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Started by Justin 21, June 28, 2012, 05:23:12 AM

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Justin 21

OK heres what's going on, most of you know I'm going out tomorrow night to my friends birthday, right so here's the trouble, I'm not on T yet but since starting my transition I've kinda started to "notice" my friend a little more. (in a non sexual way). what I'm saying is i have feelings for her. and want to be her boyfriend. I've never been in a relationship before, hell i haven't even kissed any one :embarrassed:. how can i tell her i have feelings for her?
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justmeinoz

Not having made much of a success of relationships when I was young I am hesitant to offer any advice, but here is my two cents worth. 
Perhaps you could hedge your bets a little and talk around the subject as if you were talking generally.  Sort of, how does she think you should approach a girl if you are interested, that sort of thing.   See how she reacts. 
Regardless, have a good time.

Karen.
"Don't ask me, it was on fire when I lay down on it"
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Darth_Taco

Personally, I first try to figure out what they might feel about me. If you go about that, keep in mind that she could be keeping her own feelings for you secret, so don't get discouraged if you can't get anything definitive. I also would try some light flirting and see how they respond (or let them know I'm interested if they wanna make the first move). Something like a slightly longer hug than usual, giving them a special smile, compliments to let them know how special they are ("You're so cute.", "I don't know what I'd do without you.", ect.), certain intimate (non-sexual) contact like playing with their hair or a shoulder rub, uh... it's really late so I don't really remember anything else @_@. Hopefully you get the idea :'P. Women tend to pick hints and body language pretty quickly so it should help :'P.

Then there's also just straight-up telling her that you have feelings for her. It's quick and to the point :'D. If she unfortunately doesn't share these feelings, don't get discouraged. Instead, be proud that you at least gave it a shot instead of leaving it at "what if?".
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Ashley

Talk to her like spend time with her one on one. Take her out to
Dinner. Compliment her sometimes above all don't make her
Feel uncomfortable when your doing it
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anibioman

how old are you, approximately? cause what you should do really depends on your age.

does your friend see you as a guy?

Justin 21

ok wish me luck tonight's the night 5 hrs to go :icon_flower: :icon_nervious:
oh anibioman i'm 21
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