I also don't think you guys should be so quick to judge Todd and his relationship.
First off - a year CAN be plenty of time to develop a strong bond with someone. My wife and I were engaged 7 months into our relationship, and had our private wedding ceremony on our 1 year anniversary - and in a month we'll be celebrating 5 years together (4 years married). Back then, I wasn't even aware I'm FTM. I felt I had issues, but couldn't decipher them. After watching other guys and hearing them talk, I identified with a lot of the things that they said. Still was quite unsure of things like whether or not to transition, how my partner would react (since she would often say she doesn't trust men and had never let herself fall for a guy). So, when I dropped hints, reactions were mixed, but mainly since she hadn't realised those were hints since I'd always been pretty genderbending (as has she). Finally, when she'd read something I'd written (about a year ago now), she let me know that she'd be with me no matter what.
She has expressed concerns with me transitioning but primarily for medical reasons. She's especially worried about me having any surgery since she's always had a fear of doctors and has only visited a doctor maybe twice in her life. So her issue is not with how this or that will look, but rather my health and well-being. She is fond of certain things as they are now (pre-everything), but that doesn't mean she is against change. We've both agreed that phalloplasty is not an option since it's higher-risk, etc., but we're really not getting into any other details now, and we're just taking things a step at a time. I tell her about my visits to my psychologist and she knows my transition plans and supports me, but is just worried. As for her previous trust issues with guys and not falling for them - she says that since she fell in love with me before she knew I was a guy, she's now helpless - she can't help but continue to love and trust me.
In one moment she had even said she wishes transition, like most other things in our lives, was something we could both experience simultaneously - like this she probably feels left out (we're so alike and connected that sometimes people ask if we're twins, so this will be a big thing that would make us less alike physically). I know she was comforted by hearing that most guys don't suddenly become aggressive jerks due to T - you're still you. Not sure if it will help (so she doesn't feel left out) to make her an active part of my transition once things start or not (e.g. have her give me shots and/or document my transition, etc.).
Anyway, I don't know how and whether anything will change once I start physically transitioning, but so far she's been great about calling me male (which is even harder to get used to in Croatian than it is in English - even I slip up from time to time), she's even helped me out a few times in public if someone is confused about my gender or something - she'll say 'he's a guy' or something to that effect.
All in all, it REALLY depends on you, your SO and your relationship together - there are so many factors at play - no one can really say one way or the other what will or won't happen. For us, an end to our relationship is something we just can't see - we'd really have to betray one another for that to happen. Otherwise, we're life partners, end of story. We get along all too well and can really communicate and work things out - pretty difficult things - with relative ease, that we just can't see it any other way.
So, to anyone dealing with partner issues, just take it easy, give them time to adjust, and if they can, good, if not, then I guess it's just not meant to be - but don't let others tell you your relationship will or will not work out - that's too individual for people to judge/generalise on.
