Hello, Thank you everyone that does respond to my post!!

I am begining the mourning stage of the loss of my husband. I have no idea where that person went, Jill does not look anything like what I am used to since I met her 9 years ago!! She is blossoming into a beautiful lady!! BUT my grieving process needs to let go of my husband and welcome Jill into my NEW life journey!! I am hurting pretty badly!! I HAVE TO LET MY HUBBY GO!! I want us to be happy and we both understand I must go through this and let certain parts of this person I married dye. It will take time!! i am not holding back on my emotions, if I must cry in devistation, I will, if I must be by myself to put all these physical changes of my spouse into prespective, I will. Jill understands this now and she is being a better friend/supporter. I hope we can get past this.. As long as we help eachother when the other is down..BUT wow I feel WAY WAY down right now...

I haven't logged in for a while, so sorry for not responding earlier.  I would have responded right away.

Take care of yourself, first and foremost.  Depression can be awful, and you and your spouse are going through an incredibly difficult time together, so it's easy to see how it could become emotionally exhausting.

I don't have a lot of good advice to give here.  But I do suspect there are plenty of things about your spouse which will stay the same too.  I won't say how you should or shouldn't handle this, but I will say that it's 100% okay to take care of yourself.