I know this may sound like a stupid question, but twice in the past week I have been hit on by men who knew who I was.  The latest was last night.  We have a local trans forum.  When I signed on, a guy started in on me big time.  He was sending me pm after pm.  I answered the first one to be friendly, before I saw where this was headed.  He told me he was looking at my avatar and my gallery.  He told me where he works.  He gave me his cell #.  He told me:  "You are so hot!"  Then:  "I'll take you right now, babe!"   And on it went.  What a creep.  (That's why I like Susan's better.)

Just out of curiosity, does anyone know why someone who identifies as straight would want to chase T-girls?  I have my opinions, but I'd like to know yours.

Kristi

Closet cases mostly. I could use vulgar language and the like in regards to what they want, instead I will simply say they want you to be as unladylike in the bedroom as possible, but look like one. It's sad really, because I know many cute gay guys that go dateless. Then again, I wouldn't wish these creeps on anyone.

-- Bridget

Most are creeps, a few are curious, some may even be in the closet. Most of the guys at my work also know my BF and back way off, he's 6'2" 250lbs and not an ounce of fat on him  > The funniest thing is some of the other women at work drool over him and sneer at me...

You're lucky. Even as an androgyne or whatever the heck I am, I get the creeps. Then again so does my sister, so I guess all the non-masculine members of my family must be creep magnets. 

-- Bridget

I will respond via PM.

tink

Ehm..
Well, this creep put aside..

Maybe there are some straight men who recognize the simple fact that you're a woman? I mean; it cán happen. Although I must say that behaving in such a fashion as you described is just...

Yuck.

Hey Kristi! You're so hot, let me give you my cell...just trying to make you feel at home!  >

Seriously, I have no idea why anybody does anything the way they do anymore! Well, I have a hypothesis: Men that behave that way are clearly desperate or they wouldn't behave that way. I know plenty of men that are respectful and gentlemanly,and they are not desperate (big surprise, there!)  I think these desperate guys are judging you by the very mistaken idea that transexual women are desperate and think that they actually have a chance!  You're best bet is not to be too nice (desperate men always take that as a sign of hope) and politely tell them you're not interested or simply ignore them altogether for their rudeness.  These guys are probably desperate for a reason. I assure you there are plenty of decent, non-desperate men out there than can appreciate you for being you. The trick is finding and identifying them, then catching them when they're not taken...ready your tackle box! >

Quote from: angelsgirl on March 29, 2007, 01:59:42 PM
Hey Kristi! You're so hot, let me give you my cell...just trying to make you feel at home!  >

Seriously, I have no idea why anybody does anything the way they do anymore! Well, I have a hypothesis: Men that behave that way are clearly desperate or they wouldn't behave that way. I know plenty of men that are respectful and gentlemanly,and they are not desperate (big surprise, there!)  I think these desperate guys are judging you by the very mistaken idea that transexual women are desperate and think that they actually have a chance!  You're best bet is not to be too nice (desperate men always take that as a sign of hope) and politely tell them you're not interested or simply ignore them altogether for their rudeness.  These guys are probably desperate for a reason. I assure you there are plenty of decent, non-desperate men out there than can appreciate you for being you. The trick is finding and identifying them, then catching them when they're not taken...ready your tackle box! >

A round of applause here 

Quote from: angelsgirl on March 29, 2007, 01:59:42 PM
Hey Kristi! You're so hot, let me give you my cell...just trying to make you feel at home!  >

I'm sure that this was the part Cindy was applauding.  LMAO!

Well, to clarify, I am not looking and not interested.  So I am certainly not tempted either.  And if I ever am, it certainly will not be with someone like that.  I did not know them personally.  They saw my online profile.  So yeah, they certainly must have been quite desperate.

My own working theory is that it is a way of exploring their own secret desires, trying to live them vicariously through someone else.  However, I do not want to get close enough to test out this theory.  Now I have no delusion that all men are out for the same thing.  I know plenty of respectful guys, and have been known even to be one at times.  

What really torqued me is that one of these guys who was calling was at work, on duty as an EMS dispatcher.  At the same time he was trying to score a ->-bleeped-<- touchdown, who know what emergency call he was ignoring.  Sounds like such a responsible individual.  NOT.  I would call him a scumbag, but then I would have to apologize to bags filled with scum.

Kristi

I really don't know what it is. I think that most of them are perfectly straight. But there is a curious aspect to this part of sexuality.  I think that this is why we are so vehemently hated among some religious groups. They are attracted to us and it scares the be "jesus" out of them!

Cindi

Quote from: Cindi Jones on March 29, 2007, 08:27:43 PM
They are attracted to us and it scares the be "jesus" out of them!

By god that has the pstench of rightness about it!

Karen (Ordained SubGenius UberWoman)(Stick THAT in "Bob"s pipe and smoke it)

As a rule I don't date people who knew I was trans before they expressed interest.

QuoteI would call him a scumbag, but then I would have to apologize to bags filled with scum.

ROFLMAO!

Point.

Set.

Match.

Well one of these creeps will not stop writing.  Always wanting to know what I am doing.  I know I should just use my spam filter to block his emails.  But last night he wrote me, "Hey babe what are you doing?"  I write him back "Cleaning my Uzi and doing some target practice."  Funny, he stopped writing.  We'll see if he resumes.

Kristi

OMG you are a scarey girl. Remind me not to try pick you up in a bar. LOL.

Kristi, if I told you of all the guys who vowed their dying love for me you'd laugh.  These guys are living in a dream world when on the Internet.  They use it to do what they don't have the guts to do in real life.  Let's face it, guy rules are pretty rigid and most guys are homophobic.  We represent a bridge to the gay world.  We look like women but we have the same plumbing as a man (at least for a while) so they choose to see us as women but deep down they want to experiment with a man.  Not all are like this but once I started telling my suitors I WILL have SRS they dropped off the face of the earth.

Most guys are "sex first, ask questions later".  That's their nature.  I wouldn't get bent out of shape about it, it's just the way they're made.

Julie

Quote from: Julie Marie on April 01, 2007, 11:43:44 AM

Most guys are "sex first, ask questions later".  That's their nature.  I wouldn't get bent out of shape about it, it's just the way they're made.

Julie

I was never like that even when I was drunk, I'm not a regular 'guy', though. 

Quote from: RebeccaFog on April 01, 2007, 02:45:28 PM

Quote from: Julie Marie on April 01, 2007, 11:43:44 AM

Most guys are "sex first, ask questions later".  That's their nature.  I wouldn't get bent out of shape about it, it's just the way they're made.

Julie

I was never like that even when I was drunk, I'm not a regular 'guy', though. 

Neither was I... I was just way too shy and I didnt believe in bugging anyone....
Heheheheh, now Im the one being bothered... idiots on yahoo... idiots on myspace who cant read... idiots at bars... though the ones at bars are the most tollorable... they may be drunk, but they know when to leave off and never come back...  Some of them are actualy pretty decent people 

Just watch out for the gay guys..  no offence to the gay populaton but some of them are more creepy than any straight guy... and because there gay, and they dont understand your TS not a DQ they are even more insessant and horrable than the most vulgar of the net peoples...  Atleast you can close a window on the net... IRL carry pepper spray.

One guy I knew who identified as straight but would date a T-girl did so because he might find the individual attractive and feel there is a connection.  finding guys like this can be difficult, but not impossible.  for the most part when I get hit on by a guy I just mention that I am transsexual and that is enough for them to run. 

Unbelievable.  He wrote me back and told me that "chicks with guns are so hot."  He then told me about his collection.  Maybe I deserved that.  Funny thing, I know who this guy is, through he has no idea who he is talking to.  Time to block his address.

Kristi