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Gay and lesbian transsexuals - do you feel accepted in the gay community?

Started by Nero, August 03, 2011, 10:17:44 AM

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tekla

And also avoid Republican political types and right wing preachers they always seem to be finding themselves on the wrong end of the love stick.
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Julie Marie

Quote from: tekla on August 07, 2011, 02:00:28 PM
And also avoid Republican political types and right wing preachers they always seem to be finding themselves on the wrong end of the love stick.
Does that mean we should stay out of men's bathrooms (that have toe tapping stall residents) and avoid hiring a Rent Boy to carry our bags?
When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.
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Chloe

Quote from: Forum Admin on August 03, 2011, 10:17:44 AM
For gay and lesbian transsexuals (or men and women of history if preferred), do you feel accepted in your respective communities?
If you are out as trans, have you personally experienced any transphobia from fellow gays or lesbians?
Thank you.

I'm somewhat lost too - lol typical too general q from this particular "forum admin" - as a heterosexual MtF who more-or-less enjoys the company of both men and women I have always found gay men quite accepting of my particularly non-male identity / orientation
"But it's no use now," thought poor Alice, "to pretend be two people!
"Why, there's hardly enough of me left to make one respectable person!"
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Lisbeth

Quote from: dalebert on August 04, 2011, 03:13:00 PM
FWIW, this is an area of activism for me.  I talk about trans issues on my radio show a lot with the intent of educating people and sensitizing them to the crap trans people have to deal with.  This particular gay cis male tries to be extremely welcoming to trans folk as do my close gay & lesbian friends.
For myself, I want to thank you for that.

Quote from: Ann Onymous on August 04, 2011, 03:17:15 PM
Perhaps a 'simple truth' where you are, but far from a truism the world over...
There are some lesbians who follow the rule, "No guys, No bi's," and I expect them to reject trans-women. But there are others who do not. The "simple truth" is that your mileage may vary.

Some years ago, I had the experience of being in an online relationship with a cis-gendered lesbian. We had "the talk," and she needed to process what I told her. She came back a day later and said I was a woman and she would learn to deal with the anatomy. If I had been smarter, and she hadn't been 1/4 of the way around the world (Germany) we might be partners today.
"Anyone who attempts to play the 'real transsexual' card should be summarily dismissed, as they are merely engaging in name calling rather than serious debate."
--Julia Serano

http://juliaserano.blogspot.com/2011/09/transsexual-versus-transgender.html
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Ann Onymous

Quote from: Lisbeth on August 08, 2011, 11:53:17 AM
There are some lesbians who follow the rule, "No guys, No bi's," and I expect them to reject trans-women. But there are others who do not. The "simple truth" is that your mileage may vary.

while it may be a YMMV situation, it is not something I have seen...my guess is that more frequently, it means no walking stereotypes and certainly no pre- or non-ops.   

QuoteSome years ago, I had the experience of being in an online relationship with a cis-gendered lesbian. We had "the talk," and she needed to process what I told her. She came back a day later and said I was a woman and she would learn to deal with the anatomy. If I had been smarter, and she hadn't been 1/4 of the way around the world (Germany) we might be partners today.

Must have been in pre-op days then...there isn't anything to 'learn to deal with' post-operatively when it comes to the anatomy.
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