So, the very last thing I want to come across when posting is offensive... But I just want to get a further understanding of myself... and what it means to be androgynous from you guys. I was raised (as I'm sure many of you were) by things having to be THIS OR THAT, and nothing inbetween. So it's really hard to grasp the concept of being something inbetween (which I always seem to be in the middle on everything). Growing up friends would make me choose which one of them I liked better... or if people were in an arguement I had to pick aside... And then when I realized I liked both boys and girls... I always felt pressured that I had to pick one or the other, and if I liked both I would be considered not as dedicated to the partner I choose because I'm only "half" straight and "half" lesbian (Yes I know the term is bisexual) ...and so on. I could continue to list examples, but I'll only list one more. Lately with my "this or that" battle I've been wondering about my gender, and what I am. I appear as female, but I could pull off being a guy. I think about being a guy constantly... and I want to be one... yet I still want to be a female too. And in society it's clear to me... that it is definitely this or that. Yes there are Unisex bathrooms, but their not at every place I goto... and when applications are filled out for jobs, college, whatever... it's male or female. And I have only recently been wanting to show this other side to me that I've been hiding. Anyway, I was wondering from all of you... Do you feel like more like one gender than the other? What does it mean for you to be androgynous, transsexual, or whatever you like to be considered as? To everyone I'm considered female... but inside I know there's more too me. And being very new to this thinking of being inbetween... I just want to hear how you've dealt with this problem... and what it means to you to be considered both (or neutral)? I don't have in depth knowledge on this, and I hope hearing what your takes on it will help me understand myself better, and just this subject in general. -Charlie (I hope I posted this in the right place.)