After a bit of confusion just prior to realising my problem was gender and not sexuality, I had a short relationship with a guy. Once I sorted things out and realised I was not a Bi man, but a woman, my sexual orientation swung back to women exclusively. I now consider myself to be a Lesbian, but with the possibility I could be attracted to Transmen or Intersex people as well. Men, even Bi are pretty much off the menu now though.
I still intend to have SRS as I want to be able to have a normal sex life as a Lesbian. I have had no real success dating so far though, due to a combination of the women on dating sites never being able to commit to more than a couple of emails (typical of sites) and taking a while to be accepted in my new town. If you see yourself as a woman, then you cannot consider other transwomen as other than women too. It's a pretty simple equation, woman + woman = Lesbian relationship.
Meeting other women seems to be a popular topic on Lesbian sites, and in magazines, so you are not the only one in this situation. Being older, the club scene is not really appealing, so I am trying other avenues like women's sport. Roller Derby seems to attract a high number of lesbian fans, so that is a good place to start.
I think it is probably better to out oneself as a Lesbian, then if things progress see how being trans is handled. Pretty much how the straight girls handle the situation. I figure that confessing that I have no experience as a woman should be fairly appealing to anyone who is interested.
Karen.
