I have been cross dressing for years, and I do truly feel like a woman. The problem is that While I want to be a woman, I am scared to try for an operation.

I really just need some advice and someone to talk to. If you know about the topic please email/call/write me at:

samfarmer@juno.com

May I suggest that is perfectly normal and desirable.

It's going to take a load of time for you to sort out you, who you are and what you need to do.

But take your time. Read the posting and information on Susans' and post your own points as they arise.

Like spacial said, it takes a long time to fully understand your own gender identity.

The best thing I can suggest is to read as much as you can and interact with other people in the same position as you. Also, seeing a therapist can be extremely helpful to talk about these feelings and anything else that may be bothering you.

Lastly, surgery should be the last thing you are thinking about right now. Many other things like coming out, hormones and transitioning come before that. Plenty of people don't even get surgery.

Good advice from both Spacial and Gingertrap. Take your time. There is really no need to rush into anything drastic at this stage.
It took me nearly 20 years to make any form of decision as to where I want to go to with my life as far as my gender is concerned, even though I've always known that there was this girl within who wanted to come out.

Speak to gender therapist if you have to. You will also find lots of helpful info on the forums.

Best of luck sweetie.

Huggs

Maegan

Quote from: Valeriedances on May 19, 2011, 06:29:49 AM
Since several people have responded to this thread, I'll give my input (as a community service).  I've been watching this post since it was first created.

It may not be obvious but this may be a troll post for these reasons:

1. The author hasnt posted any followup
2. They are new members with only 1 post count
3. Their initial screen name was obscene
4. They included personal contact information phone number, house address, email in the post (that was removed by the mods, except for the email).
5. They are inviting contact outside of this site

I dont recommend anyone sending anything to that email address. It may well belong to someone other than the author, who may not respond well to what is sent and may well end up causing you grief or embarrassment.

Also, I dont want you kind souls to take your valuable time responding here (unaware) if the authors intentions are other than pure.

As the geologist said, my sediments exactly!

Thanks for the warning Valerie. I am a bit of a blonde when it comes to trolls etc.