I have always liked women. But since I have come out I seem to be becoming more and more attrated to men? Will I stop liking women? Why the change. I have never found men attractive till now!

You might have always been into men and your transition is merely justification for that.

I don't think so, if I liked men as a guy I would just stay a guy, why go through all the trouble of transitioning. I don't need justification to like what I like. But its all of a sudden.

+1 to this!

We need more HETERO women here... but I'll take BISEXUAL as well since you still like women

You are just a pervert and you need to see a psychiatrist. 

That wasn't very nice Fionabell! Why am I a pervert if I started liking men?

Quote from: MyAlias on December 29, 2011, 10:01:23 PM
That wasn't very nice Fionabell! Why am I a pervert if I started liking men?

She is just joking,

Welcome to the hetero world... or at least bisexual, heh

I've only liked men my entire life, but estrogen minus testosterone equaled "That guy smells gooooooooood" ... today I had to switch vehicles with a guy I work with and I had to get something out of the floorboard on the drivers side and I smelled him and found myself with my eyes closed for a split second and my mouth watering.

And it's not like I have a crush on him. He's a short, snobby know-it-all that gets pissy if anybody every disagrees with him.

Maybe because that's how we roll, as humans. Funny creatures, we are.

I've always dated men and almost always slept with men. I thought maybe when I transitioned I would like women more, or at least want to spend more time finding out. The opposite happened. The longer I'm on T and the more male I feel, the less interest I have in women.

Again, biology and sexuality are strange planes to occupy.

Quote from: MyAlias on December 29, 2011, 10:01:23 PM
That wasn't very nice Fionabell! Why am I a pervert if I started liking men?

I'm sorry. i like men too. Well I like their bodies and penis but not their head and what's in it

Quote from: fionabell on December 29, 2011, 10:39:39 PM
I'm sorry. i like men too. Well I like their bodies and penis but not their head and what's in it

Kia Ora Fiona,

With some men their penis 'is' their head, think about it 

Metta Zenda

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on December 29, 2011, 09:35:14 PM
You might have always been into men and your transition is merely justification for that.

Kia Ora Elle,
 
I'm inclined to agree with you...

Metta Zenda

Quote from: MyAlias on December 29, 2011, 09:34:39 PM
I have always liked women. But since I have come out I seem to be becoming more and more attrated to men? Will I stop liking women? Why the change. I have never found men attractive till now!

What we like depends on a lot of things, including when/how/why endorphins ("happy hormones") are released in the brain.

Sometimes I wonder how much hetero- and homosexuality are determined by internal wiring, as opposed to true "personal choice."

In the meantime...just go with it. Enjoy!

Quote from: Beth Andrea on December 29, 2011, 11:20:20 PM
In the meantime...just go with it. Enjoy!

This. If you like it, go with it. But if you are looking for a "why," letting loose an important part of your life can cause major changes, or reveal deeply hidden feelings. For example, for my job and just in general, I dress totally guy-like; jeans and a t-shirt. And I've always been uber casual, ever since I was first able to dress myself. I hated to get dressed up (still do, for guy stuff). But now that I am semi-openly trans, I looove getting dressed up in cute outfits. You'd be amazed at what changes can occur.

Quote from: MyAlias on December 29, 2011, 09:34:39 PM
I have always liked women. But since I have come out I seem to be becoming more and more attrated to men? Will I stop liking women? Why the change. I have never found men attractive till now!

Why don't you put money where your mouth is? Gimme an idea of what kind of man you find attractive by posting pictures in my other thread called "Post Your Idea of The Perfect Guy"!

A large amount of attraction is chemical so replacing testosterone with estrogen will allow you to be amendable to male sexual allure.

Surely? 

Quote from: MyAlias on December 29, 2011, 09:34:39 PM
I have always liked women. But since I have come out I seem to be becoming more and more attrated to men? Will I stop liking women? Why the change. I have never found men attractive till now!

Sounds like you've discovered the light coming through the closet door. Now move those christmas presents from 1998 and open the door and see the rainbows and the half naked twink on your bed.

It's amazing what bursts out of the toybox when you open the lid.
I have started to find men attractive, after considering myself to be a lesbian since starting transition, but I can't see a long term relationship.  I don't think it is possible to escape the power struggle that seems to be inherent in most  heterosexual relationships, but that's just  me.
Hormones are powerful and subtle, so I wouldn't rule out their involvement either in any change of orientation.
If the right person comes along and you get the fireworks and butterflies in the tummy, then all bets are off anyway!  Take care and have fun is all that matters really.

Karen.

Quote from: MyAlias on December 29, 2011, 09:34:39 PM
I have always liked women. But since I have come out I seem to be becoming more and more attrated to men? Will I stop liking women? Why the change. I have never found men attractive till now!

From a clinical point of view, I think it is a multiple of factors.

Relating from my own experience, I never found men as exciting as women.  From a physical aspect I could appreciate a muscular, well built man, like the image of DaVinci's "David", but I never felt any attraction to them.  Women's soft curves and tender skin always seemed magical to me.

Now...

I still consider myself lesbian and I am in a committed lesbian relationship, and I still find women alluring.

However, over the course of my transition and my time on HRT, I have found the male form to be interesting.  Very interesting.  The hard body and body hair that I found so disgusting on me, I find very sensual on men.

I have had intercourse with men and while the experiences were fun, did not live up to my expectations.  I won't go into the details, because they would be too salacious for this forum.  But think wam-bam-thank-you-mam...

But still the idea of men can still make my toes curl.

I personally think that as the cross hormone therapy changes our bodies, it also changes our brains.  It opens pathways within our most powerful sexual organ, the brain.  And, as I contend and more documentation shows, we have basically female brains to one extent or another, we become more hetero-normative.

Also from a social integration standpoint, as we transition to our proper place in society we allow ourselves the freedom to look at men in a new light.  When previously we may have been so closeted as to deny any thoughts of having sexual relations with men.

I personally think it is primarily a primordial sexual urge driven by our newly re-wired brains.  Because when I try to rationally imagine having a true on-going relationship with a man as a partner and husband, it all falls apart.  Realistically, no man would really want a woman like me.  Pushing 60, sterile, a family of my own, and oh by the way, I was born with a outdoor plumbing.  If he didn't have a problem with it, someone he knew would have a problem with it.  Either his family, or his friends, or whatever.  And that usually puts an end to it.

See Calperia Addams three steps to dating a man.  It's true.  There is no fourth date.

Bottom line is, accept and go on.  This is who we are.  And the one thing we have learned through this process is to allow ourselves to sit back and enjoy the ride.

-Sandy

Don't worry about it.  I sortta felt the same way for a while and ended up marrying a very nice guy.  You never know where you'll end up. Just go with the flow.

Chin up!
Cindi