Donna I'm sure you heard this before but you really have to stop externalizing your low self esteem and need for approval on just random people on the street. People stare because curiously enough, they're interested in their surroundings. Until you deal with this, you will continue to feel unhappy and insecure even if you lived in translandia, transiztan.

Lotsa tall girls in the States.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 19, 2012, 05:28:18 PM
I was walking down Bourbon Street with my mom, being touristy, and some random person shook my hand for no reason, just as a welcome.

Are you sure they weren't just trying to steal your watch?


I prefer tiny towns way more than cities.  And where I live, being a little tall as a woman is nothing, plenty of us around.

QuoteAre you sure they weren't just trying to steal your watch?

Funny, even though this is not aimed at me obviously...i would have never thought that lol.

QuoteDon't worry your pretty little head, Donna.  Any stares you may get will be from guys, and then you will get a smile and maybe a phone number.

I never expected so many replies and such mixed feelings, but i feel i need to ask this. Am i pretty still in these pics or do i look odd? this is how i look most of the time. Will people in San Francisco find me odd?




Please don't get mad at me or flame me.

Quote from: DonnaTroy on May 19, 2012, 08:57:57 PM
Funny, even though this is not aimed at me obviously...i would have never thought that lol.

I don't trust people that aren't very close friends that try to touch me.

Donna, SF is my town!!

trust us when we say nobody will look at you other than to admire your beauty!! I can not begin to explain that you will have zero issues here unless you create them yourself

You could even have a job here and wouldnt have to explain a thing, just blend right in with the rest of us!!!

Donna, you are a pretty girl.  You will have no problems here in the States.  Unless men falling all over themselves is a problem.

Quote from: DonnaTroy on May 19, 2012, 07:25:48 AM
I don't know if i'm going to get any gruff from this, i live in Singapore where being different means you get the "I hate you and everyone that looks like you" as the stereotypes go "Asian Stare". Which i get a lot to the point i don't want to go out of the house at all, next year (which has nothing to do with this) i'm moving to San Francisco, i just want to know, are Americans the same, do they stare are people a lot or do they mind their business, as a trans girl who is 5'11 i am very conscious of myself sadly and some help would be nice , thanks.

I don't know what it's like in Singapore.. but Im betting you'll find people in San Fransisco are pretty agreeable. Have you been there before? It's a beautiful city. If you venture into the bible belt of the United States, you'll find probably less agreeable people.

"Do Americans stare?"

Sometimes, it's hard to tell.

No, you don't look odd. You look sad, and maybe tired, but not really odd.

pretty? hehe.

Donna,

You look great. Don't worry about it, you will take SF by storm. Just make sure you can give the cute guys your phone number, and then expect lots of texts asking you out.

Donna.  I wouldn't worry about a thing. You're a gorgeous girl. I'm 5'10" and not worried about my heigth anymore. I used to be, but when women began to compliment me on my heigth, I became more at ease and embraced it.

To me you're a woman. Just be yourself, and grace us with your presence here in the States. Welcome.

Monica.

i hope my new ava is pretty, thanks for all the replies

why would anyone be worried abou being 5"10 lol  . some of the best looking supermodels/ runway models are like 6'2 .

Another pretty accepting place is Toronto; I'm thinking of moving there next year.

Donna, like others have said, you look great.  Your height won't get you noticed in the USA.  Although you are on the tall side, you are not really, really tall.  You are still in the height range of many, many gg's.

Other than that, there has been so much good advice already that I can't add much to this...

Best wishes to you!   

Thanks i just want to know if i'm pretty/pass so that i know i won't have that as a problem.

Quote from: DonnaTroy on May 20, 2012, 08:32:53 AM
Thanks i just want to know if i'm pretty/pass so that i know i won't have that as a problem.

I wish I had your looks.  You are pretty and will blend ( hate "pass" ) and I think the only reason you got stared at is you are tall in an Asian Country/City.  Asians stare at tall people because they don't seem to grow tall.  Here tall women are not all that uncommon.  In fact that is a gal at school who is over 6'.

I am 5' 10" and older (58).  I never get stared at.   As we say here you are "drop dead gorgeous" (this is a very good thing).

Donna, I'm going to be honest. I've been quite annoyed with how low your self esteem is.

I promise you life gets so much easier when you stop caring what others think of you.

Furthermore, I pass pretty much all the time unless somebody outs me. People still stare at me, mostly men. Yet every stranger that I've somehow been outed to has been absolutely shocked and confused. Almost EVERY SINGLE FEMALE will have a guy stare at them if they're doing something right

Get over your fear of being looked at. You're tall, so the hell what. Move to the states if you want to blend in among taller girls, I can actually understand that. But I do get so frustrated when you get on here almost every day in worry about whether your appearance is passable or not. We keep telling you that you are, and truth be told, this girl that passes 95%+ of the time wishes she had many of your features.

Give me my first thumbs down if you think I deserve it, but it was worth saying what I just said. Donna, ILY and can understand where you're coming from, but please listen to everybody on the board. You pass. End of question. No need to keep asking. If you don't, it's your lack of self esteem and fear of actually looking somebody in the eye.

Quote from: Jaime on May 19, 2012, 08:27:39 PM
Are you sure they weren't just trying to steal your watch?

Lol! I'm positive. Bourbon Street is probably the safest party street in the US. There's 2 cops on nearly every corner every night.

Quote from: DonnaTroy on May 20, 2012, 08:32:53 AM
Thanks i just want to know if i'm pretty/pass so that i know i won't have that as a problem.

Yes you look pretty, yes you look like you are a born female.  I understand why you suffer from low self confidence now; you are a lot taller than average for where you live.  Trust me though, if you do move to the USA (Expect a similar populace in Canada where I live), you will have no trouble blending in at all.

People will likely take notice still; you are pretty.  I doubt anyone will actually stare at you once you move though-its considered rude to stare, especially if the person you are staring at is aware of it! 

If guys are staring, they probly have the hots for you, or are intimidated, if they are very short.  Or the short guys may wish they were taller so they coud date you- who knows?  Lol

Anyway, I would be very happy if I looked like you and have doubts that I will turn out okay looking after hrt.  And I am very short.  I thought I was 5'4", but my Dr. Recently measured me to be 5'3.5"?? Guess I shrunk.  My point is, height isn't everything.  I think voice and face are much more important and right now I have neither. 

I hope you are, or will be really glad to be you.  I can't say much about anything else about you, because I don't know you personally.  As far as the physical goes, you've got it going on girl!

I just wanted to add one thing in this edit:  If I could have a face as feminine and attractive looking as yours, but it meant growing to be 5'10" tall...I would do it without hesitation.