Quote from: JenJen2011 on November 09, 2011, 01:55:55 PM
Aww, you think so? I know several girls who don't want to have SRS. And thanks. I support you 100% on keeping your penis.

Yeah, they are the silent minority in the transcommunity. But I don't think if someone wants surgery or not really matters. It is their personal business.

Quote from: JenJen2011 on November 09, 2011, 01:44:38 PM
By now I'm sure you've noticed you're not the only non-op here. As for me, I do plan on having SRS.

Forgive me for asking, but was there a point to this post?

Quote from: brIAnna (interalia) on November 09, 2011, 06:33:38 PM
Forgive me for asking, but was there a point to this post?

Yah. Its called SUPPORT for the non-ops among us.

Currently I plan on having SRS in about 12 months time, but things could change in the meantime.  It's possible that I might not be able to for medical reasons for instance.  If that was the case I would look at the possibility of Orchiectomy, but if that was contraindicated, I would just have to live with it. Lets face it, it would be better to be alive with a penis than not!

There are lots of women out there in that situation, or simply unable to afford SRS.   There are also some like Mahsa, who feel they don't need it.  It would certainly make the whole process cheaper and less stressful to be able to live that way.  I am happy for them not having GID to that degree.

Julia Serano, who I understand is non-op, summed it up pretty well I think.  She said something to the effect that," the world is just going to have to learn to cope with men with vaginas and women with penises."  When we reach  that stage it will be interesting to see whether the concept of 'transition' will still even have any meaning.

To me this is a feminist issue, of women being able to do whatever they want with their own body, without being judged by others.

Karen.

Quote from: brIAnna (interalia) on November 09, 2011, 06:33:38 PM
Forgive me for asking, but was there a point to this post?

Yup.

Quote from: justmeinoz on November 10, 2011, 05:41:06 AM
To me this is a feminist issue, of women being able to do whatever they want with their own body, without being judged by others.

Karen.

Interesting take on it and well said.

Quote from: JenJen2011 on November 10, 2011, 08:25:00 AM
Yup.

Guess trolling is a valid reason.

Quote from: brIAnna (interalia) on November 10, 2011, 03:39:52 PM


Guess trolling is a valid reason.

More like, I think differently than you do. As if I cared what you thought...I don't.

Quote from: brIAnna (interalia) on November 10, 2011, 03:39:52 PMGuess trolling is a valid reason.

No. It's called replying to the OP's question. Get a life and don't question me.

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on November 09, 2011, 08:09:08 PM
Yah. Its called SUPPORT for the non-ops among us.

exactly!

I will not do anything down there. It is just not for me.


I will put my money on the face and other more obvious features.

I am non-op! I don't want bottom surgery! I am lesbian and quite enjoy my built in strap-on and so does my girlfriend!

I am non-op, the thought bothers me so damn much that I can't think about it long enough to come to a conclusion.
Bother, bother... So most likely I'll end up not getting an operation. I don't have sex, I prefer foreplay to sex in almost any case anyways.
I am confident in my body which is great, so I too am keeping my penis, yay for not being alone.

Maga Girl and all

I am a non-op and I will remain this way.  I never once thought about SRS but I also have learned that it can be the one most important thing for someone.

To me, I have accepted myself, so anything that comes with me, stays with me.

In terms of relationship, if someone who wants to be with me, they will then have to accept me for my body.  If they can't, than we're not a good match and they will have to move one.

In my opinion, one should never change their gender because of partner, social status, legal documents, etc.  You become who you want to be, because that's exactly what you want for your life.

Keep warm
G

I will gladly not have SRS. I really don't want major surgery that takes months of recovery, especially because some of them are botched and they CUT IT IN HALF then fold it in. It just sounds like too much for me. Plus, I love activity and sitting in recovery would suck; I'd be bored! Don't get me wrong, if there were some magical way to have the procedure done instantly with no recovery or boatload of cash, I would do it. Unfortunately, that's not the case, so oh well. I have more important priorities like my face and life. Besides, my mom just told me she hates having a vagina (don't know why, but she said it after coming out of the bathroom, so I don't want to know).

Good luck in your transitions, everyone. 

I contacted the rooms of the Surgeon I had planned to perform my SRS, hopefully in November or December, and found he has no dates before University starts again next year.  So I would have to wait 18 months until the next long Uni break. 

However after what has happened over the last week or so it doesn't bother me.  After a lot of family and personal trauma, I am now a lot more secure in my self-identity and my operative status is no longer of any concern.   Basically, it didn't kill me but left me stronger. Mind you it was touch and go for a bit.

I have moved away from the description Translesbian and now tend to think of myself as Genderqueer for want of a better term.  This is a result of coming to see myself as just another sort of woman, who happens to have atypical genitalia.  From the point of relationships and sex,  I have learned to achieve whole body orgasm form touch just about anywhere on my body, so genitalia are sort of irrelevant anyway.

As has been said many times, transition has many stops along the way, and some people reverse direction from time to time as well.  Whatever works is okay.

Karen.

I really don't know what the future holds...

I would truly love to go full throttle (have mtf SRS), but it is certainly not very realistic at this point in my life.

(and yes... that's a pretty casual use of the word "love": i should prefer to have no surgery of any kind... but do believe that this one would be worth-while...)

Sadie out.