Did I pass? Hell no. Did I care, yes and no.

First we went food shopping....I got anxiety, but people were very nice, so I just conversed very nicely back like I would anyways.

I did get anxiety pretty strong for moments, causing some serious nausea, but I just kept pushing.

Next we went to a day spa and got massage, pedi and facials. It was all good, but we got split up during pedis and I wound up in close quarters with 5 other women. 

Here is where I chickened out, they kept using male pronouns and I didnt come clean, however, they were also talking about a lady cutting her husbands penis off and throwing it in the garbage disposal. Then one girl was talking ->-bleeped-<- about how her friend was sitting, who happened to be sitting just like me.   I cramped up, but still tried to be confident. I wanted to cry, but I pushed through.

As far as attire, I just had on sandals, short shorts and a tee, nothing extravagant.  My eyes were done up all pretty, and I felt cute, but the whole pedicure experience messed me up. In hindsight I wonder if it would of been different if I came out and said I was trans......

Anyways...I am fighting the fear, on top of that I just watched milk and it makes me want to stand proud, however here in Nevada I will have NO civil rights until october 1st, so I figure I should wait until october 2nd.  If anything, my existence will teach people quite a bit about themselves.   

Kudos! Glad your day worked out. It sucks having moved 3k miles from where I've called home for five years. Time to dig in and meet new friends. Certainly not about to go for a spa day alone, that would be bonkers. Wish I had your guts. I'm a bit curious how you, and this woman, were sitting so that the one woman called the other out.

bravo!! a tremendous step ahead 

Going to "my" Beauty Parlour (Spa?) I think it's essential to come clean/come out.

I had a LOT of talks with my beautician that does my electrolysis, nails, and waxing.
Facial is still waiting till I find my face still more "clean". Like peach fluff rather then some of these nasty left over "beard shoots".

If you don't come clean it tends to be more spooky for the girls. I was told this more then once, so PLEASE take note. Otherwise they might think you are some sort of perv.
No such problem if you come out.

Lastly, I go for full bikini (Brazilian), legs, arms, under arms wax.
My waxing beautician just calls my "extra" (pre-op) the "BAD" and we are having laughter and fun no end. Like she'd go: "lift the BAD now" and such. :-)

So the "BAD" including the flip-side (bum crack) all get waxed about every 40 days. And I am really accepted by them for who I am --- but no BS please.

One TG acquaintance did not come clean, it was before my time there, and the poor girls got really kind of spooked, because you can't then really be straight with them.
Very stressful it be for oneself too.

There's of course no need for coming out with the shop ladies. Just be sweet as you were, and that should do the trick.

Wish you luck!

Quote from: jillian on July 17, 2011, 06:13:33 PM
Did I pass? Hell no. Did I care, yes and no.

First we went food shopping....I got anxiety, but people were very nice, so I just conversed very nicely back like I would anyways.

I did get anxiety pretty strong for moments, causing some serious nausea, but I just kept pushing.

Next we went to a day spa and got massage, pedi and facials. It was all good, but we got split up during pedis and I wound up in close quarters with 5 other women. 

Here is where I chickened out, they kept using male pronouns and I didnt come clean, however, they were also talking about a lady cutting her husbands penis off and throwing it in the garbage disposal. Then one girl was talking ->-bleeped-<- about how her friend was sitting, who happened to be sitting just like me.   I cramped up, but still tried to be confident. I wanted to cry, but I pushed through.

As far as attire, I just had on sandals, short shorts and a tee, nothing extravagant.  My eyes were done up all pretty, and I felt cute, but the whole pedicure experience messed me up. In hindsight I wonder if it would of been different if I came out and said I was trans......

Anyways...I am fighting the fear, on top of that I just watched milk and it makes me want to stand proud, however here in Nevada I will have NO civil rights until october 1st, so I figure I should wait until october 2nd.  If anything, my existence will teach people quite a bit about themselves.   

Jill you should be very proud of what you did i could never get that kind of courage so i think your one brave cookie

Bravo Jillian!  For a first day that was a big step. 

At least the women in the Pedicure room didn't freak out, probably thought you were gay or just a really odd looking woman

It will get better, and so quickly you will be amazed.  If you are a repeat customer and they get to know you, you will be one of the girls, and get all the goss etc.   And let me tell you, that feels wonderful.

I had my shoulders and back waxed a couple of weeks ago, so had to out myself to the beautician before I took my top off.  Once I had, and after I answered a few questions about the whole transition process as we started the waxing, we got on really great. I will be back soon for a leg wax.

Have fun.

Karen.

thanks for the positive vibes girls :-)

@ whitney, we just had our knees together.   I had on short shorts and I didnt want anything surprising anyone.....

I think for know on in those kinds of situations, Im just going to come clean.

The awkward thing was, I went with my partner, and they were askign her about her "husband" before I even got there.
She is having a difficult time, not so much with me, but how to discuss it socially.
I am not blaming her, its just when I showed up (because each part was at a different station, and the deal had one person working on each specific part)
everyone knew all about me, except for the most important part..lol. 

Quote from: jillian on July 18, 2011, 06:43:30 AM
thanks for the positive vibes girls :-)

@ whitney, we just had our knees together.   I had on short shorts and I didnt want anything surprising anyone.....

I think for know on in those kinds of situations, Im just going to come clean.

The awkward thing was, I went with my partner, and they were askign her about her "husband" before I even got there.
She is having a difficult time, not so much with me, but how to discuss it socially.
I am not blaming her, its just when I showed up (because each part was at a different station, and the deal had one person working on each specific part)
everyone knew all about me, except for the most important part..lol. 

awww so your wife still accepts and loves you *hugzz* and at least you didnt get comments like did when i tried it out  its great no one made fun of you because you are just being you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

first time was okay.   
I was convinced we would get kicked out of places.

She does love me, thanks Zoey.

Quote from: jillian on July 18, 2011, 07:26:45 AM
first time was okay.   
I was convinced we would get kicked out of places.

She does love me, thanks Zoey.

Never trust me i get monthly facials and stuff at spa's they all just think i am metro-sexual or gay so there for when a girl like you enters they have no reason to kick you out

Maybe your wife should just say they are just jealous because she has a partner who actually WANTS to go shopping, and have pedicures!

Quote from: justmeinoz on July 18, 2011, 07:35:43 AM
Maybe your wife should just say they are just jealous because she has a partner who actually WANTS to go shopping, and have pedicures!

haha i love that  but yea i agree they just jealous