No one said there would be homework.

Barbara De Angelis writes that when she reads Sara's account of her day to audiences at her seminars, the audience is sharply divided along gender lines.  The men think that Sara is a 'kook', a 'psycho-bitch' and even mentally disturbed.     The women are very surprised at this.   When De Angelis asks the women in the audience 'how is Sara behaving?'   They shout out 'Sara is a woman in love'.   In other words she isn't 'scary', a 'bunny-boiler', or 'deranged'.   If you still doubt this let me outline De Angelis' thinking.    According to her women live in a 'love universe'.   Women put love first. *  Thinking about Joseph this much doesn't seem at all strange to women.  They don't see Sara's concern for Joseph as at all excessive.  It is normal behaviour for a woman in love.
De Angelis employs an interesting metaphor.  She asks us to imagine a woman's mind like one of those New York lofts where you can see everything from one point.  The whole room  is dedicated to love(in its widest sense).    Men on the other hand live in a house with many rooms.   In a man's mind there is a 'love room', a 'work room', and 'fun room', a 'TV room' and a 'sports room' and also a 'retreating to his cave room', and many other rooms besides.    The reason De Angelis says that Joseph is annoyed at Sara's phone calls is NOT because he doesn't love her, it is because he is in his 'work room' and resents what he perceives as Sara's attempt to drag him from the room of his choice to the room of her choice: the 'love room'.    Remember every room is the 'love room' as far as women are concerned.    Sara, argues De Angelis, doesn't realise that men live in many different rooms and she interprets his alleged coolness towards her as being as sign that he doesn't love her as she loves him.

* Men put status first.

I think Sara is kind of scary, myself. If this is typical female behavior (and I'm suspicious that it is), then I'm glad I'm into men.

So, why are you posting these? What do you hope to accomplish?

I'd be very wary of such general and vague theories, especially if confirmed in a seminar - where the leader is definitely in control of the mood.

Tekla posted : De Angelis received a master's degree in psychology from Sierra University in Los Angeles, and a Ph.D. in psychology from Columbia Pacific University. She was awarded her degree from this now-defunct unaccredited institution after completing a correspondence course.

I sit on ethics committees and read  sociology studies from very good scholars that are flawed.  It is a VERY difficult area to work in, and really good sociologists are amazing. I totally respect them.  Untrained inexperienced people are common, they can sound OK but once you get under the veneer there is nothing but self opinionated comment, that is pushed forward to 'help' people who are the most vulnerable in that particular circumstance.

The best self help book is a blank page, a pen and write down your problems, then write down you strengths, write down your weaknesses. then decide where you want to go in life.  Look at the lists and make a plan.

Cindy

Well I get the feeling that she's in love with Joseph (sorry for pointing out the obvious!)