Hmmm I'm not desperate for a boyfriend yet... I enjoy being single for now, but I do make myself look just a little cute when I go out (I always wear a little white hair clip for example), though that's just for myself and not for the guys!

Quote from: regan on August 02, 2011, 09:20:43 PM
I was a little creeped out by his comment to begin with, now that fact that he's twice your age has me wondering if he's had those same thoughts about his own daughters' bra and now I'm really creeped out. 

Yes indeed! I'll definitely make sure I don't let him see anything remotely intimate again. I'm a little scared, since he's my neighbour and not just someone on the street whom I'll never see again.

But maybe it's the culture I was brought up in... even if he were of my own age group, I still wouldn't take it well. Even if I knew that that's supposed to be showing his interest in *me* instead of my *underwear*, doesn't it feel more ike "I'm interested in dating you so I can have sex with you" instead of liking who I really am? I don't know...

I don't necessarily TRY to dress sexy. However, functionality sometimes looks sexy??

re the bra comment: The word of the day is- "sleazy."  Especially given an age difference.

Depends entirely on the comment and where it is made.  What would be a total shock in Church, could be welcomed in a nightclub.  Any decent guy should know the difference.

Karen.

Actually when chatting online, I've had many guys saying inappropriately sexual things to me, but that never bothered me and I just think they are idiots (some guys are decent in real life but are seriously complete jerks online)—and they can't do anything to me anyway.

On the other hand if someone I've known for a while is saying that to me face-to-face right at my front door, I feel... unsafe. Maybe I'm overreacting but... I'm making sure he never comes alone into my unit again like he did before.

But I suppose I had better harden up and get used to it. I have the feeling it won't be the last time men say inappropriate things to me in real life.

I seem to have found rather its in public or on the AARP forums that when a man takes you for being a woman especially an unattached woman they sort of move in on you.   Either try and make you part of their haram or think that you they are so much man that you want to play with their little thingy.   My problem is that however I was or am I am not much of a flirt and an shy about making sex talk in public or with strangers.    I have seen people flirt on the bus and guys do the pick up thing at bus stops.   But I sorta shy up.   I can chat with about anybody sometimes.   And at other times I am empty brained without any hint of even tiny tiny thought and completely speechless.   Yes here I can ramble with my fingers.   

But I really see the world differently as a woman.   The other strange thing I have picked upon is that some places are estrogen and mother woman laden.    The University of my state has a public hospital complex which I go to.   When I go to their eye clinic everything about it smells and feels estrogeny.   It feels strange and I feel that as a woman with male parts problem (I still have them) I sort of am one of the females.   I certainly don't identify with any of the men there.   And their are men there so I don't know why I perceive it like it is a female maternity clinic.   I go with my spouse for most all of the kids doctors visits and the health system is kinda divided between the kids and pregnant women's health care in one clinic and the adult men and women who are not pregnant in another. 

I definitely feel more comfortable in the estrogen laden atmospheres and just one of the ladies than I would ever feel in testosterone dominated ones. 

For most of my life I have been oblivious to either one in most public places.   Except in the small rural towns I lived in the 1970 where all of the men sat on one side of the room and all of the women on the other.   

Do I have a point, I thought I did, I guess I need to go powder my nose, and check my lip stick and see if my mascara has run.

Bye

I get a lot of guys commenting me telling me i am sexy and stuff. Of course, I am not the easiest person to talk to. I am often aggressive... I can see the look in their eyes and see their heads move when I walk in the room. I get told I look "nice", "good", "cute" "pretty", etc twice or three times a day. I have guys stopping their cars for me when I am wearing jeans and a t-shirt.

I dress sexy sometimes. My clothes pretty much consist of tunics, leggings, boots, etc... But I don't overdo it. Guys pay attention to me no matter what I wear even my work uniform. Whether it's here, on the train, or in other Cities.

I try not to dress slutty. But short shorts do come out on hot days.

I've never been complimented but I have on very rare occasions had guys come onto me. I know I'm not attractive but I also don't dress to impress.

Quote from: Annah on August 02, 2011, 03:03:37 AM
I really do not have a desire to look sexy for anyone. For me, it feels like I set up someone as a false image to who I really am.

Whenever I go out to whatever function, I dress like me. I tend to wear "cute" clothing versus "sexy" and when I do wear cute clothing, it is for me and no one else.

If a guy or girl comments on my presentation, I just smile and thank them. If they wish to pursue something further, they will know this is me; hook, line, and sinker. For you, you had no desire to do that at the present time. Just remember, some guys are very visually oriented and I wouldn't take it personally

I have nothing against anyone dressing sexy to attract guys. For me, if a guy is attracted to me without having to be sexy at it, then he is attracted to "me" and not my legs.

I hope that makes sense.

It makes absolute sense Annah and I totally agree with you. Great post!