Ah...the loo...terrible experiences but funny too lol

I started using the male bathroom just recently - twice so far. Once I was alone so not much trouble. But another there was a guy using the urinals. I was very emarrassed and I was afraid he'd see my boobs.

Not so long ago I preferred using the female bathroom since I was wearing my bra and my boobs looked well...feminine lol
And there was this guy who was holding the men's bathroom door open for me. I was kinda embarrassed but it was funny. I just ordered my binder and it's on the way I guess, so now I don't have to be embarrassed.

And oh, another thing. When I use the female bathroom, they all just stare to see if I have boobs because I don't have big ones fortunately and I can easily hide them with wearing a baggy t-shirt

Nearly 7 months into my transition I had a car mechanic tell me: "the women's room is through the hall and the men's room is through the doorway to the left."

Passfail to me. But at least maybe he thought I was adolescent enough to to the men's room? Whatever. I've been using the men's room since starting testosterone. I feel icky and wrong being in the women's room.

Quote from: hexr on July 21, 2011, 03:04:48 AM
I have learned that I am not missing much when I don't use the men's washroom. The ones I've been in are really gross. Apparently cis-gendered men don't feel any reason not to piss and ->-bleeped-<- all over the bathroom. Among other things.

Wondering where you're living, because my experience is the opposite - it's the women's restrooms with piss and ->-bleeped-<- all over. Among other things. Men's rooms are generally pretty damn clean by comparison.

Quote from: BMXJake on July 20, 2011, 07:02:45 PM
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Anyone else want to share similar experiences?

Found this thread inspired with one of the recent threads.

In fact I wished to share my first experience in woman's restroom. It has been a while. When I got in there, I examined the seat /habit/. No kidding, it had a ->-bleeped-<- smear on it. I cursed. Used toilet paper to remove it and then covered the whole seat with more toilet paper before sitting there.

The funny thing is, I have never had to remove someone's ->-bleeped-<- form a seat before. Hated it!

I've seen some pretty filthy washrooms, both men's and women's, so I think it really depends where you're at.  I also had many incidents when I used to use the women's washroom.  I went to a casino with my then girlfriend,her mother, and her cousin (MTF), and we all went to the washroom together (like most women do go washroom in a pack ).  We were the only ones in there to begin with, then a well-dressed middle age lady walked in and saw me from the mirror and screamed!  She literally ran outside yelling "there's a man in the washroom! security!"  My girlfriend and her cousin went outside first and told the security "she's a woman".  I can never defend myself by saying "i'm a woman" because it's just wrong  .  So when I went outside, the security looked at me and before he opens his mouth, I was ready with my ID and put it in his face.  He looked at it and nodded so I walked away.  That woman however was questioning the security and wanting to see my ID.  So I turned around and said, "you have no rights to see my ID, but I do have the rights to demand an apology from you!" and walked away.  Although I was happy deep inside that I was seen as male, it was so awkward because it got confrontational.  Using the men's washroom even pre-T was never an issue because most men just go in, do their business, and out.

ive never had a problem. that isnt to say it doesnt happen, but men are very strange to be honest!

its so taboo to make eye contact with other dudes in the mens room that like, cis guys are TERRIFIED to do it. My brother, cis straight dude, taught me the ins and outs of the mens room, which i will share with you!

-Dont make eye contact, but dont look like youre trying not to make eye contact.
-act like you 100% belong there. if theres a line, look bored or annoyed, check your phone. Look nonchalant, even if youre nervous.
-go in, do your business, go out. lots of cis guys prefer to use the stalls to pee, and even pee sitting down!
-if you ARE confronted, continue the appearence of belonging. Even if you are freaking out inside, if someone asks you 'you know this is the mens room right?' be confident and say something like 'you know im a dude, right?'
-be confident, but not overly so. Chances are, nobody will even pay you any mind anyways. I wasnt even binding the first time i used a mens room, not a single person cared and it was a crowded disneyland bathroom. dont look like youre out to prove something, just look really bored.

Sometimes, things can happen. it can be scary and even violent, and its actually better to go in a crowded bathroom than a deserted one, because if theres people around nobody will mess with you. If you ARE met with violence, do your absolute best to get outside of the bathroom. Always use bathrooms that have people outside them (a waiting area or somewhere with a lot of foot traffic) or even take a buddy with you. Nobody will think twice if two dudes go in together, as long as they arent in the stall or something. Be safe, but try not to worry too much about it!

I use boys restroom.So far nobody asked me anything.At University I told to people I'm intersexual.Since we study medical related field they're all totally cool with medical issues.Outside Uni I also take a risk when I have to go...bigger problem is that I'm disgusted by public toilets,they're often very dirty..Maybe people don't react because they don't notice fear...I enter so sure because it's natural.Of course i always use cabins.Most is about attitude so far.Oh and I have flat chest,it helps A LOT,no need to bind them most of the time.Sometimes I don't shave and then I have beard.

It's more awkward for me to use the women's room. I think I pass pretty well now, so if I use the women's room I just get these stares, hence why I use the men's room. I just go in a stall. It's funny actually I was at pride this month and they have coed bathrooms, guys and chicks share, two stalls and a wall full of urinals, so all the chicks waiting for the stalls, I'm waiting and this guy behind me goes you know there's urinals back there you don't need to wait. My reply was I'm pee shy, I like the stall lol I never had anyone say anything to me when it comes to using stalls, guys don't really say much or notice.

Quote from: Ryan55 on June 28, 2015, 07:06:55 AM
It's more awkward for me to use the women's room. I think I pass pretty well now, so if I use the women's room I just get these stares, hence why I use the men's room. I just go in a stall. It's funny actually I was at pride this month and they have coed bathrooms, guys and chicks share, two stalls and a wall full of urinals, so all the chicks waiting for the stalls, I'm waiting and this guy behind me goes you know there's urinals back there you don't need to wait. My reply was I'm pee shy, I like the stall lol I never had anyone say anything to me when it comes to using stalls, guys don't really say much or notice.

Honestly I hate to be the guy who says this and generalize, but I swear straight guys are so afraid of being perceived as gay they are too scared to say anything in the bathrooms anyways. Most of them anyways lol

Boys and girls are just...different. girls socialize in the bathroom, chat and whatever. Guys don't. Its just a thing I guess.

One day, I went into the men's room (as a cis man) and found a woman in there at the mirror... putting makeup on her male friend?  I don't really know what was going on.  It was a bit crowded, and I had to pee.  And you don't go staring at people in the men's room.

I beelined to the urinal... and one of the guys with the woman started to tell me off!  He realized what he was saying, and shut his trap.  If she was going to be offended by seeing guys standing in front of urinals, she wouldn't be in the men's room.  She didn't even glance at me.

Don't look.  Don't talk.  Better yet, hold your breath.  Wipe the seat before you sit down.  You'll survive.

Men who know eachother will often walk into a restroom together in the middle of conversation, stand at adjacent urinals and keep talking.  Many guys will say "don't talk to me when I've got my cock in my hand."  It's a lot easier to admit that you're homophobic than pee-shy.  Also, machismo insists that touching your cock sexualizes the entire context somehow.   Pissing becomes an expression of manhood -- it's a territorial thing.  Talking to strangers means acknowledging that you and a competing male are simultaneously, paradoxically, marking the same territory and not killing eachother over it.  I wonder if this isn't a hard-wired reflex that we make up stupid justifications for.

Quote from: FlightyBrood on June 28, 2015, 03:02:40 AM
ive never had a problem. that isnt to say it doesnt happen, but men are very strange to be honest!

its so taboo to make eye contact with other dudes in the mens room that like, cis guys are TERRIFIED to do it. My brother, cis straight dude, taught me the ins and outs of the mens room, which i will share with you!

-Dont make eye contact, but dont look like youre trying not to make eye contact.
-act like you 100% belong there. if theres a line, look bored or annoyed, check your phone. Look nonchalant, even if youre nervous.
-go in, do your business, go out. lots of cis guys prefer to use the stalls to pee, and even pee sitting down!
-if you ARE confronted, continue the appearence of belonging. Even if you are freaking out inside, if someone asks you 'you know this is the mens room right?' be confident and say something like 'you know im a dude, right?'
-be confident, but not overly so. Chances are, nobody will even pay you any mind anyways. I wasnt even binding the first time i used a mens room, not a single person cared and it was a crowded disneyland bathroom. dont look like youre out to prove something, just look really bored.

Sometimes, things can happen. it can be scary and even violent, and its actually better to go in a crowded bathroom than a deserted one, because if theres people around nobody will mess with you. If you ARE met with violence, do your absolute best to get outside of the bathroom. Always use bathrooms that have people outside them (a waiting area or somewhere with a lot of foot traffic) or even take a buddy with you. Nobody will think twice if two dudes go in together, as long as they arent in the stall or something. Be safe, but try not to worry too much about it!

Yeah this is pretty much it. It's one of the reasons i still opt to use the men's atm. I'm at this point were i feel a little unsure as to how people are perceiving me. At least in the men's no one actually cares as to who walks in and does their business, can't be so sure about the women's.