Quote from: Jeneva on May 31, 2012, 09:26:57 AM
Around here words like dude and guys are generic too.  Now I haven't heard buddy used for women much though.

Only when quoting South Park!

"See you later, buddy!"
"I'm not your buddy, guy!"
"I'm not your guy, friend!"
"I'm not your friend, buddy!" etc

So maybe it's a Canadian thing 

Considering how Randy the American Idol judge calls even the cutsie teen girls "Dude", "Dawg", "Man"  and what ever else he can think of, I wonder if its just those words are so much of the English lexicon anymore

However, in your language and by how you you are taking it, it appears to mean just how it sounds...just be up front with him, that might do the trick

Quote from: MariaMx on May 29, 2012, 03:14:05 PM
A year and a half ago I became friends with a guy on a guitar forum and yesterday we met for the first time in person when he came over to check out my home studio since he is interested in learning more about that kind of thing and maybe record some music with me. While we were talking online a few weeks ago the subject of being trans came up after the news of Laura Jane Grace of Against Me! broke, and stupid me confided in him that I was trans. He was totally cool with it and had no problem with it, but now all of a sudden he has started to refer to me as buddy and dude and such and it is totally messing me up. All of a sudden my self confidence is shot to pieces and I'm totally paranoid and wondering if I'm completely self delusional

He's calling you 'dude' and 'buddy' on purpose now he knows your trans to wind you up!  he's not trying to work with it, he's probably poking fun at you which isn't very nice.

I can totally relate to your situation, cause it's happening to me at the moment.
I really like this guy and he knows I'm transitioning and since we used to work together we go out to the pub quite alot.
Thing is, when he text messages me, he seems to use buddy quite a lot, and quite franky it upsets me. It purely is a male to male lingo, and I fear it comes from his fear itself. I'd really like him to be comfortable around me, as I'd hate to think that I'd make anyone uncomfortable, let alone someone I care about.

Point is I am going to tell him the next time we catch up. I think it is the type of conversation that needs to be done face to face because it is an emotional one for me. And I'd really like to gauge his reaction to double check that there's no malice behind it.

If it upsets you, you must say something. Life is too short and too difficult on itself, to add obstacles in the way

Love Jenny


Oxoxo