Last night on facebook I gained the courage to explain everything to my best friend, I was so afraid he would be freaked out despite his ultraliberal stance on things. I suppose I deluded myself into thinking he'd reject me, but he was so cool with it and it was such a relief. There was nothing but pure support. It felt so good to talk to someone important to me about all of this and now I think I have the courage to talk to my mom about this. Despite being extremely Christian, she always pledged she'd love me unconditionally no matter what, but I don't know if that promise will survive the "death" of her "baby boy". I told her I was atheist years ago and it took awhile for her to stop being petty about it. But if there is anyone else I'm comfortable talking about with this, it's her. I may do it today, I'm not sure yet 

Well, awesome for your friend being so cool about it (my experience is that people tend to take it better than you expect), and good luck with your mom. I also haven't told my mom (conservative Christian, judgmental), so I feel for you there. Still, eventually almost everyone comes around, sometimes it just takes a while. The right moment will come (or, in the time elapsed between our postings, it has happened), and you just have to know when that moment is. Best wishes!

When I first came out as trans  I first came out on facebook to a few of my friends and continued to come out to more people on Facebook, , it took me about a month to come out to my first family member in person. the fact that you were able to build the courage to move this fast is amazing, I applaud you.

I just came out to my mom and my girlfriend today, and I'm over the mood! My fears about both proved insignificant. My mom really pulled through with the unconditional love and now seems like she'll be a huge resource of support and guidance through this, she made me promise I wouldn't medicate (never was going to) and that I'd make sure that I find the pyschiatrist with the best fit for me. She was obviously a bit thrown off, which of course is understandable, and once accidentially said I'd always be her son but then apologized and corrected herself. It was really nice and it helped that apparently she's at a good place in her life too! And my girlfriend surprised me even more so, I feared she'd just want to be friends or just change our relationship somehow, but she was amazing and very accepting and I clarified that once I go through transition it'll be a bonafide lesiban relationship but she didn't mind. She did seem like needed a bit of time for all to truly sink in like my mom, but that's natural. When I was actually explaing my personal story with it she said that she could always tell I clearly more feminine than masculine by a mile, so it didn't come entirely out of left field. I'm pretty happy, I've had a good day 

That is great news, congratulations.

I do think we drive our fear more than we should. No one has acted with anything but acceptance to me.

Have a great life
Cindy

Congratulations, glad it went so well for you all.  It's a lot for someone who has known you all your life to take in.  Mums are amazing people!
I had a bad bout of GID last weekend, due to self-generated fears about something that hadn't happened yet. Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.  If you have problems, confide in those that love you and they will help you get through it.
Karen.

I know just the feeling; for some reason I was totally sure that my mom was going to kick me out or send me to therapy when she found some of the girls' clothes I had.  Turned out to be the opposite.  She was hesitant, but now she's urging me to start HRT.

It's sad, though, that fears of reactions like that are usually based on reality; there seem to be enough horror stories out there to put anyone in anxiety about coming out.

Good to hear.  Mother-daughter relationships are so much deeper than that with sons, so it sounds like you have a solid foundation to build on, and a great mentor for growing up a bit quick.  Happy

Karen.