This girl and one of my used to be friends have always said really mean stuff to me and it always makes me want to kill myself. This girl commented on my picture on fb and said "your a girl not a guy js" so I blocked her. Well, she gets on my used to be friends fb and messages me saying "Heyyy this is ***** nice job at blocking me lmfao okay look u r a girl not a guy.. No one likes u but only a few nerds in life lmfao I would like u if u werent gay and if u werent sayin u were born a guy cause hunny iam tellin ya that if u sleep with **** which is a guy u have to have girl parts so u have girl parts not guy parts lolll u will make a cute couple u both ugly and dont try to say u go to church and that u love god.cause u cnt love him and go to church if ur gay lmfao enough said peace..." I'm emotionally, sexually, and romantically attracted to girls but I have trouble saying no to guys. I just thought I'd put that in there because her bringing up the time I slept with that guy upsets me because I just want to forget about it. I'm sorry but I just need to let out my feelings and my mom won't listen. How can I feel less upset about what she said?

Just realize that she is a complete loser.  She's the kind of girl who will probably get knocked up multiple times by multiple guys after high school (if she graduates) and then spend the rest of her life taking care of all these kids by herself probably on welfare and going from loser guy to loser guy.  Yet she'll live out the rest of her life still thinking she's better than everyone else.  I know several girls like this.  They're annoying as hell, but you've got to put them in perspective.  They're losers and they say stuff like that to make themselves feel better about it.  And she's only hounding you because when you don't respond, it doesn't give her the self-confidence high she's after.  Just keep ignoring her and know how much you're hurting her just by not responding.  She's like a leech-- trying to hurt you to make her feel good.  Don't let her hurt you and she's reduced to just being a pathetic little girl yelling ->-bleeped-<- at people who don't really care what she thinks and getting all upset when they ignore her.  And that's what she really is.

Thank you. And you're most likely right. Before I dropped out (I'm getting my GED because I couldn't take the bullying) everyone at the school wanted to give her the biggest skank award. She calls me a lesbian and everything and according to my used to be friend, the girl tried to kiss her so she has no room to talk. The last time the girl did this my best friend cussed her out and went off on her. None of the people who's bullied me is as mean as this girl is.

Sorry to hear that she turn nasty, and she not much of a friend.....the best bet is just to move on and forget about her. I had a few who use to be good friend turned nasty on me.

Think about it this way, she envies you because you are secure within yourself and she is not.  Why else would she go through all the red tape just to use that other person's account just to talk to you?  I can tell you from the side of being a bully and have been a bully.  You must really be on her mind a lot for her to continually put you down.  It's just overcompensating for something else lacking in her life.  That's the reason I bullied people.  I say just block her old friend and change your account settings to private if they are already not on there and lets face it.  It will only take you about 20 seconds to block someone while it will take her maybe about 3-5 minutes just to find another account to get on another account to find you.  Someone has to get tired eventually.

Yeah, she seems like your pretty typical stupid young person. I'll bet that in the next five years she'll be a lot more mature. I used to get people saying ->-bleeped-<- like that and now that I look back I can laugh, because I have more going for me than every single one. My life has gotten so much better for being myself, both in terms of mental health/emotional balance, and in terms of actual measurable 'success.'

All I have to say is that in general people try to pick on others when they want to make themselves feel better.  After all, it seems like she is going out of her way to talk to you, so it's obviously not that "nobody likes you."   My vote is tell her to get back to you when she grows up.  From the bit you posted I definitely know which one of you guys I'd rather hang out with.

Quote from: Devin87 on January 14, 2012, 10:15:37 AM
Just realize that she is a complete loser.  She's the kind of girl who will probably get knocked up multiple times by multiple guys after high school (if she graduates) and then spend the rest of her life taking care of all these kids by herself probably on welfare and going from loser guy to loser guy.  Yet she'll live out the rest of her life still thinking she's better than everyone else.  I know several girls like this.  They're annoying as hell, but you've got to put them in perspective.  They're losers and they say stuff like that to make themselves feel better about it.  And she's only hounding you because when you don't respond, it doesn't give her the self-confidence high she's after.  Just keep ignoring her and know how much you're hurting her just by not responding.  She's like a leech-- trying to hurt you to make her feel good.  Don't let her hurt you and she's reduced to just being a pathetic little girl yelling ->-bleeped-<- at people who don't really care what she thinks and getting all upset when they ignore her.  And that's what she really is.

Exactly this.
Especially for her to have gone out of her way to get onto someone elses account and say that stuff, shows her malicious attitude toward doing things to hurt others. We can say dont let it get to you, as she just sounds ridiculous and isnt worth your time (which is true), but I understand that still, its gonna hurt and gie you abit of a knock for those words to be said to you. Just remind yourself of the positives that you need to focus on, not the negatives, like her words, that bring you down. There will always be people like that unfortunately, either those that are plain stupid, spiteful, ignorant or self righteous. For her to say that anything negates your position of believing in God or going to Church, is stupid. Who made her judge? It frustrates me when people try to use religion to brand things as wrong. Im a Christian and have know many Christians who arent phased by homosexuality etc. Its not ammunition to use against others, it just makes other people with Faith look bad, so it just reflects on her own Christianity or atleast, highlights her ignorance.

Im sure youre trying to, but just try not to involve or deal with her anymore, she sounds like someone who needs to be cut out completely from your mind and efforts!

She sounds like she has problems. You should offer to be her friend. Your sound and well.. the more she tries to attack you.. should show you... just how much she is hurting. Please try to reach out to her and let her know you know she is hurting. Do it privately of course.. Many homophobes are really in the closet as you know about her kissing that girl friend of yours.. Be a man and reach out. Don't let anything people say hurt you because well it shouldn't. Your not weak like her. You just curious why this girl is acting the way she is.. hugs D

Just call her the C word and you'll never hear from her again.

Do not respond to her at all.  That will be giving her what she wants.  Report her and all the other people's pages she uses to contact you. 

She's only attacking you for her own insecurities. Her actions say a lot more about her than about you. You are way more deserving of respect than she is, in this situation at least.

You should really get counseling, or take up meditation, or go do ayahuasca in the woods, or start journaling, or something to help you deal with your miseries, though.

She's insecure - feels the need to hurt others in order to feel in control.  Also there will be something about you that threatens her.  So says my Dilemma Genie.  I always laugh at people like that because they're so transparent.  She isn't worth the worry, mate.  Maybe next time she says something, tell her "thank you!" and how much she's made your day as she obviously can't get enough of you to stay away

She's nothing more than a bully, and bullies aren't worth your time. Every time she messages you or tries to contact you, erase it(don't even read it, really) and block her. If she talks trash to your face, smile, keep your chin up and walk away. Drama, for the most part, will die faster if you avoid adding fuel to the fire with a negative reaction.

If it comes down to it and the harassment is too much, make a new Facebook, block her and any accounts she's used to contact you. Only add people you -trust- not to inform her of this account.

There will always be jerks out there who want to mess with you, simply because they feel entitled to. If you react violently or become emotional and try to bite back, they get some sort of thrill out of it and continue. But if you're able to keep your cool, breathe, and walk away from it, people will see that you're the bigger person and the abuser will eventually move on to someone else.

Surround yourself with supportive, true friends. People who won't play childish mind games like this with you. It'll be really good for your overall health to have positive people in your life. Trust me, dude, you will make it through with a lot less stress if you can find positive influences.

Good luck, mate.

To be honest she is not worth your time. I would ignore her and not let her get to you.
And in your picture you remind me of a very young Misha Collins.

Well, first of all, that chick is a complete b  tch.
Second, just keep her blocked and don't respond, she's obviously just a bully trying to invoke a reaction. Block other accounts she gets on to also, just don't let her communicate with you at all. If you see her in public places, also ignore her, and if you have too much of her not leaving you alone there then just leave the place you're in and go somewhere else.

Quote from: NathanW on January 15, 2012, 09:55:50 PM
Misha Collins

damn, can't go anywhere without stumbling over the guy these days

[sorry i had to, btt]

Quote from: Clay on January 18, 2012, 01:45:58 PM
damn, can't go anywhere without stumbling over the guy these days

[sorry i had to, btt]

Haha he is quite popular. 

Don't let someone that can't spell or even form proper sentences let you feel down about yourself. However, you need to learn to say no to guys, man. Respect yourself; you deserve it.