they are very feminine.

->-bleeped-<- there's this 6 foot woman, who is very passable as a woman though and she's like a giant over me.

You know what, as much as I want to say this, if I was in your shoes... then I probably wouldn't transition.

A couple years ago I was blow drying my hair at the gym( I am six feet tall)
and I noticed a tall presence next to me (naked) This young woman must have been 6'6" or 6'8" and she was absolutely one of the most stunning women I have ever laid
eyes on.

After a lot of cosmentic work, no one questions my gender even though I 6'0" with big shoulders. I have had a couple people ask me if I plyed basketball. I told one person i was a forward in the WBNA, She beleved me!

Look at Karen Gillan, Amy Pond on "Doctor Who".  She's 5'11"   I'd like to be her :-)

Quote from: Simone on August 05, 2010, 03:31:20 AM
Look at Karen Gillan, Amy Pond on "Doctor Who".  She's 5'11"   I'd like to be her :-)

So would I! LOL

Now, that isn't going to be a possibility for me (I'm a blonde - as an aside my wife is worried about me becoming a ditz! ) but three extra inches isn't too bad. I actually met a GG the other day that is 6'1" and had a thicker bone structure than me (I'm actually slight boned for my size) and she was 'all woman'. That, plus most people's positive comments, have helped calm most of my size related fears.

-Gwen

Quote from: stealth2010 on August 04, 2010, 11:03:47 PM
I told one person i was a forward in the WBNA, She beleved me!

LOL, I know you meant WNBA, but it sure is amusing to imagine she thought you meant the horse breeding crowd, Warmblood Breeders of North America (WBNA).

Gwen, I think you'll be fine too. I've seen a lot women around where I live and even know a few. It's really nothing unusual these days.

I know the feelings you've had, I have them too even now. Only my problem isn't necessarily my height, especially these days since I'm in a wheelchair, but it is my weight and my age. Izumi gives me quite a bit of hope, I just don't know if I can do it though and I have no other idea how I'll ever get my weight down enough that I could even have a reasonably androgynous figure.

The big thing however, is that I am choosing to finally start acting on my desires to be the woman I've always wanted to be now, after I am already over 40 years old. Even if I accomplish the small miracle in front of me to become feminine enough to pass myself off as a woman, I feel that all my good years to enjoy life as one are almost over. Also fueling these feelings of doubt is the knowledge that unless my health get substantially better over the coming years HRT is as far as I will be able to go. I've wrecked my body enough during my years of self loathing at being in a man's body, that now I have a huge amount of circulatory problems and the doctors I'm seeing now have all stated that any surgeries are a bad idea since they don't know if my heart could take it.

Still, I'm worried less about passing in society than I am just appearing feminine enough to appease myself.

In no way however do I mean to say that you should hold off on your own transition, Gwen. As I said before, I think you'll be fine too. The height really isn't that big off an issue these days and neither is broad shoulders or anything else. I've known some GG's that were distraught over not having wider hips and more in the back. I completely share their feelings now just because I know that modern medicine still can't alter a person's bone structure.

Anyway, enough of my own lamentations. You'll be just fine.

I am new to this forum......my transition started 30 months ago....I am going to be 46 years old next month....also, I am 6'1" tall & weigh 157 lbs...I dress in a glam style like the Jerseylicious girls & blessed to pass remarkably well....I had no facial or any work done....here is my Facebook page link...
http://www.facebook.com/carissa00031
Hope my post inspires older girls to come out....
Thanks, Carissa

Hey girl, 6'3" here, dint started transition yet but... i know how you feel!... *big hug*

At my group there is this one woman who is very tall. I'm not sure how tall but I'm 5' 6" and i have to have my neck tilted all the way up to see her face when she's standing. She's pretty skinny too though. I'd say she passes pretty well but the voice throws me off. So I don't think its impossible to pass then.

At my college campus, I am regularly surpassed in height by very cute girls (I am 6'3)... In my biochemistry class last semester, there was a girl around 6'4 and no one ever questioned her gender even though she did not have extreme female sexual secondary characteristics like large hips, big breasts, etc.  People did not think twice about accepting here, because she was and rightfully presented as female.  There are even girls on campus taller than me, mostly athletes, who have large shoulders... Heck, I think about a third of the girl's volleyball team is taller than me.  Anyways, it gives me a little hope each day, because I have anxiety about this same subject at time. 

I'm 6'2" and about 275 lbs  and I'm doing everything I can to lose 60 pounds, get rid of the (yuck!) beard, and grow out my hair.  I'll never "pass", but that's not my goal.  I just want to be happy with my appearance for my own sake. 

6'1" 185 and I've been known to pass. I wear a lot of sleeveless tops to make my shoulders seem narrower; in cooler weather I go with tight fitting tops and falsies. A pair of earrings helps too. It can be done, if you give people enough cues.

Being tall gives you great advantages. Like having long super sexy legs that guys go CRAZY for. I'm shorter, about 5" 7'. But I do have a bit of extra weight. It doesn't keep me from passing.

I'm 5'11" and 145lbs. I used to be very bulky, but never over 155lbs; now things are better due to two years of not working out at all. I have no issues passing atm, so all mostly good.