Labels are stupid,
you just need to be who you feel like,
I where to a queer/trans party and got to talk to a person who where somehow, gender-queer/female/ftm/something something and not really sure..
I asked if he where trans and he said no and couldnt really find a word he where sure to decribe him and I thoguht, well thats just cool, you dont need to be anything just as long your happy yourself.
I cant help finding out who you are, its only yourself who can figure it out.
only advise to give is to try, it can be hard, you might fall down, but you might as well also got it out of your heard and got words on your fellings, it might help.
I have also been like, cutting myself, trying suicide and so on.. mainly because nobody understood me and it all felt very hard. it very a long fight to feel understood and accepted but it started lightly with I had 1 friend who knew about me, and I told him everything everytime we got some time together.. it also made me felt safe because not all where so accepting or understanding and if someone said something to me then I could go back to my friend and talk to him.