I'm a MTF and finally  going to have my Surgery on Dec 5Th in London after my recovery from Cancer
I work as hair stylist for years  so many of  my clients organized for me a Vagishower
this coming Saturday , they all ask me  if I needed anything for my surgery and Recovery
like pajamas , food or whatever  they could afford to help me they will buy it for me
or if I needed a ride from the hospital home  they will pick me up
I'm so Thankful to them because I'm going to be very much alone for my Surgery because
my family live abroad but  on the other hand I do have a social worker by my side who help me
when I was dealing with Cancer and now he is going to help me on this one too
I can't wait for when this is all done and heal so I  can go back to Work a the hair salon
keep doing my Volunteer work a the police station and move on with my life

Hope it was fun.

good Luck with your surgery.  Hugs,

Thank you girl

Hi Salome

You must be a very nice person when you have such helpfull friends.
I liked to read that, we often read stories about hate and rejection but you showed, that it can also go the other way.
It's funny and a strange coincident but, my srs was also on Dec 5th, back in '84.
I wish you a smooth recovery and may your womanhood be in happiness

Hugs
Annette

Hi Annette

Thank you for you message and for wishing  me  a good recovery on my coming surgery
what a coincidence to have it happen on the same day it was yours done ;-)

My Vagina shower was great I had allot fun, I arrive  at my client's house a 7pm  the party last until 2am
when I got there  I was greeted by 16 of my female clients from the Hair salon and 2 colleagues from work
plenty or food , jokes and drinks and many gifts from La Senza + some gifts vouchers
around 10pm my clients husband's arrive with more drinks and we all dance then
when the party was over I drop home a little tipsy .
I'm Glad I'm accepted by my clients it really make my life much more easy

   Hi,
    I wish you the very best, in your new life// God Bless
   Janis

yay congratulations!

Thank you girls

Hi girls

I'm now 16 days post-op my surgery was a success
my GRS was done by Dr Phil Thomas In london a the CX hospital
once I'm ready I will place some pic online,
I'm very happy he did a great job I'm healing fast and I'm feel strong
for that I'm taking Polleney Essence of Black Fish
It is an ideal tonic for those who are awaiting recovery after sickness,
especially after a operation. It guaranteed to restore
and energize your power to concentrate as well as maintain your good health

I was able to walk by day 2 .  I  only use Doughnut Cushion once
I'm very surprise  how fast I'm recovering and I though the pain was
going to be horrible but it was mild
I'm  very and happy with my self after my surgery

My only challenge is dilatation but I'm learning so at times I manage
to dailated all the way others I can't
my deep is around 6 and half to 7

lubricant just dry to fast and some times I can't relax enough as I get
scared every time I feel my dilator is going to  much inn
So i get afraid  that maybe  I hurt myself on places where I'm shouldn't
for now dilatation is no that painful but scary and difficult If muscles are no fully relax

I had been bless that I had  great support from my clients from the hair salon
from where I work and from the police station where  do some volunteer work
so many of them come to visit me and bring me some food also
they had help me with my shopping .  I'm grateful to all of them

if any one have any tips on how I can relax my muscles please help me
i will give it a try

thank you all

Hi Salome

Good to read your operation was successfull.
Also a good thing you have so many caring friends, you must be a good person to achieve that.
Relaxing is a matter of the mind, you expect pain so your muscles are in tension, that's a normal reaction.
Tell yourself before you start that you will go till it hurts, than you will see that you can deal with it much better because you know you will not have much pain, concentrate on your breathing instead of dilation, it will hurt when you squeeze your muscles, when you're focused on something else maybe you don't squeeze than.
If nothing helps, you can ask your general practitioner for a prescription for a muscle relaxer such as diazepam.
I know it's a bit scary to put something in your vagina in the beginning, but it has to, to keep it open, there is no alternative.
After all, you don't want to go to the surgeon again, do you?

I hope this will help you.
Keep on going the good work.

hugs
Annette

Quote from: Salome
lubricant just dry to fast and some times I can't relax enough as I get
scared every time
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Hi Salome,
I had surgery in London with a different surgeon and got the 6/7 inches and still got it.
I asked the surgeon about possibility of hurting myself or tearing the insides but he said the lining he put inside is really strong so you don't worry about tearing or hurting. 

Regarding the K-Y lubricant drying up I actually switched to Slik gel (Dont tell Mahsa the shark) which is a lot easier to use as it is in a pump dispenser and seems to keep slippery longer.

To relax the muscles just get comfortable and don't rush and put plenty of lubricant on and work it inside with a finger before trying to put the dilator in.

I use the 25mm dilator first to get things going.  did surgeon give you one this size or just bigger ones?

The doughnut cushion was necessary because the muscles ahd been stretched down so if you don't use a doughnut you are actually flattening the muscles and making your new vagina tight!   Start using the doughnut again!

Hi annette and lilacwoman

you all good and kind to reply
Today my dilation was  much better  I was Recommended some lubricant from  lady who had her surgery
done just over a year ago and it really work , so I'm buying myself a extra bottle tomorrow a the same
place where I got my today and where I also bough a great vaginal douche  which is same one you can view
in this video for only £19 on a store
a the west end in London   Douche

The lubricant I was recommended is also water based and is call lubrifist
which is especially designed for wide dilations and it really last so I'm glad
I manage to found something that make dilations more comfortable
today I try both of my dilators I was given a CX
but  I take my time but I manage work it out


Thank you girls once again for you advice

nice longer size douche but I do think that for a post-op a douche nozzle should have the holes right in the end rather than in the sides.