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Anatta

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on November 09, 2011, 10:59:04 PM
Why do gay men act like gay men?

Science has yet to prove that phenomenon.

Kia Ora Mahsa,

Why do gay men act like gay men?

::) Cause and condition  ;)

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Zenda on November 10, 2011, 01:14:41 AM


::) Cause and condition  ;)



If you get one or more gay men together, things will happen.
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Rebekah with a K-A-H

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on November 10, 2011, 01:24:24 AM
If you get one or more gay men together, things will happen.

If you get one or more lesbians together, chances are that each one has slept with the other's ex and both of them are unaware of the fact and making smoldering eyes at each other.  Drama ensues.

PROVEN FACT, guys, ladies, and QUEERLY GENDERED GENTLEPEOPLE.
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Wonderdyke on November 10, 2011, 01:57:49 AM
If you get one or more lesbians together, chances are that each one has slept with the other's ex and both of them are unaware of the fact and making smoldering eyes at each other.  Drama ensues.

PROVEN FACT, guys, ladies, and QUEERLY GENDERED GENTLEPEOPLE.

Okay...this was the MIKI OCTAGON OF 2007-2009

I met Jessica who had dated Leo in high school, I slept with Leo and met his best friend, Ray...ray and I slept together...and I met Chris. Chris and I hooked up...then I met his friend Chad...Chad had dated Ray and Leo. Then I met Adam and Adam hooked up with Chris and Leo. Chris later got Jessica pregnant. All this time, we were screwing other guys on the side...


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Jacelyn

Quote from: Zenda on November 09, 2011, 10:28:45 PM
Kia Ora Jacelyn,

::) I'm afraid you have an up hill battle when having to deal with such 'conditioned' minds...I'm sure you know what I mean, and I mean no disrespect to anyone, just stating the obvious = we are all 'conditioned' to think in a certain way which tends to bind us to a certain thought pattern-we become our thoughts...Once we understand this and decide to do something about it, only then will we become 'free thinkers' in the true sense... Instead of 'becoming' our thoughts[ both negative & positive] we observe them ...
Thought itself is the thinker and I'm sure you understand this Jacelyn...


Thanks for your input. I am familar with the role of thought / thinking, here just to elaborate a few pointers. Thinking is the means whereby one can recognized the body (nirvana), the body (dharmakaya) itself does not depend on thinking, nor can one become the body. The body (nature wisdom) is symbolized as the female principle, whereas the means (thinking / intellect) is symbolized as the male principle, thus the two in eternal unity is symbolized by the two forms in sexual union (as depicted in the deities of tantra), this is similar to the Tai-chi symbols of toaism. This is the highest view that reinforced the gender binary, that is, as the body of consciousness and thinking (mind consciousness) itself.

Of course, those who don't follow this line of reasoning has no reason to accept it, they will request for evidence, or saying such view is not established.  However, the rationale for evidence is without right cause since it is subjective, that is, only the subjective consciousness can see itself (body of consciousness), and that the rationale for the view to be established is also without right cause since the thinking (intellect) that see the body (nirvana) as it is does not established the body through conceptual construction, in other words the thinking is the means to be in concordance with the body (nirvana), by establishing the body through conceptual construction, then the so called body is no longer in concordance with thusness (the indescribable body in empirical mode).
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Rebekah with a K-A-H

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on November 10, 2011, 03:18:46 AM
Okay...this was the MIKI OCTAGON OF 2007-2009

I met Jessica who had dated Leo in high school, I slept with Leo and met his best friend, Ray...ray and I slept together...and I met Chris. Chris and I hooked up...then I met his friend Chad...Chad had dated Ray and Leo. Then I met Adam and Adam hooked up with Chris and Leo. Chris later got Jessica pregnant. All this time, we were screwing other guys on the side...




The L Word.  Just...The L Word.
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Morrigan

Quote from: Jacelyn on November 10, 2011, 04:02:53 AM
The body (nature wisdom) is symbolized as the female principle, whereas the means (thinking / intellect) is symbolized as the male principle

To argue gender binary based on wisdom vs. intellect, in most modern countries, would be very sexist and thrown out straightaway.
Arguing that our reality is not how we perceive it will not persuade us to believe in completely antiquated thinking like this.
Spiritualism and religion have also, for a long time known to be, completely unscientific, and do not present evidence to their causes.

Many of those old ideas on consciousness are completely baseless and were mere casual observation. Modern medical sciences can
describe in detail how the brain works and why we react the way we do in most situations. While an eastern scholar may have been
a genius in his time, science has refuted nearly all old world understandings of the body.

Wonderdyke that is a most chaotic network diagram @_@
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Jacelyn

Quote from: Morrigan on November 10, 2011, 06:48:36 AM
To argue gender binary based on wisdom vs. intellect, in most modern countries, would be very sexist and thrown out straightaway.
Arguing that our reality is not how we perceive it will not persuade us to believe in completely antiquated thinking like this.
Spiritualism and religion have also, for a long time known to be, completely unscientific, and do not present evidence to their causes.

At that level, gender take different forms, just like at atomic level, gender takes the form of proton and electron. Gender is about polerity opposites, at human level, it is related to the biological body and psychological perceptions. These different level of gender is valid as their polerity can be demonstrated.

Note what I describe about the the level of gender at the level of consciousness: "Thinking is the means whereby one can recognized the body (nirvana), the body (dharmakaya) itself does not depend on thinking, nor can one become the body. "

This is reflected in parallel to the gender at human level, for example this means is parallel to the man's ability to recognize the beauty and sexual attraction of the woman. The properties of the body (nirvana) is cessation of activity, this is reflected in parallel to the passiveness of the women. Another properties of the body (nirvana) is nature / original wisdom, wisdom is attractive / beautiful to the means (intellect) that recognize it, and this is parallel to the attractiveness / beauty of the human female.

As for the body (dharmakaya) itself does not depend on thinking, in term of the human female, the fact of her femaleness does not depend on the man's thinking, but that her femaleness is automatically reflected in her form (body).

As for "nor can one become the body", this is parallel to the fact that man who find a woman attractive, cannot become her, he is eternally separated from her, and it is for this reason the attraction of the opposite persists (as a reality). This is refering to the mental factors due to subject and object gender perception, and does not literally implied there is no possibility for MTF who wish to become female, since in such cases, the MTF would be considered female, but the man who perceive her feminine attractiveness cannot become her if the attraction is to be persist.

The original verse has doctrinal significance when it is concerning the buddhist tradition of the consciousness-only, which show the mechanism of body and means (a binary polerity which incidentally is parallel to the human binary gender, and both being mutually supportive).

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Many of those old ideas on consciousness are completely baseless and were mere casual observation. 

Being old doesn't mean they are baseless, something that is universal, it has to be able to survive the passing of times, the buddhist tradition has being around for 2500 years, the buddhist tantra is much older. Truth is unlike a fashion trend where new is better, rather it is the reversed, new theory does not prove itself able to withstand the test of time through various discussion and debates. Truth is always victim of politics, as politics is never about truth but what suit their ambition. Throughout history, buddhism has being subject to persecution and suppression, for example it has being completely wiped out from India along with all sanskrit texts,  due to domination of hinduism.

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Modern medical sciences can describe in detail how the brain works and why we react the way we do in most situations.

This is neurology which is branch of medical science, it is of cause and effect, hence fully recognized by buddhism. However, gender science is only about social science, it has no valid cause and effect component that can be acceptable to buddhism. Buddhism is not interested in external facts, as these are recognized as mere deceptive appearances, like dew, a dream, a mirage, an illusion, and lightning flashes. All phenomena is emptied of substantial existence, the fact of phenomena being emptied allow dependent origination, otherwise there is only permanence, nothing can change, no improvement possible and this make liberation impossible.

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While an eastern scholar may have been a genius in his time, science has refuted nearly all old world understandings of the body.

You misunderstood, this 'body' I refer to the body of consciousness, not the physical body which is covered by modern science.

Science didn't refute buddhism as it didn't cover the field of consciousness and reality, what it didn't cover it has no authority over. Science belong to buddhism in the cause and effect section of the buddhist's five sciences which cover virtually all field of technology and medicine (In ancient times, these are the only source of technology, but today we have what is termed modern science and medicine and we happily accept it).
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Wonderdyke on November 10, 2011, 04:10:51 AM


The L Word.  Just...The L Word.

Technically it was the "G" word. But I looked like a lez back then.
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Sailor_Saturn

Quote from: Zenda on November 10, 2011, 12:48:29 AM

Kia Ora Sailor S,

::) Thanks for your interesting response....However before I continue I would like to point out "Closed Minded" was your choice of 'words' ...A 'condition mind' in how I used the term  as nothing to do with the narrow closed minded nature of a 'bigot'...I was simply stating the obvious[for those who have an understanding of Buddhism and Dependent Origination/Arising ]...

"All phenomena in the world comes into being because of 'causes' and 'conditions' without them no phenomena would appear in this world and no phenomena could 'exist' in this world...Nothing has an independent existence of it's own !" All phenomena arises from causes and conditions...All phenomena disappears due to causes and conditions... Causes and conditions themselves are phenomena and they arise from other causes and conditions...What is a cause here may be seen as a phenomena there or as a condition else where...

::) Slightly off topic but what the hell...............

When it come to the table and teacup  and differences in philosophical 'thought'... Through observation meditation 'I' [in the conventional form] like Jacelyn am fully 'aware' of this 'conditioned' state of mind...

Things are thoughts and thoughts are things, and when it comes to the table and teacup yes they exist as a table and teacup [by name/label only], and 'only'  from the observer's side...

Without the observer observing and mentally labeling, would there still be a table and teacup ? Or just material, pieces of wood and bits of clay/china ?[even to imagine this there as to be imagination which arises in the observer etc].... To say yes, then one would have to explain how they can exist as a table and teacup[from their own side] when no one is 'observing' them...

The table and teacup's existence 'depends' on the 'conditioned thoughts' that 'arise' in the observer's 'conditioned' mind...

Free standing- unobserved, the table and teacup don't exist on their own, how can they ?

From what I gather Jacelyn's not only well educated [like yourself and many others who have joined the debate] but it would seem she is also an 'experienced' meditator-hence her approach to this topic...

I on the other hand don't have a way with words, my vocabulary is limited [even for a native English speaker]  I have what you would call a 'simple' contented mind, 
'I' like to 'think' free from clutter...

So basically, there's no such thing as reality. Everything we know, everything we encounter, is just a series of observations we've made, and observations vary from person to person and are therefore subjective. That is extraordinarily abstract thinking. I can't even wrap my mind around everything and nothing existing at the same time. The philosophy you've proposed is like Schrodinger's Cat, only it's impossible to open the damned box and see if the cat is dead. The part where it starts to get really messed up is when you start trying to apply this vein of thought to people. Essentially, if everything is subjective observation then there is no such thing as you or me. Even observing myself wouldn't demonstrate my existence, nor would my observing you demonstrate yours.

But even if I go with this vein of thought, how does it back Jacelyn's demonstrably false claims, such as the argument that women fake their orgasms until they're thirty? Is it just some reduction of the experience of orgasm to a subjective observation? That is, a woman says "I just had an orgasm" and I say "No, you didn't", and we're both right because what constitutes an orgasm depends on the observer? That is, orgasms don't actually exist to begin with, so claims for or against their existence are simultaneously valid?

This vein of thought is physically painful. I'm trying, Zenda, I really am. It just doesn't make sense to me. Observations cannot be made unless there is something to be observed. How we interpret the thing may vary, but there has to be a thing to observe and interpret. I can't just think things into existence, can I? I can interpret that which I see, but my thoughts do not create that which I see. They only create my understanding of what I see.
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Sam-

I pretty much only keep reading this thread to see Mahsa's posts  ;D
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Sam- on November 10, 2011, 07:28:08 PM
I pretty much only keep reading this thread to see Mahsa's posts  ;D

Elle entertains you.
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Anatta

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Quote from: Sailor_Saturn on November 10, 2011, 02:45:45 PM
So basically, there's no such thing as reality.  The reality that you perceive is an illusion, a very convincing illusion at that,[it has many people like your'self' fooled] but an illusion non the less, conjured up by ones attachment  to the five aggregates of * 'Form"=Material things body etc *'Sensation'=Feelings-not just emotional feelings but also physical sensations/whatever we feel *"Perception"=Experiences like thoughts, sights, sounds-with feeling and perception likes and dislikes arise *"Mental Formation"=Will-intention to do things and * "Consciousness"=Buddhist normally say our six sense consciousness eyes-ears-nose-tongue-body-mind from which arises a false sense of a permanent abiding 'Self' "I" "Me" [ego]...If I was to ask you where is your "I" could you pinpoint its exact location ? Is it ones body ? Is it ones thought ? Is it ones 'brain' ?  When a person says "I'm thinking" they insist their "I" is the one doing the 'thinking' if this was truly the case then one could without effort think positive happy thoughts and discard all negative ones that create a feeling of unease.... Why would one 'chose' negative unwholesome thoughts if this permanent  "I" existed/was in control ?...The common reality that you see is a corruption of past experiences along with 'thoughts' of the future that feeds the ego...clouding what actually 'is'     Everything we know, everything we encounter, is just a series of observations we've made, and observations vary from person to person and are therefore subjective. That is extraordinarily abstract thinking. All that one is, is the result of ones thoughts !    I can't even wrap my mind around everything and nothing existing at the same time. Form is emptiness-emptiness is form...Without emptiness there is no form without form there is no emptiness... The Buddhist concept of emptiness is not negating at all, it's the basis of the arising of all phenomena –without the emptiness of the 'teacup' where would the tea go ?  without space one would not be able to built things-without emptiness in the universe humans would not be able to survive...  BTW Have you found the "I" yet ?  The philosophy you've proposed is like Schrodinger's Cat, only it's impossible to open the damned box and see if the cat is dead. Perhaps for the untrained mind yes...   The part where it starts to get really messed up is when you start trying to apply this vein of thought to people. There are quite a number of Westerners who follow the Buddha's teaching... Worldwide there are around 300million followers/practitioners... As one delves deeper into what the Buddha taught[the Dharma] 'looking beyond the finger that points' they will find what they are looking for-[I'm still looking but in the right direction]...  Essentially, if everything is subjective observation then there is no such thing as you or me. In a sense yes and no, there's no abiding 'self' the five aggregates are [like all things] in a constant state of flux so in a sense 'we' has something solid don't exist...When you say 'you or me' are you talking about the body ? The thoughts? Even observing myself wouldn't demonstrate my existence, nor would my observing you demonstrate yours. There is no observer only observing and this experience of observation is beyond words/language-That 'I' do know from 'experience'...

But even if I go with this vein of thought, how does it back Jacelyn's demonstrably false claims, such as the argument that women fake their orgasms until they're thirty? Is it just some reduction of the experience of orgasm to a subjective observation? That is, a woman says "I just had an orgasm" and I say "No, you didn't", and we're both right because what constitutes an orgasm depends on the observer? That is, orgasms don't actually exist to begin with, so claims for or against their existence are simultaneously valid? That's for Jacelyn to answer-she's better with words than "I"...

This vein of thought is physically painful. For the conditioned mind yes I agree it can be quite painful I'm trying, Zenda, I really am. It just doesn't make sense to me. Because you are trying to force your thoughts along a path that's quite alien to them-might I suggest practicing insight 'meditation'  Observations cannot be made unless there is something to be observed. Who or what is it that does the observing ?   How we interpret the thing may vary, but there has to be a thing to observe and interpret. I can't just think things into existence, can I? You do all the time even when dreaming-'think' about it...  ;)   I can interpret that which I see, but my thoughts do not create that which I see. . Without 'thought' what is there to see ?='Emptiness' They only create my understanding of what I see. Just out of interest Sailor,  what are optical 'illusions'  how do they work/trick the mind ?
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Kia Ora Sailor,

Thanks for the most interesting challenge, however I should point out, I'm no expert on Buddhism just a devout [but humble] follower/practitioner of the Buddha's Dharma, so my understand of things may differ from Jacelyn's 

Metta Zenda :)

* I've just added a bit more info on the five aggregates[Skandhas]
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Anatta

Quote from: Sailor_Saturn on November 10, 2011, 02:45:45 PM
So basically, there's no such thing as reality. Everything we know, everything we encounter, is just a series of observations we've made, and observations vary from person to person and are therefore subjective. That is extraordinarily abstract thinking.

This vein of thought is physically painful. I'm trying, Zenda, I really am. It just doesn't make sense to me. Observations cannot be made unless there is something to be observed. How we interpret the thing may vary, but there has to be a thing to observe and interpret. I can't just think things into existence, can I? I can interpret that which I see, but my thoughts do not create that which I see. They only create my understanding of what I see.

Kia Ora Sailor,

::) You might want to check out this video ...

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,105115.msg790737.html#msg790737

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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AbraCadabra

Read some Nietzsche, it might just help.

Everything IS perception, the mix of the object, subject, situation that's beheld and of course be real – but the INTERPRETATION goes hand-in-glove at the same time. Can't separate the one from the other.
Like how would you know it's red and not green?
The light frequency is the 'object' present – red or green is the INTERPRETATION that goes hand-in-glove.

It is a known fact too by now, that it is the scientist that ever so subtle (sometime not so subtle) influences the outcome of any scientific explanation/result.

No need to understand, or even know, Buddhism to perceive that.

Axelle
Some say: "Free sex ruins everything..."
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Sailor_Saturn

Quote from: Zenda on November 11, 2011, 12:09:15 AM
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Kia Ora Sailor,

Thanks for the most interesting challenge, however I should point out, I'm no expert on Buddhism just a devout [but humble] follower/practitioner of the Buddha's Dharma, so my understand of things may differ from Jacelyn's 

Metta Zenda :)

I'm not trying to challenge you, I'm trying to understand you. ^__^

This line of thought is incredibly difficult for me to understand. You're a follower, so I'm picking your brain about it. That's all that's happening here. Thanks for an effort at an explanation, and thanks to Axelle for the reference as well.
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Anatta

Quote from: Sailor_Saturn on November 11, 2011, 03:29:44 AM
I'm not trying to challenge you, I'm trying to understand you. ^__^

This line of thought is incredibly difficult for me to understand. You're a follower, so I'm picking your brain about it. That's all that's happening here. *Thanks for an effort at an explanation*, and thanks to Axelle for the reference as well.
Kia Ora Sailor,

::) What I meant by 'challenge' was, it's a challenge for me to put my experiences into words, and not that you are challenging me in an aggressive way , sorry for the misunderstanding...

*You're welcome*

BTW in regards to 'Nietzsche' you might want to check this out, he disagrees with Buddhism on some things but for the most part he comes quite close to the Buddhist line on thought...  http://books.google.co.nz/books?id=l2LgBtCzRKwC&pg=PA93&lpg=PA93&dq=Thought+itself+is+the+thinker+Buddhism&source=bl&ots=fxi0SOXW2j&sig=LEL9OMwFdl_3d_e7fFaCmn-_5XA&hl=en&ei=wm0pTK2OFcGOkQX9z_CIBA&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=6&ved=0CDYQ6AEwBQ#v=onepage&q=Thought%20itself%20is%20the%20thinker%20Buddhism&f=false

Metta Zenda :)

"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Zenda on November 11, 2011, 02:18:37 PM

::) If the cap fits.....  ;) :D

It wasn't specifically directed at you Mahsa.... ::) But come to think of it............................ ;) ;)


Yeah, I don't speak emoticon. Just letting you know that now.

Being into fashion and makeup has nothing to do with being a gay man. I just had a head start than most people here. Again, this is the alternative to being nerdy...

I live for style, I love to wear cute clothes, am "cultured" etc...

But acting like a gay man? Hardly. Get out more and actually meet some gay man. Jenjen2011 and I know how they actually act.
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Anatta

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on November 11, 2011, 02:44:41 PM
Jenjen2011 and I know how they actually act.

Kia Ora Mahsa,

::) How do gay men act ? Now this should be interesting..................

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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