I'm sorry to hear this, Elijah.  I second trying to funnel your energy into something and to not dwell all of the time on this.  Heartache sucks, but dwelling all of the time won't let you have the ability to eventually move on.


-hugs-  I really am sorry. 

Hey Elijah, so sorry to hear about this!

But as everyone else has said, you're not worthless, and don't ever let anyone make you feel that way! You're an amazing guy, and though it might not feel like it right now, this pain will pass and things will be great again before you know it!

Hang in there dude, and remember that we're all here, and we all care for you! <3

Hey man...I don't have much to add, other than when I went through something similar, the biggest thing that helped me in the short term after the breakup was distractions. Watch movies/TV, play video games, work out, see friends, anything to keep your mind off of it. At first you will really have to try hard to concentrate on other things and act happy, but with time I promise it gets easier. I'm really sorry you're going through this right now. We're all here for you, keep your chin up! (hugs)

You're not worthless, dude. For whatever reason, he doesn't want to be with you anymore. Fine. Breakups happen, though they suck. You are not worthless. You are a good person with much to offer the world, and if he doesn't love that, then whatever. Sucks for him.

However, you took a big risk and moved away from something more stable, and I think that this guy owes you a serious discussion and a bloody APOLOGY on this matter. It's one thing to end it with a partner by way of letter, it's another thing entirely if you -live- with that person and had them come to YOU. He owes you respect and help in finding out what you're going to do now.

Give your cat a hug, take a deep breath, and remember that we're all here for you, man.

thanks everyone, and he and I have talked about it and we parted ways peacefully, but we are both really sad

Quote from: Elijah on April 17, 2012, 07:50:49 PM
thanks everyone, and he and I have talked about it and we parted ways peacefully, but we are both really sad

Are you sure you're okay, dude?
You seemed really torn up about it the other day.

Well, either way, if you ever need anyone to talk to, I'd be more than happy to offer my support.
I'm sure everyone else here would too, but I just figured I'd say it first.
Lulz.

ohh I am still beyond torn up, probably feel worse then i did when I posted that, I just wanted his name to be cleared a little because he wasnt mean or angry with me.

Quote from: Elijah on April 17, 2012, 09:14:09 PM
ohh I am still beyond torn up, probably feel worse then i did when I posted that, I just wanted his name to be cleared a little because he wasnt mean or angry with me.

I'll put my pitchfork back in the barn then for the next lynch mob...


You know, hot cocoa always makes me feel warm inside.  (Or whiskey, but I don't think that'll help in this situation.)  Have you had any hot cocoa yet?

Quote from: Elijah on April 17, 2012, 09:14:09 PM
ohh I am still beyond torn up, probably feel worse then i did when I posted that, I just wanted his name to be cleared a little because he wasnt mean or angry with me.

Just an update for the past two days I've took my bat and took the whack at the rotton tree for you like I said.  It looks like a circumsied birdy.

Quote from: Elijah on April 17, 2012, 09:14:09 PM
ohh I am still beyond torn up, probably feel worse then i did when I posted that, I just wanted his name to be cleared a little because he wasnt mean or angry with me.

Well, I hope you feel better, Elijah.
I know this can be hard so best of wishes.

Quote from: Epi on April 17, 2012, 09:22:18 PM
I'll put my pitchfork back in the barn then for the next lynch mob...

Fine. I'll put mine back too. -_-

Quote from: Elijah on April 17, 2012, 09:14:09 PM
ohh I am still beyond torn up, probably feel worse then i did when I posted that, I just wanted his name to be cleared a little because he wasnt mean or angry with me.

Take care of yourself man. I second Epi's suggestion of comfort something. I usually pig out on Thai when I am upset. If you are a sad/emotional drunk, stay away from the booze. I tend to be a happy one, but, I wouldn't risk it if you are hurting a lot.