Im hoping this is the right place to post this, i really really am but i need to ask someone because im having a very hard time with this. I myself am gender queer but i have alot of gender queer and trans friends primarily it just kinda happens that way because they are all awesome people. I have a thing for being attracted to people as people and just people i dont need to put any other labels or connotations on things. While this is mostly great im currently having a bit of an issue, i have this amazing transgendered friend hes really great down to earth intelligent blah blah blah, but hes gay or homoflexible as hes stated but pretty much gay. Problem is i think im crushing on him, im not trying to hes just a very attractive and awesome well rounded person but i dont want to make him uncomfortable because our friendship means so much more to me then any stupid chemical reaction i have telling me im attracted to him. Im afraid though that its making me act different around him and i dont want him to realize im attracted to him and feel awkward or guilt about it because he doesnt feel the same. He is already going through so much and id rather just be able to support him through that. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make my brain stop being attracted to him? Or to at least find a way to not show that im attracted? im not actively trying to show it but im pretty sure there are moments i give myself away and then i try to play them off. i have no idea if it works or not . please help what should i do . and if this isnt the right place to post this i apologize please direct me as to where i should post it. thank you

Well I know from experience stuff like this is pretty damn hard to hide or get rid of. I think the best thing is just to take it for what it is, realize that he is gay and therefore it won't work out (I'm assuming that's why, based on what you said). Can't help who you like but you can acknowledge that it won't work out, and just let the butterflies be.

Thats the thing ive already accepted it wont work out. I don't see there ever being a possibility of being more but yet i cant seem to stop being attracted to him . Its really frustrating because i want to just be able to relax around him completely but im constantly trying to make sure im not giving away the fact im attracted . I don't understand how if i know there's no chance of more and i completely respect that my mind wont just let it go, and stop being attracted. Thank you for responding though it means alot, i just hate the fact i feel like i cant completely be there for him because of my own selfish thoughts going on in my own head and i respect him too much to ever tell him whats going on and mess up our friendship.

It's more than just knowing the chance isn't there though, it also means finding a happy place with that. Being attracted to someone doesn't mean you can't be there for them, or that you can't fully be just a friend.

Life is messy. People do their own things, and they mesh or don't mesh in whatever way the circumstances allow them to. This guy's doing his thing, and you're doing your thing, you just happen to have a few extra butterflies flying around. And you can't act on it, oh well. It is what it is. It's life. It's sort of paradox. Accept the messiness/complications, and it becomes extremely simple and straightforward.

thank you i like your way of explaining that.