Cindy, you sure make ME laugh again :-) giggle

Apple, very good. Yes, I do have children smile at me too, 'cause I'm a nice gal (mostly :-)

If folks look at me, more guys like these days, I'm more inclined to think they scheme: "- some strangely hot number for her age" :-)
Then looking at their wives accompanying them, I do know WHY :-)
Gives me a buzz in my nether regions, heehee.

Yeah, even my voice when 1:1 is more likely a sexy more lowish growl --- like having had my share of bar customers and smokes (which I did). Thankfully I stopped even before HRT.

Thanks girls for making me feel good this morn,
Axelle
PS: Hey, if you feel hot, you hot (for most in any case... :-)

Quote from: Maddie Secutura on August 06, 2011, 06:00:16 AM
Not even over the phone.  My student loans are still in my old name so whenever I had to call them up the situation took a little explaining.  I had to address something with the account and they said, "...And you're his...?"

That's great!!   I had something similar happen a few times.  Called the bank back in April to get the tax info that they didn't send me, and they wouldn't give it to me because "he [had] to call for that himself."  I've also called my cable company and my student loan company (a few times) and, even after going through the identity verification process, got nothing but "ma'am" and "miss <last name>" from the operators.  They never even asked me a question, but did it naturally.

EDIT - those were all before I got my name change, so they were looking at a boy name on their computer screens...

Everyone at the places I had to change my name in person asked whether it was a marriage or divorce.  I just smiled and said "neither, actually" and gave them the form.  Everyone at the places I was able to do over the phone asks for the name on the account, which was <boy name>, then immediately asks "Ok, and who am I speaking to now?"

When guys flirt with me and bump into things or drop their stuff walking by me.

Not getting called anything resembling a male pronoun since FFS.

Little girls sometimes talking to me like just any other girl.

I wish I didn't worry about passing at all, but I've only been full time everywhere for a little over a month so I don't have that assurance just yet.  Soon though if things keep going at this rate.

Well, on the phone I totally pass, thank god!

I can't order pizza using my male name anymore. If I say <male name> they go "what?" then I say again and they change it to a similiar but female name

I suppose there is always at least one aspect of our lives where we do pass.

Quote from: Maddie Secutura on August 06, 2011, 06:00:16 AM
Not even over the phone.  My student loans are still in my old name so whenever I had to call them up the situation took a little explaining.  I had to address something with the account and they said, "...And you're his...?"

Hahaha this reminds me of a similar situation I frequently have.  My student loans people call me at least once a month and ask for Van.  I say this is Van, and then they hang up on me.  It's happened at least 20 times.  I guess they anticipate a guy to answer, but I think Van can go either way.

I remember when I first started hormones, I went to the pharmacy to also get antibiotics, and the pharmacist yelled at me as I was leaving to "remember, if you are on birth control, these antibiotics will negate the effects of them."  That was the highlight of my passing to me, and ever since then I've never had any trouble.  I remember during the spring I got asked out by something like 8 different guys in a month... I was so happy that month =P  I said no of course, I'm terrified of accepting dates from guys because of my parts.
Now, it's not being referred to as female that gets me excited anymore, it's getting referred to as a younger age.  At the mall the other day I got called young lady and I was so happy... the woman clearly thought I was 18 or 19 and the older man I was with was my dad =)  I got asked out by an 18 year old boy a couple months ago, and I turned around and all I said was "i'm 26."  His jaw dropped and he apologized, saying he thought I was his age.  Those are the kind of comments that make me happy now =)

Quote from: Maiara on August 06, 2011, 10:57:23 AM
Well, on the phone I totally pass, thank god!

I can't order pizza using my male name anymore. If I say <male name> they go "what?" then I say again and they change it to a similiar but female name

I suppose there is always at least one aspect of our lives where we do pass.

for lucky girls  not all of us sweetie

I remember once at a train station I wanted to shave in the bath room on my way and I decided it would make the least fuss if I did so in the men's room, but the janitor kindly told me I was heading in the wrong direction even wearing stubbles and no makeup. "I am transgender - technically I believe I can choose?", I said leaving him very confused.

This week I went on an island camp, which is a primitive way to spent a holiday in touch with nature. To my surprise the place had only communal showers, but although a lot of people saw me naked they continued to treat me faultlessly as a lady. They just couldn't believe their eyes, they told me later.

In Denmark we have bio-sexed SSNs which give some funny situations at times. In one such situation I was asked to repeat my SSN three times before the officers said "That cannot be right, because then you were a man!" and I replied "You're right, WERE."

I have also been in a situation where the nurse - even after asking about my male SSN - questioned me if I were sure I couldn't be pregnant.

At another time after telling a coworker I am anatomically infertile she asked me if I had considered to receive in vitro fertilization.

During practical training as a nurse I told my coworkers I am transgendered to avoid unnecessary gossip. A few month later one of the nurses told me in detail how to pull back the foreskin when cleaning a male as if I didn't know. Apparently she had forgotten everything about my prehistory.

I had some strange experiences too. When I'm in boy mode I try to make sure people see me as male, because I don't want any awkward situations, but I guess I'm just not too good at it

I was at work in the men's room washing my hands, and a guy came in. He looked at me, and then he said: "Sorry, I thought this is the men's room" and he left as quickly as he could.

I travel by train a lot and sometimes people think I'm a girl. I really don't understand it because I mostly wear very manly baggy clothing.
I was sitting in a compartment alone minding my own business, when I heard a part of a conversation:" ... ask the young lady(me) if she is waiting for somebody..." and then they asked me if they can sit down in that compartment.

I needed some antifreeze for my car in the winter, so I headed down to the gas station. The shop assistant greeted me, "Good morning miss, how can I help you?" and I just froze for a second because I didn't expect it at all because I didn't even shave that morning.

I was talking with a friend on the street when a little dog ran up to me and wanted to play. The dog's owner arrived a few seconds later he apologized and told the dog: "The lady doesn't want to play with you". My friend just smiled and couldn't imagine how could he mistake me for a girl.
I know, that would have been the perfect coming out oppurtunity, but I'm a coward.

Oh Wow!
Some many fun responces. I just love reading them all.

The other day at the grocery store my wife and I were at the self check-out.
(I hate them and would rather go to a line with a cashier. But the lines were real long and my wife needed to get home.)
Anyway she was paying with a credit card and I began placing the items in the cart.
The women who helps out with the self check-out came up to use saying "Lady, lady, lady" I though she was talking to my wife but she went on to say, "don't put the items in the cart until they are paid for because it will mess up the machine."
She was talking to me. OMG! You could have knocked me over with a feather.
And I wasn't wearing makeup or female style clothing.
But I am just loving it.
Jillieann

Quote from: Anne Caitlyn on August 06, 2011, 11:43:24 AM
I was at work in the men's room washing my hands, and a guy came in. He looked at me, and then he said: "Sorry, I thought this is the men's room" and he left as quickly as he could.

I remember one of those moments in the early 90's back when Houston still had The Summit (later the Compaq Center and now a church of some sort)...on HRT but pre-transition albeit with most of the electro done.  That was also back in the days where I was all of about 120lbs and had a 25-26 inch waist...so it was clearly a sum of the parts sort of deal for the guy who made the apology.  But those were the sorts of moments that pretty much said 'umm, yeah, its time to give notice at work.'

But as others note, once you get X number of years post-op under the belt, you rarely give things a second thought...now the closest thing I get to confusion is when people presume I am straight (an event that been occurring with annoying frequency over the past several months). 

Quote from: Ann Onymous on August 06, 2011, 02:25:57 PM
now the closest thing I get to confusion is when people presume I am straight. 

Hmmm... I'm straight but I felt a bit annoyed last time someone asked if I had a husband (which was strange because I'd have asked "are you married" instead), since usually people say I look quite young (people seldom even call me "ma'am")... not happy suddenly with someone seemingly assuming I'm now older! But she was an older woman and maybe she thinks girls of my age should be marrying already... I'm not even in a hurry to find a boyfriend yet (nor are my friends of the same age as me). So... I suppose that's something that says I pass (or she thought I was a gay male—highly doubtful, same-sex marriages are not recognized in this country), but not quite what I want to hear nonetheless!

When I was at the transgender day of remembrance with a bunch of other trans-people I didn't know - and one of the other people there thought I was just a lesbian there to support people and not trans. Passing even among other trans-people, felt very empowering.

Quote from: Samantharz on August 06, 2011, 03:24:51 PM
When I was at the transgender day of remembrance with a bunch of other trans-people I didn't know - and one of the other people there thought I was just a lesbian there to support people and not trans. Passing even among other trans-people, felt very empowering.

I had something like that, we had a meeting with the local gaypride organizers and they thought I was a girl It made me very happy.

Quote from: Anne Caitlyn on August 06, 2011, 03:54:46 PM
I had something like that, we had a meeting with the local gaypride organizers and they thought I was a girl It made me very happy.

i have never had a moment like that much be fun 

Quote from: VannaSiamese on August 06, 2011, 11:04:50 AM
Now, it's not being referred to as female that gets me excited anymore, it's getting referred to as a younger age.  At the mall the other day I got called young lady and I was so happy... the woman clearly thought I was 18 or 19 and the older man I was with was my dad =)  I got asked out by an 18 year old boy a couple months ago, and I turned around and all I said was "i'm 26."  His jaw dropped and he apologized, saying he thought I was his age.  Those are the kind of comments that make me happy now =)

Erm, mid 20's is not old and not unusual to be referred to as young lady....

I got referred to as young girl a few weeks back by an old lady.

Doorman at a bar looks at my ID, at me, at my ID, checks me out, back to my ID... "So you're a guy?" That was my first "passing" moment, but like everyone, I'm way more critical of each and every little detail. I get ma'ams plenty at Walmart, trying or not. Tonight I was at Chevys with my mom and our waiter refered to us as, "ladies". I wasn't even close to trying, so I think he was either being very nice or too embarrassed to chance a reversal on the pronoun and be wrong on the flip. I really really need to work on my voice, particularly face to face with someone. I'd probably have it passing for six months and still think it's awful.

To me most of you are young ladies.

I was in male clothing the other day shopping in the women's lingerie area and no one paid any attention to me.
Even though I was checking out bras.

Quote from: Jillieann on August 06, 2011, 08:33:49 PM
To me most of you are young ladies.

I was in male clothing the other day shopping in the women's lingerie area and no one paid any attention to me.
Even though I was checking out bras.

That's normal though... I don't really think anything either when I see men checking out bras

That is wonderful Valerie.

I posted this somewhere else... but I'm so happy about this I am posting it again.

A friend of a friend saw me with my male white overcoat look at work a few days ago. I saw her chatting with my friend and now and then looking towards me, and I thought she was reading me.

My friend later on told me the person was asking her if I was a dyke