Cuz I have the elitist "gay" attitude?
To be fair, it's not like the 'gays' have corner on elitism in the Bay Area. South Park's episode on 'smug' was pretty much dead on. That's why I - and just about everyone else in the SF area cracks up whenever all those red-state people talk about 'exporting SF values' (which if it happened would only make Topeka and Omaha better places). It's funny because we don't care about those places at all. They don't enter into our thinking (except to remember what it was we were trying to get away from when we got here) and 'our give-a-damn' is pretty much busted when we try to empathize with them. It's all 'fly-over' country* to most of us, though they seem to worry much more about us in a day then we have about them since the beginning of time.
As for what it is - well... It's whatever the person who wants to say they are feels it is (TS is a 100% self-identified and self-verified condition). And that was the rather vague definition agreed upon in the beginning, despite many warnings that it would be all but impossible to actually have it mean anything specific in the end. And you can't say that only SRS qualifies you as that excludes most of the FtMs from ever being TS.
Btw, I am extremely shaddow, sarcastic, arrogant, superficial and aggressive in real life. It's just how I am...
Oh honey, you say that like those are bad things. First of all the opposite of arrogant is the kind of constant self-doubt that keeps most of the people here from any real interaction, and from any action. Given the choice between no doubt and constant doubt, the first is the much better way to live. Sure it's gets people like that into some pretty spectacular train wrecks, but constant doubt ensures you never get your train on the tracks in the first place. And, at least it's outward. Self-doubt is just an inward downward spiral.
And the inner-beauty of arrogance is responsibility. Self-doubters, it's NEVER their fault (can't be, they see themselves as powerless), it's society, it's the culture, it's some cartoon show making a joke - it's anything and everything BUT them. Arrogant people will always take the blame, because blame is a constant companion of power. Heavy lies the head that wears the crown and all that.
Sarcasm is just a rational way of dealing with the amount of junk floating around in a totally irrational world. "Yeah, sure" is a perfect way of expressing a healthy and proper contempt without having to actually argue with the marching morons.
Aggressive is very sexy. Humans tend to worship aggressive and denounce the opposite for lots of pretty good reasons.
And I would think that shallow and superficial is an ideal mindset for someone doing cosmetics, which is a shrine to the superficial. And hey, of course it's shallow, beauty is only skin deep (but ugly goes all the way down to the bone.) I'm totally down with the shallow and superficial (and their super-power, the created image). Anyone doing rock concerts who thinks that anything about it is even vaguely deep and meaningful is an idiot. Like 'Heavy Metal' - strip off the dumb outfits, the Halloween/Satanic/Occult kindergarten level sets, the bad haircuts and all you have is four geeks playing three chords. It ain't rocket science, and it sure ain't Mozart or Miles Davis. And that's not a condemnation, if you actually tried to do anything deep and meaningful, complex and intricate full of substance - well, you've just lost 99% of the people in the audience.
Besides, if you read the posts you'll find that what most people think of as being 'male' and 'female' are nothing more than materialistic consumer choices - "I liked Barbie or Hot Wheels" - as if gender is determined by a shopping list as opposed to inner values and core behaviors. That dear, is superficial and shallow on a level that is far beyond you.
* - From the notion that the US is really just the East Coast and the West Coast with a 6 hour plane flight between them. In it's most perfect incarnation it's that the US is LA and NYC and not much else.