I was reading the objectification=passing thread and i was thinking if it isn't too vulgar there's nothing wrong with flirting, but i live almost live a hermit in the first two months of 2012, i have only gone out twice and not in very social situations. Just rush through where i need to go as fast as i can without dealing with people i don't need too.

I was thinking of going to social places where american's hang out (i live in Singapore and in Singapore men ARE really short and like their women petite i.e short and preferably asian which i'm not). I am 5'11 so living here makes me feel lonely, i was thinking of going to some clubs and social area's where American's hang out, i can't really decide on my own and would like opinions from you guys , please be honest but not too harsh. Let me know if it's a great idea, if i'm not pretty enough and shouldn't risk it or overall it's a stupid idea and just a waste of time.

- DonnaTroy (sorry if this is posted in the wrong place)

Yes! Definitely get out and have yourself a great time!

Americans abroad tend to be obnoxious, but open-minded.

Definitely you need to get out! There are plenty of people out there interested in us romantically.... and even if you don't find your dream guy the first time out... maybe you will get some more friends and hang out and have fun

QuoteAmericans abroad tend to be obnoxious, but open-minded.

True but open-minded is good isn't it? Do you girls think i look good enough for guys (or girls ) to be interested in me enough to talk to me or flirt with me?

Yeah, there shouldn't be any problem and it should be good for you!  The first time I really went out to a club after going full-time I got picked up by a girl, so I don't see why you shouldn't have a similar experience because, from what I can tell, you're better looking than I am.

Sweetie, from your photo you are plenty attractive--and passable enough.  However, I was somewhat surprised to read that you are 5' 11".  Your face in the picture and your shoulder width give the impression that you are petite.  Nonetheless, if the picture looks anything like you, you have absolute nothing to worry about.

I love flirting.  I think it may even may even be much a part of our nature.

QuoteSweetie, from your photo you are plenty attractive--and passable enough.  However, I was somewhat surprised to read that you are 5' 11".  Your face in the picture and your shoulder width give the impression that you are petite.  Nonetheless, if the picture looks anything like you, you have absolute nothing to worry about.

That's the second time, people assumed i'm short lol., i'm true 5'11" i think it's the ugliest thing to be so believe me i'm not lying. Thanks like i've said before the picture is very good gauge of how i look.

Not only you should, but you MUST go out. Living isolated is not good, be your true self! Be proud!

Quote from: Bird on March 16, 2012, 03:05:32 PM
Not only you should, but you MUST go out. Living isolated is not good, be your true self! Be proud!

but do you think i'm passable/attractive enough to pull it off?!

That is besides the point Donna. The important thing for you is to interact with people, only after that you will have enough self-steem to know you pass and not need to ask here in the forum. We could bludgeon a "you pass" inside your brain, but you will only know it after meeting people and living.

And if you are clocked once in a while, it is no big deal either. Just be mindful to not go into dangerous places, because you are a woman.

I think with such low self esteem you need to be extremely careful. It is easy for a guy to exploit that and use you.

Maybe try getting out (not to pick up guys) and get more comfortable with who you are?

I just want to be pretty so guys will like me and flirt a little to make me feel like a normal lady, rather than go out and be a mess.

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I think with such low self esteem you need to be extremely careful. It is easy for a guy to exploit that and use you.

What do you mean by exploit and use me?!

QuoteI just want to be pretty so guys will like me and flirt a little to make me feel like a normal lady, rather than go out and be a mess

Help please, sorry if i'm being pushy.

Although you look to have a very sweet nature and would seem to have some self-esteem problems, I don't see such a likelihood of your being taken advantage of if you  stick to your limits (remember you only want to flirt a little) and stay in control.  Just be as up front and honest about what your looking for at this point in time and absolutely stick to to that.  I do think that it could be quite dangerous for you to pick up any guy presently--even if he appeared to be the nicest guy in the world.  Sit at the bar, have a drink or two, get to know each other, etc.   From what we all can see here you are far from a mess.  Many men love tall women.  Look at Brooke Shields.  Many fashion models are very tall.  Don't let anyone get you in a place where your safety is at risk in exchange for their approval(?)! Know this sweetheart: there are men out who can sense weakness the way a  shark can smell blood in the water and who WILL seek to exploit and take advantage of that.

Quote from: DonnaTroy on March 16, 2012, 10:25:12 AM
I was reading the objectification=passing thread and i was thinking if it isn't too vulgar there's nothing wrong with flirting, but i live almost live a hermit in the first two months of 2012, i have only gone out twice and not in very social situations. Just rush through where i need to go as fast as i can without dealing with people i don't need too.

I was thinking of going to social places where american's hang out (i live in Singapore and in Singapore men ARE really short and like their women petite i.e short and preferably asian which i'm not). I am 5'11 so living here makes me feel lonely, i was thinking of going to some clubs and social area's where American's hang out, i can't really decide on my own and would like opinions from you guys , please be honest but not too harsh. Let me know if it's a great idea, if i'm not pretty enough and shouldn't risk it or overall it's a stupid idea and just a waste of time.

- DonnaTroy (sorry if this is posted in the wrong place)

You look like a cis girl to me, go out and have fun!!!

Quote from: DonnaTroy on March 16, 2012, 10:25:12 AM
I was reading the objectification=passing thread and i was thinking if it isn't too vulgar there's nothing wrong with flirting, but i live almost live a hermit in the first two months of 2012, i have only gone out twice and not in very social situations. Just rush through where i need to go as fast as i can without dealing with people i don't need too.

I was thinking of going to social places where american's hang out (i live in Singapore and in Singapore men ARE really short and like their women petite i.e short and preferably asian which i'm not). I am 5'11 so living here makes me feel lonely, i was thinking of going to some clubs and social area's where American's hang out, i can't really decide on my own and would like opinions from you guys , please be honest but not too harsh. Let me know if it's a great idea, if i'm not pretty enough and shouldn't risk it or overall it's a stupid idea and just a waste of time.

- DonnaTroy (sorry if this is posted in the wrong place)

If that's your real pic Donna? all I can say is wow!

Quote from: DonnaTroy on March 16, 2012, 11:26:12 AM
True but open-minded is good isn't it? Do you girls think i look good enough for guys (or girls ) to be interested in me enough to talk to me or flirt with me?

You look awesome,like a pretty cis girl.i wish I had half your looks.
You go out and have fun now!

Quote from: Siobhan on March 17, 2012, 09:09:39 AM
You look awesome,like a pretty cis girl.i wish I had half your looks.
You go out and have fun now!

Absolutely right Siobhan! That's what I was trying to say about Donna! she doesn't know how lucky she is!

Quote from: Naturally Blonde on March 17, 2012, 09:43:17 AM
Absolutely right Siobhan! That's what I was trying to say about Donna! she doesn't know how lucky she is!

I know lol..