Quote from: Ell on April 28, 2007, 06:30:17 PM
i just got back from my first therapy session. The therapist said i should start growing my hair and maybe buy a wig until it grows out.

Hmmm... be careful, a therapist really isn't supposed to be telling you what you "should" and shouldn't do - especially after just one session. I do think it's great you know what you want and need to do, but just be sure this therapist is treating you with the depth and seriousness you deserve.

QuoteMy God! i'm really a knock-out in my self-image, but the mirror says otherwise, & casting shadows of reality on my dreams.

<-- Oh don't I know it - in MY mind, I look like her.

In other people's eyes (aka "reality")... not so much

~Kate~

Quote from: Jillieann on April 28, 2007, 11:11:31 PM
Ell do you mean your therapist has already [decided] you are a TS?
Or what?
Jillieann

Well, I won't presume to put words in her mouth, but I think she thinks that I have waited long enough to take a few preliminary steps.

Quote from: Kristi on April 28, 2007, 09:56:39 PM
I am kind of skeptical about therapists who are that directive. 

Well, i didn't know where to start or what to do, and i wanted to have the therapist's guidance every step of the way, so at the end of the session, i asked her "what can i do to get started?" and took out a pen and paper to take notes. As she only gave me a couple of suggestions, as noted, i added a few of my own.
so far i have:
1) shaved
2) decided to let my hair grow out
3) shaved my underarms (it was great!)
4) shaved my legs and bikini area (which was good, 'cause the biknii area can get kinda bodacious)
5) did a full aerobic work-out, with warm-up, stretching and crunches
6) danced (danced!) to Chevelle's "Don't Fake This"


 

Quote from: Ell on April 29, 2007, 05:50:43 PM
Well, I won't presume to put words in her mouth, but I think she thinks that I have waited long enough to take a few preliminary steps.

Towards...?

Did you and your therapist decide to begin a transition?

~Kate~

OK, i'm the one beating around the bush aren't i?

a) yes, i think my therapist does believe i'm TS (i've always thought so)

b) yes, i am taking the first, cautious, tentative steps toward transition 

Thank you Ell for answering the question. I to am concerned that you therapist could decide with just one visit that you have GID. Although I understand your relief and the wilingness to proceed are you sure you are TS?
Concered,
Jillieann

Hi Jillieann,

i don't think i will have an official, professional, documented authorization of whether i'm GID or TS or something else, until some future point.

on the other hand, it would've very disappointing for me if my therapist hadn't given me something to work with. My inner girl is just screaming to get out!!!! What did you all come away with after your first visit? Weren't you, also, looking for at least some kind of relief?

i felt that my therapist made me realize just how extremely difficult (and mortifying) this process can be. But also, she called me by my girl name, and that almost made me cry.

Quote from: Ell on April 29, 2007, 10:30:57 PM
But also, she called me by my girl name, and that almost made me cry.

Awl... wonderful, isn't it? When someone recognizes that you actually EXIST?

~Kate~

Quote from: Kate on April 29, 2007, 10:46:53 PM
Awl... wonderful, isn't it? When someone recognizes that you actually EXIST?

~Kate~

Yeah. It was a pretty hard day. But it was sweet.

Hi Ell,
In my first session I found someone I could talk to and share my inter-feelings.
He help me realize my feelings were valid and that I was not crazy.
Jillieann

Fears are rough task masters if you let them be.
Being honest and open can eliminate many fears.
Do look to the future with anticipation instead of fear.
Hugs,
Jillieann