I was wondering how you cope when times get hard, being transsexual/transgender etc can bring with it many ups and down and as I'm sure you can all agree there can be some really dark sad times, How do you cope with these? What do you do when things get really tough?

Normally I have been able to cope reasonably well in times like this but sadly on Saturday things got too much for me and I couldn't see way out. It was then I decided that the world would be better of without me and I set about trying to comit suicide. If it wasn't for friends online who realised something was up I would not be here now, Luckily they alerted the emergency services and I was rushed to hospital.

At the moment I feel like I have moved on from this, but what happens if this comes around again? What if I feel like I really cant cope anymore? I'm hoping that some of you can share some advice on you deal with feeling like this.

I think it would be a good idea to go visit your friends when you're feeling down. Sleep over, play boardgames, do fun stuff with them. I feel it is always a bit easier to get my mind of problems if I'm not in my own home.

Hi Jussie,

I think lots of us have been there. I know I have and I know tragically that I have lost friends at Susan's who gave in.

The way that some of us have done it is to establish a network of friends we can call or post or whatever, who know what TG is.
It is also VERY important to look at the medical side. Ate you depressed and is it clinical depression and is it treatable. Fortunately most depression is treatable and very easily treated.  I was slow I couldn't crawl and after going on quite mild drugs I'm living life to a point where I am so happy with myself that my friends at Susan's phone me up to tell me to calm down . So go to your family Doc and discuss. I'm not sure what part of the world you are in but post and local members may have advice.

Deal with the problems. This is the one everyone hates. Why are you depressed is it chemical imbalance? Is it putting up with your life? Is it fear about being who you are? Or even not understanding 'what' you are?  A gender therapist is a really good help here. Again access varies around the world. I'm in Australia and our therapists for TG issues are psychiatrists, in the USA there are trained 'gender specialists' so again we can help you more by having some more info.

The total and complete loneliness and none acceptance of Jussie by the world.  We are totally use to that one Honey . At Susie's we are totally used to newbies not realising that we understand. There is no way that we cannot understand, we have all been or live in the same situation.

A big piece of advice. Join us, post, develop friendships. There is no reason to be alone again, Ever. We are world wide , someone is on the board all the time. Just say Hi. Ask for help or a chat.

Take care Darling

Hugs

Cindy

Hi, glad to read that you are still with us.  Along with all the suggestions above, I would think that probably 90% of the people here have had to battle with Depression to a greater or lesser degree.

  In my case, for most of the last 40 years, the first 10 or so undiagnosed or treated.  Thanks to the lovely people here ,I now intend to hang around and  grab life by the scruff of the neck and shake it until it rattles!  Be a difficult woman if neccessary, but have the life you deserve, sis.

Karen.

Thanks for the comments. I will take on board what you have said. I joined this forum with the hope of finding more like minded friends so hopefully I will not feel so cut off and desperate as I did that night. x

Being Tg and transitioning (or even planing on transitioning) is very hard and add the hormones and lack of hormones into the mix and it's an even bigger challenge. I have had a few times recently that my mood has turned really dark almost without notice and takes a while to shake. It helps so much to have someone you can call at any time to talk to, that understands where you are.

Good luck with all of this and I'm glad you are still with us!

Hugs,
Stacy

Quote from: StacyBeaumont on April 07, 2011, 11:49:40 AM
Being Tg and transitioning (or even planing on transitioning) is very hard and add the hormones and lack of hormones into the mix and it's an even bigger challenge. I have had a few times recently that my mood has turned really dark almost without notice and takes a while to shake. It helps so much to have someone you can call at any time to talk to, that understands where you are.

Good luck with all of this and I'm glad you are still with us!

Hugs,
Stacy

Thanks Stacy. I think part of my problem was that I already had underlying mental health issues before transition which I used to be closely monitored for but when my Psych agreed to refer me to Charring Cross GIC he said he could only refer me If I wasn't receiving treatment for an underlying mental health disorder so I reluctantly agree to come away from the care Id been receiving previously. Seems like a weird approach to me

Sure sounds weird. My Psych knew I was on anti-depressants and that it was important I stay on them.

Cindy

Quote from: CindyJames on April 08, 2011, 03:04:38 AM
Sure sounds weird. My Psych knew I was on anti-depressants and that it was important I stay on them.

Cindy

It may have been due to the severity and nature of my mental health. I wasn't on just med's for depression but also anti psychotics and a cocktail of other meds.