Rhonda,
You need to level with your Doctor. There is nothing worse for a health care professional than undisclosed medical information. To be honest with you, your Doc is probably worried about you right now, as you have unexplained weight loss and hormonal imbalance (as far as he knows, that's the case).
As far as he's concerned, you could have anything from androgen insensitivity developing to a hormone based cancer of some sort. The worry about the muscle loss, bone loss and lack of male performance - those are the natural consequences of low T. The E would be maintain the bone mass though, but he doesn't know that you've been taking it.
If you don't feel comfortable with this Doctor, then go and see someone else who is TG friendly.