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Started by bethw, April 13, 2011, 12:38:32 PM

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bethw

I'm not on hormones yet but have had my prostate removed. I guess my T is low. I'm not complaining. It can go away. I was out to lunch with a guy I work with and he was learing at the girl behind the bar. All of a sudden this guy came out from the back room and went behind the bar. He was gorgeous. I had thoughts of him and me....... I have never had these thoughts before, what is going on? Could my head be getting ahead of my body? I'm so confused, I know I have to do something really soon. My GP knows and I'm seeing her in a couple of months again. If i can wait that long. I may have to go the self med route in the meantime.
Thanks for any help.
Hugs
Beth
" To live is to dance. To dance is to live." Snoopy (aka Charles Shultz)
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Melody Maia

Sometimes self-acceptance can bring forth feelings that were suppressed. I always wondered if that might happen to me and decided early on that if it happens, it happens. No use worrying about it.
and i know that i'm never alone
and i know that my heart is my home
Every missing piece of me
I can find in a melody



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bethw

Thanks Melody. That helps a lot. These are things I never imagined feeling before.
Hugs
Beth
" To live is to dance. To dance is to live." Snoopy (aka Charles Shultz)
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bethw

I'm not really worried about it Melody. After some more thought I realized  that it was probably a normal reaction. He was cute and built. i was feeling more the real me so why not these thoughts right?
Hugs
Beth
" To live is to dance. To dance is to live." Snoopy (aka Charles Shultz)
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justmeinoz

Sounds fairly normal to me!  Personally, after flip-flopping like a landed fish for the last couple of years my orientation has settled too.  However I would have been checking out the barmaid .  ;)
Karen.
"Don't ask me, it was on fire when I lay down on it"
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bethw

I still enjoy doing that too karen. Thanks
Hugs
beth
" To live is to dance. To dance is to live." Snoopy (aka Charles Shultz)
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Dana Lane

Before I came to terms with things, I would have considered myself a bit homophobic (in the context of a man getting close to me). I felt it wasn't masculine. I was pretty much in denial. As I started my transition I broke down all sexual barriers and let them be reborn. I have absolutely no problem being close to guys now. Well, accept for the creep dirtbags.
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Former TS Separatist who feels deep regret
http://www.transadvocate.com/category/dana-taylor
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bethw

" To live is to dance. To dance is to live." Snoopy (aka Charles Shultz)
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Britney♥Bieber

I've been experiencing the same thing in a slightly different way haha. So before transition I was gay gay gay and I'd NEVER do anything with a girl, ewww. And I started identifying as a straight woman, who still wanted nothing but men. The past month I've have some confusing feelings about my best friend and females in general and what I've settled on is, I've always been bi. I've always loved women and I've always been attracted to them. I think I never let myself be sexually attracted to them because I was stuck on being jealous of them. But everyday I wake up I feel more like a girl and less jealous of other girls. Then I'll walk past an extremely beautiful girl and feel like crawling in a hole but I've heard that's normal for cis girls too.

bethw

Sounds very familiar Britney. I've always been attracted to women and then this. Yikes!! Very strange feeling. Nice. But strange.
Thank you all for your input.
Hugs
beth
" To live is to dance. To dance is to live." Snoopy (aka Charles Shultz)
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Janet_Girl

There is a term for those who are attracted to both Men and Women.  It is call Bi.  Which I am.   ;D
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Dana Lane

BTW, wait until you start hormones and your pheromones change. :-)
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Former TS Separatist who feels deep regret
http://www.transadvocate.com/category/dana-taylor
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bethw

Oh boy Dana. something to look forward to. i never thought of that one.
" To live is to dance. To dance is to live." Snoopy (aka Charles Shultz)
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Juliet

Maybe he was just THAT good looking.  LOL

RabbitsOfTheWorldUnite

I love checking out cute guys as well but, for them, I'm just a tease. I 've always fallen for older guys instead and though the youngest guy I've ever been with was 14 at the time, I've NEVER been with anyone who was younger than me!
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bethw

I'm telling you ladies he was q hunk. Tall, good looking and broad at the shoulders. You could tell he worked out but he wasn't all muscle. Thank you again for all of your comments. Thanks Valerie, I hope I made your day with the title.
Hugs to all
Beth
" To live is to dance. To dance is to live." Snoopy (aka Charles Shultz)
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MRH

I must admit something similar is happening to me. Ive always liked men and i've never had any desire to be with a woman (except for my brief crush on Lara Croft when I was 6) but recently I have looked at women in a different way. I still like men and would prefer to have a male partner but I am starting to have some attraction to women. At first I thought it was because as a man I would want to be accepted and I felt uncomfortable being labelled "gay" so perhaps I was making myself like women but maybe its because, as I'm accepting myself loads of other things are coming forward too. I see myself as a gay man still but if the opportunity came to be with a woman maybe i'd take it.
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bethw

You see MRH. It can happen on either side of the fence. Just enjoy.
Hugs
Beth
" To live is to dance. To dance is to live." Snoopy (aka Charles Shultz)
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bethw

You can qoute me all you want Valerie but remember when your book is published i want a % of the royalties. Lol
Hugs
Beth
" To live is to dance. To dance is to live." Snoopy (aka Charles Shultz)
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Jayne

I've often seen men that I think are attractive but it's never been a problem to ignore, until now.

Since coming out & telling people that I wish to be a woman i've had some suprising reactions, it's as if the tough male emotions i'd been trying to emulate had disolved overnight, I then found over the next few weeks that I wasn't just seeing men that were attractive but men that I was attracted to.
This really hit home last week when a man at work told me that he wanted to find a new job because one of the other men at work has been bullying him for the last 10 years, I had to fight the urge to give this man a big hug & tell him that everything would be fine, I then realised that i've got a crush on this bloke.
There's also another man at work that i'm attracted to, one of the women joked that he could be the man to 'pop my cherry' once the transition is complete & I couldn't control my blushing, fortunately this man was really good natured about this reaction & still doesn't treat me any differently since this incident, i'm going to have to learn to control my reactions better in future as this could have turned out very badly had he not been secure about his (& my) sexuality
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