I know we are all different. I told my then girl friend early in the relationship. I dressed for her so she knew what I looked like, shudder to think now what I looked like

Married 28 yrs. We both knew I was sterile, from a physical attack, but we tried for children. It was way before IVF. So we lived on. She was never interested in lesbian sex, and we (I) gave up male sex about 20 years ago. It just didn't work anymore. We are still married, I live at home now a days 3/4 time as the true me. My wife is in a Nursing home and I remain PT to protect her dignity, and other reasons.

We have had a wonderful life together. And I love her completely.

Cindy

Quote from: CindyJames on April 24, 2011, 04:13:35 AM
I know we are all different. I told my then girl friend early in the relationship. I dressed for her so she knew what I looked like, shudder to think now what I looked like

Married 28 yrs. We both knew I was sterile, from a physical attack, but we tried for children. It was way before IVF. So we lived on. She was never interested in lesbian sex, and we (I) gave up male sex about 20 years ago. It just didn't work anymore. We are still married, I live at home now a days 3/4 time as the true me. My wife is in a Nursing home and I remain PT to protect her dignity, and other reasons.

We have had a wonderful life together. And I love her completely.

Cindy

You are an absolute lady, Cindy, and I count your wife as extremely fortunate to have you.

Quote from: Izumi on April 21, 2011, 12:12:50 PM
Typically if your SO is the same sex as you and not gay or lesbian your marriage will end, but your relationship doesnt have to.

If I had been honest with myself, I never would have married my now-ex.  But I thought marriage would make the feelings go away (ahahahaha!!).  So we got married, we fell apart, we divorced, all totally unrelated to my gender identity.  The divorce itself got ugly, and we thankfully had no kids.

When I came out on Facebook a few weeks back, I left the security light so peripheral people I may know would see.  My ex was one of those.  She called and we had a very amiable conversation after two years of radio silence.  She said she wished I had told her I was trans while we were married; the marriage still would have ended (she's not attracted to women) but she would have given me her full love and support and we could have parted as friends.  One thing I can say about her, something I knew while we were married, was that she was among the most LGBT-friendly people I ever knew.  We're actually going to meet up this week, her first time seeing the real me.

Cindy, you are such a kind and gentle soul.

Zoe, it sounds like you are in a path of reconciliation with your ex and that strikes a chord with me.

Both of your stories brought tears to my eyes this Easter morning.

Regardless of my most recent SOs' orientation, I didn't feel right going through transition while maintaining sexual relations from the past.

I have no doubt that every one of these relationships blinded me from my problem, being with them made me feel happier and I didn't spend much time thinking about it.

Cross-dressing around them was rare and more of a joke although they probably had a better idea of what I really was, than I did at the time. I managed to meet women who were very open-minded, and so was able to be open about my decision. What shocked me more was the admissions from some of the friends that I told, that they were secretly bi or gay.