So, interesting experience that I haven't had in awhile.

I was a hot mess this morning. Went to a party last night, got home, realized I ran out of makeup wipes, so did the best I could with soap, water, and cleanser, but still had a fair amount of black eye makeup left, then just said, "**** it!" and went to bed. Went to Waffle House for some breakfast before going to get makeup wipes. My waitress was friendly, but when I got up to pay, another waitress took my payment. To my left, two rednecks, one of which had been staring at me the whole time. To my right, a trashy-looking young white girl with two thuggish-looking young black guys. I got the impression that the waitress, an older woman in her 50's, didn't like me. This was confirmed when she said, "Was everything okay, SIR?" with extra emphasis on the word "sir." This made everyone on both sides of me crack up. Young trashy girl said, "wow..." while laughing. I just smiled, said everything was great and made sure to not break eye contact. She finished ringing me up and added, "Please sign here, <insert my male name>", making sure to say my name louder than any other part of the sentence. She was trying HARD to embarrass me, but I just wasn't going to let her. I left with my head held high and a cheerful smile plastered on my face.

I thought about getting her name and reporting her to her manager, but then what? Should I give her even more of a reason to hate? I didn't think it was worth it, so I'm just dropping the matter. It's sad when people treat you like you're the one doing something wrong. Oh well.

It sucks when people behave like that... Good on ya for not letting them get to you 

My thearpist used to call me from the waiting room by the male version of my name,Grrr. I had a female co worker who uses to pick up on my long hair, nails and try to embarass me, she was a total bitch to all of us, so when they hired new people , I dtell them don`t mind her shes been mean like thatever since she was a boy. Turnabout is fair play . In this economy, wait staff shouldn`t discourage business,  our dollars are the same as any one else`sI would have complained. But i am an A-hole, ask anybody.

You did well there. I will almost guarantee that, after you left, they all lost interest. They tried to get their rise and failed.

In a way, I'm almost sorry for them.

Nice one.

It is best to not make a bigger deal about their big deal.  Smile, say "Thank You" and walk away.  Saves your dignity.

Nah, I'd have got her fired. Much more fun.

Quote from: MillieB on March 19, 2011, 06:13:20 PM
Nah, I'd have got her fired. Much more fun.

QFT.

You did so very well, a lot better than i would have done for sure.  I would not make a scene, but make sure afterwards that the manager and corporate office know exactly what happens.  That way other people will not be treated with this indignity.

Quote from: Kristi on March 19, 2011, 07:46:53 PM
You did so very well, a lot better than i would have done for sure.  I would not make a scene, but make sure afterwards that the manager and corporate office know exactly what happens.  That way other people will not be treated with this indignity.

You make a good case. Preventing her from treating other customers at the Waffle House like that would be helpful. However, if I got her fired, she'd just go somewhere else and have more of a grudge against our kind than before. Yet, by doing nothing, she continues her behavior. It's a dilemma.

You did behave yourself like a real lady.
That's the right way girl, always keep your head up, don't let them getting you down, they're not worth it.
I admire your selfcontrol.

hugs
annette

Quote from: SocialiteGypsy on March 19, 2011, 02:03:19 PM
It's sad when people treat you like you're the one doing something wrong.

Well said. Some people go so far out of their way to try to make a "point" so you didn't give in to that crap she was pulling and that was probably the best way to deal with it people like her.

I went to Subway with my grandma once and paid with my Visa with my birth name on it (didn't think anything of it at first) and after I signed the receipt the girl handed me back my Visa saying "here is your card, [SHOUTS BIRTH NAME HERE]." I was almost one year on hormones so either she was being a complete bitch or trying to make a joke thinking I was purposely using someone elses card.

Quote from: JayUnit on March 20, 2011, 12:57:31 AM
Well said. Some people go so far out of their way to try to make a "point" so you didn't give in to that crap she was pulling and that was probably the best way to deal with it people like her.

I went to Subway with my grandma once and paid with my Visa with my birth name on it (didn't think anything of it at first) and after I signed the receipt the girl handed me back my Visa saying "here is your card, [SHOUTS BIRTH NAME HERE]." I was almost one year on hormones so either she was being a complete bitch or trying to make a joke thinking I was purposely using someone elses card.

Sounds like a complete idiotic small brained bitch.
It's nice to walk away with your dignity. I did post ages ago about being insulted in a major retail store . I think I'm reasonably feminine looking but this cow called me sir in front of several woman. I was very angry and asked for the manager, she was fired immediately and the store sent around instructions of how customers were to be treated including advice on advising on which change rooms to use. If presenting as female the woman's change room if presenting as male the male change room. The nature of the clothes doesn't matter. If a 'man' wants to try on a dress that's fine.

I felt sad that she lost her job, but hey she was being obscenely rude to a customer.

Cindy

Quote from: CindyJames on March 20, 2011, 01:29:16 AM
Sounds like a complete idiotic small brained bitch.
It's nice to walk away with your dignity. I did post ages ago about being insulted in a major retail store . I think I'm reasonably feminine looking but this cow called me sir in front of several woman. I was very angry and asked for the manager, she was fired immediately and the store sent around instructions of how customers were to be treated including advice on advising on which change rooms to use. If presenting as female the woman's change room if presenting as male the male change room. The nature of the clothes doesn't matter. If a 'man' wants to try on a dress that's fine.

I felt sad that she lost her job, but hey she was being obscenely rude to a customer.

Cindy

Wow I would be so mad. She can't work in customer service and suck and servicing customers. She deserved to be fired. I don't know how she could even read you as male, you look are female. You actually look a lot like my stepmom too.

I like Nickikim's tactic. 
If the other customers are not regulars you could get away with it too.  I'd add, "and she's just jealous because I've always passed  better too."

Quote from: CindyJames on March 20, 2011, 01:29:16 AM
I did post ages ago about being insulted in a major retail store . I think I'm reasonably feminine looking but this cow called me sir in front of several woman. I was very angry and asked for the manager, she was fired immediately and the store sent around instructions of how customers were to be treated including advice on advising on which change rooms to use. If presenting as female the woman's change room if presenting as male the male change room. The nature of the clothes doesn't matter. If a 'man' wants to try on a dress that's fine.

Oh gawd... that triggered a memory from an event that happened about 7 or 8 years ago. I was in Kohl's in Alabama (I was a traveling photographer at the time) and found some cute things in the juniors department that I wanted to try on. I think I was completely dressed like a girl - makeup, and everything. I even approached the nearest salesgirl and asked where I could try on the clothes and she pointed me to the women's dressing room.

Two minutes inside, I hear from just outside the dressing rooms: Southern-accented older woman's voice: "Is anyone in there?" Me: "Um... yes." Woman: "Sir, you need to get out of there. This is Birmingham. We don't that stuff here."

I was so embarrassed that I got dressed quickly and hurried out. I definitely did not have my head held high that time. I was also young and didn't know how to handle that situation.