When i went to choose a name, I looked at names that were being used to name girls in the year of my birth (1969). I wanted mine to be appropriate for my age. Aubrey was still a newer name for girls then, so it was a little unusual. (It's origins are male, and there are still men named Aubrey today.... go figure). And it flows with my last name. So I kept going on with it in my head, and it made sense and felt right....
I was not going to have a middle name, but when i was filling out the name change paperwork, I suddenly thought of my mom, who is still having some problem with this. (Still a lot of guilt, still not really wanting to lose her son, but still loves me very much). So I called her up and asked her if it would be ok to take her name as my middle name, as an homage to her. She was very touched and cried a little (happy, not sad). So suddenly, I was Aubrey Patricia. 🙂